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Iggy/Harrow/Sluggo/Bronson, your whole obsession with this forum & everyone on it has been creepy & then some. And as always you just can't go without throwing out some personal digs can you? Still can't figure out why everyone is always eager to give you the boot,huh, Einstein? :smt043:smt043:smt043

 

I don't think that's the nature of most of the women who frequent the forum. And unlike a few of the male posters here with their attitude towards certain types of WW, we actually do love and celebrate black men, so we don't feel a need to bash them, even if certain ones don't fit our standard of perfection.

 

yourself.

I know I'm preaching to the choir for most of you, but there are a few that just don't get it. (and I wasn't talking to Petty either.)

 

As of late none of the men bash (with yhe exception of iggy) the women either. I havent seen an unkind word directed towards any of the women as of late

 

Noted.

 

Lol thats all I ask note it lol

One a honest note do you feel bashed and if so by who/what?

 

if you have to ask, it's already too late

go ahead..give her the 'then put me on ignore if you dont like what i write' line you throw around here like free donuts:smt103

other people have expressed discomfort

it's as simple as easing up and changing habits..but u know..some people just have no capacity for consideration

there's no need for long, drawn out endless circle jerking that has become this forum

 

So whats the ignore button for again?
So eithee the men shape up or else? Come on man really?

 

At one time, I did feel bashed. I was suspect when I first came on this board: older, full-figured woman, dating BM for the first time. Need I say more? I am overweight. And I will go so far as to say that by the average WM's standard, I am fat. So did I take offense? Absolutely.

Now, I don't feel personally bashed. Not that I'm comfortable with where I'm at, but knowing that some men find me attractive allows me to accept myself and where I'm at in the journey. I would rather accept myself as I am, even if I need to lose some weight, than to cave to the pressure of having to be thin, risk developing an eating disorder and constantly battle low self-esteem trying to live up to some standard.

It still irks me when guys (and I say "guys" because I don't typically see the women making a fuss over fat/ugly men) go on a fat/ugly crusade. You don't know whose feelings you may be hurting. There are people who lurk here. There may be people whose picture we've never seen who won't reveal it for fear that they might be in that category, and already feel some self-condemnation.

I understand that gross obesity is not attractive. But to me, neither is rail-thin. (Putting the health aspects aside.) The fact is though, people come in all shapes, sizes and colors. But just like freeing one's self from alcoholism, chronic drug use, cigarette smoking, gambling (I could go on), losing weight is a process which begins in the heart/mind. A person has to get to the place where he/she wants to change. Bashing someone, telling them to get off their fat azz and get to the gym doesn't make that process any quicker.

I've said this before and I'll say it again: This forum is the last place I would expect to experience discrimination, considering that the male posters have all experienced it in some form at some point in their lives. You don't want to be judged by your outward appearance - neither do overweight people. It does not matter that your appearance can't be changed and theirs can.

 

I appreciate you sharing this so is weight never to be discussed at all? We seemed to have gotten pass the age hangup per the getting older thread. Maybe I dont see it the same way because there are far more black people need to get their shit together threads and I never take offense to the thread itself. I may be incorrect but outside of Iggy I never noticed anyone saying overweight women were unworthy of anything. And in the 3+ years Ive been on this forum I can only recall maybe four of those short lived threads in comparisson to the barrage of black ones. But I respect your pov even though I havent noticed bashing to the degree you have or maybe Im unfamiliar with your definition

 

Not the case. Discussing and bashing are two different things. Insulting someone for being overweight or in particular, taking issue with someone who prefers someone who isn't a size 2, is different than discussing issues relating to weight control. Stating your preference for a slim or athletic type is different than putting someone down for liking something that doesn't fit that. You get me?

 

....Props to the mailman for coming back to the center to deliver a moderate position.....

 

Ive yet to see a member diss a woman for being overweight nor have I seen a male member catch hell for liking big girls but like I admitted earlier I dont frequent every thread but I hear you

 

Really?!!!

You should've quit while you were ahead...

 

I assume you're saying you've never seen a male member diss a female member for their weight?

I've only been here a few months and I've seen plenty of current hateful/rude comments about overweight women in general. I often wonder if the reason so many members don't post pics is because they see how judgmental this site can be. It's sad.

 

definitely the reason i won't post my face

i mean...jeez the ridicule

 

I had you pegged months ago The jury's still out on whether those pearly whites are even really yours...

 

ur lucky u got that nice body or else id have to straighten you out

:freehug:

 

Yeah and btw no other member gets as many weight jokes as I do yet its funny I dont feel bashed