Are Men Appreciated? Ladies Your Thoughts.

That's nice homeskillet.

 

My situation was different my mom was a nurse who worked three to eleven so she had the mornings with but whenever she did overnights it was on my dad and he got help from grandmother since we lived in her house for the first seven years of my life. But to be honest my parents shared a lot or the responsibilities bit you're right my mom was the one to be called while I was in school but it was probably due to her schedule since she was off during school hours. She did a lot of the cooking and cleaning but my dad did all the yard stuff and home repairs and he was responsible for afterschool activity pick ups and he made sure we ate the food my prepared and made sure we bathed and did hw. My mom cared more but a lot of the responsibility was shared.

In this day and age bosses don't have to bend to worker demand. They hold damn near all the cards. And look in most emerging markets its women who get most of the manufacturing jobs for the reasons listed before. The are willing to work for cheaper. They don't negotiate as hard.

 

Thanks fam. She's a keeper thus far.

 

Hey buddy, how have you been? Most women I know and or have met or been friends with (in the western world) don't actually do that stuff for their man. Personally, I've never needed it, but I have dated women who wanted to do that stuff for me in other countries. I am too OCD to let someone mess with my stuff. Appreciation, in my opinion, is shown by not feeling entitled to a point that she acts like a princess instead of a queen, doesn't have an attitude problem, and just genuinely appreciates what is done for her.

In regards to other ways a woman can show appreciation, well that depends on the guy. For me, I am done with relationships, so I can't give you any examples.

 

Did your mom actually care more than your dad?

 

How old are they?

 

In regards to...?

 

Aww at the walnuts... and 32 is old *tosses gramps a walker*

I think that for some men, they might see the cleaning and grocery shopping as, "she's doing what a woman's supposed to do, but that doesn't show appreciation".

When does the woman's role or responsibility in taking care of her man end, and the appreciation begin?

I'm in the same boat though, agree that just being thoughtful counts for a lot.

 

Yeah. At the time I thought dad just didn't want to be a dad he had kids early and had to grow up quick but after talking to him lately I think duds was always living in constant fear. He grew up in abject poverty and I think it made him paranoid about losing everything. So as a result he was just insanely strict because he wanted us to stay out of trouble so it wouldn't cost him anything and he was alway obsessed with what neighbors thought so he always had to have us looking like the black brady bunch. We weren't all that close when I was a kid but its a lot better now.

 

Sounds like he cared just as much as mom. My father was strict. But, you realize the reason for it when you get older. When you are an adult talking to your father... you realize he is a completely different person than the man you thought he was. This is how things normally go. You are grown and out of the house. He doesn't have to worry about you in the same form he had to when you wee a kid or a teen. So, it's easier to see him for who he is.

 

People need to get over the gender role bs. No one owes you a fucking thing so when someone actually takes the time to do nice things for you you better appreciate it because everyone wont do that shit. The other day I mentioned I want to go to the beach a lot more this summer and you know what that beautiful pain in the ass did? She bought me swim shoes because she doesn't want my feet getting cut on rocks. I love that shit. She cares about my health and safety. I've been with enough girls to know that's not regular at least not for me so appreciate it a lot. I don't know how long this will last but I love the memories she's giving me.

 

Very true. There are some things im not over but I did always appreciate that he stuck around and kept a roof over my head. I know to most of you that's no big deal but seeing how so many Jamaican fathers just bounced and sent a check every once and awhile I did appreciate him stepping up.

 

The women you dated.

 

Mostly between the ages of 20 and 28. I have dated older women as well, but not often. I mentioned my preferences before and I tend to date within them. When I date outside of them I run into disaster.

 

20 to 28 ww from the US? Good luck with that fam lol

 

I've been good! How about you? :freehug:

I guess for me, it's just... I don't feel I have to. I mean, the guy now... we're not even official, not actually dating or anything, but I still do it. I see how stressed he is sometimes, and by myself having a more free schedule I just see that I can 'help' with some stuff so he can put his energy towards other things.

 

Oh, I thought you meant in my lifetime. As far as the U.S. goes, I have dated various age ranges. Each time it doesn't end very well. My preferences are not in the U.S. which is probably why it never works out. Most of my dating involved women in the east or middle east. With the exception of one relationship they were all quite wonderful.

 

Cool beans. You know me. I am far too OCD to allow anyone to do chores... unless I hire them. I always feel more comfortable if someone is paid to do a task. I am fine and thanks for asking. I am happy to hear that you are doing well, you deserve it.

 

*giggles* awww, too cute! I'm glad she's so good to you, it's well deserved

 

Hmm, I could use some cash, need a maid? :smt005

I think personally though, I'd trust someone doing it for free, because it's more likely that they'd have good intentions, compared to someone hired to do it and just see it as a way to make money.

I'm not exactly OCD, but I don't really like people doing things for me, because it's just not done the way I do it