For the men have you ever met a woman who tried too hard to be "down"? She might do some of the following: She's over the top with slang, dress a certain way, look at you crazy because she never knew you could like a certain kind of music and or activity? She nearly underminds who you are as a individual because she has pre-conceived notions. And, because she's a bit over the top and expected something different she decides to go with a sterotypical type of guy and or you can tell this would never work ?
I met a couple of grits(girls raised in the south) who did. Some were really into the slang and even getting cornrows in their hair. A couple were just open about their desire for black men so much, they wouldn't even look at white men again. I did not get lucky with them because I was not the guy they wanted. We simply kept things light. I knew a girl who dressed like Madonna. She dated a Mexican student. But she did not date black men like Madonna did. This was in 1991.