The Shock value of interracial dating?

I believe in gravitating towards someone based on physical, social, emotional, and even spiritual connections....

However, let's be real!? Do you enjoy the double takes, scowls, smiles, and other reactions that come with being in a interracial relationship?

I have to admit i love the attention at times. When you get one of those " omg...is she...is she dating him...what are they doing together" looks.

There's something tangible, satisfying, and their surprise sustains the smile on my face.

 

I don't care. I am more interested in my woman. Apparently to such a degree that I almost got hit by a car once upon time.

 

I pay them and that no mind, all I'm interested in is the man I'm with

 

Nope...I don't enjoy it. Seems disrespectful to me. "Shock value" has 0% to do with why I date black men.

 

QUOTE=archangel;805258]I don't care. I am more interested in my woman. Apparently to such a degree that I almost got hit by a car once upon time.[/QUOTE]

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Nope, I find it rude.

 

Here's a question: How would you as a black man feel if you found out that any non black women that you date/have dated were only doing it for the "shock value" of how other people reacted to you two being together?

 

I've never experienced it. Maybe some older folks looking just a bit longer, but I can honestly say I've never experienced anything negative. IR couples are becoming more and more common here, surprisingly, because it's traditionally been a fairly conservative area.

 

Enjoy it? Not in the least. Not to mention, it's plain rude to stare.

 

Honestly, can't say I pay attention. I have my eyes set on my ambitions, my business, and my man. Fuck who cares or has an opinion. Opinions are like assholes...

 

I sometimes get those looks and really, I pay no mind mainly and when I see them, I just smile and then say something like, "There's nothing greater than the power of love."

 

LOVE this approach :smt023

 

It wouldnt bother me at all. I believe my comments may be taken out of context a bit, not shock value for my or my girl's satisfaction but for those on the outside with pre-concieved perceptions.

My satisfaction comes from proving those who are shocked wrong.

 

It's not about the shock value you try to send out but the shock to others. You're in california? There are some seriously segregated areas in affluent areas where they are shocked for lack of a better word.

They have pre-conceived notions of he has to be rich, or she has to be fat, etc. However, when they see a fairly normal couple, its a shock to them and my satisfaction comes from indirectly changing perceptions.

There are truly some black and white people i have come across whose perceptions are very media or second hand knowledge based.

 

Yeah, i know what you mean. I live in California which is a cultural melting pot from coast to coast. However, i dont think people understand how segregated and shocking interracial dating can be in some areas.

From affluent to lower socioeconomic areas you can get some really deep stares.

It's one of those states where you can have cities back to back with diverse populations and run into several predominately white with a mexican dominated cities in the middle scattered by several black enclaves

 

I've lived in Los Angeles and San Diego my whole life, and I certainly agree that there is segregation in some areas out here. I can appreciate your point of wanting to change the perceptions some people have of IR relationships. I just don't get any satisfaction out of people staring or taking double takes at me and my guy (or me and my children for that matter).

 

This all day.

 

They actually make me feel insecure.. I am not a very brave person and I don't handle mean people very well. :cry:

I'm never going to let them break us up, though. I love my boyfriend! :freehug: