Self-admiring men attract mates more easily, study finds

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20130530/in-dating-game-narcissists-get-the-girl

The study findings confirm what many experts have long suspected, said Jean Twenge, a professor of psychology at San Diego State University who has written about narcissism. "Narcissists are very good at initiating relationships," she said. "On first impression, they come across as confident and charming. The problems arise later on, when you realize that he doesn't actually care about you -- it's all about him."

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so tell me.....is he confident or is he a narcissist

 

These results seem a little obvious to me. Of course narcissistic men get the girl more often than not...they're extremely confident and that's an attractive quality. However, that doesn't make all confident men narcissists. The fact that people spent their time researching this is surprising to me.

 

^^^ and... vvvv

Absolutely co-sign 100%

 

You are certainly correct. Narcissistic men do come off as confident, but as their true personality unfolds, it's definitely arrogance.

I love a confident man...I find it incredibly attractive, but arrogance I'll do without.

 

confident men dont preach how great they are.....they tell you what they are gonna do and back it up....and or know they can back it up. it onkly have to be said once.

he preach so much ...he is not

 

Preach sista raider.
I for one am a confident man but narcissist is not in my blood.

 

It is good to be king. lol

 

This study isnt surprising because most people want what they can never have, confidence is exciting, and people like a challenge.

There's this woman at my job who says i'm arrogant but she likes this "swag" about me. I dont know what the hell she's talking about because i just focus on work mostly and it comes off as arrogant etc.

Basically, her perception of me being arrogant, self assured, etc; makes me more attractive to her because she continues to flirt.

 

Then I must be a weird woman.
To me men who have a "normal" level of self confidence,and maybe a little insecurity or 2 about something specific come off a lot more interesting to me,more realistic and humane.

 

When I tried to get at you on blackplanet.com back in the day you straight rejected me but your friends list was full of studs.

 

This reminds me of what Boggs says to Andy Dufrane in the shower. lol

 

Oh I also have some females added. Usually I reject every request unless it comes with a message explaing why a person wants to be added or where they know me from. It has nothing to do with looks. I suppose I take the whole friends thing a little serious. I used to be careless about those requests but that has changed about 3 years ago and I wiped out almost everyone whose request I had just automatically added.
As for actual conversation...for some reason the site kept putting me on some kind of list of people whose profile would be shown everywhere,and I literally got swamped with messages for a long time.
Sometimes they piled up to crazy amounts I was unable to manage at all.
Hence many messages went unreplied or got deleted right away.
That was nothing personal. As long as a person addresses me in decent manner ,I don't see a reason to not talk back to them.
Plus I was also trying to save my damaged relationship for a long time before finally giving up,which left me with little energy,and also not exactly open to other men,as I was focused on a particular one (and that guy did have a lower level of self confidence at the time).
Sorry if it came off otherwise reason-wise.

 

Lol I forgot to add just kidding. I never tried but I do remember your pics being plastered all over that website miss popularity.

 

Yes,it was really crazy for a while.
Some days I would get 2,000 page hits and 300 messages,and if I replied to one there were 3 new ones waiting. (Not exaggerating on the numbers!)
Then did not log in there for a few months and finally things got better to a degree where I could handle my account again.

 

LOL:smt043