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what other types you should avoid?

are you one of thpose types?

have you dated one of those types

 

I would never date a chick who looks down upon herself. That type that think they only have one place in a relationship; which is to be a traditional wife aka slave who spawns a man his children. I want an equal not someone I can walk over.

 

I dated a guy who was the male version of the The Queen of Dependence. His inability to confidently make a decision was quite a turn off...felt like I was responsible for all the decisions in his life and mine. No thanks.

:smt049:smt049:smt049 My kind of guy :smt023

 

I knew someone would like that

 

Haha smooth

 

Yes

 

Well, look who's back....

 

Red Flags

I have learned some things along the way when it comes to relationships, dating, and men....and some things about women as well. (I do not date women though) When I say about women, I mean women in general such as ex's, baby mama's, sisters, etc...

Everyone has something to offer. Each man deserves a chance. Before the chance is given there are some red flag indicators that often times fly by.

One of the worst things to do is have sex right away and allow the sex blinders to block the red flags. When you have lust for someone all the other quirks, behaviors, and mannerisms are set aside. I do not want that to cloud my vision.

I hear people bitch all the time about baggage and this and that but everyone has baggage and that baggage never leaves. It is how we respond to the issues. How we control our temper. How we communicate with one another.

Before we ever go out and seek a mate, we have to seek our own happiness first. Then everything else falls in place. No one is perfect but together and with love any 2 people can conquer the world together:smt063......

 

Unfortunately I've dated one of those types and married another.

I've learned my lesson, that's for sure.

 

what did you learn

 

that 2+2 does not always equal 4

 

LOL. hell yeah...or better yet....you thought you had a 2+2 but it was more like you had 2 and they had 1 trying to get your 1 to make it 5 for them and none for you

 

you learn quick, grasshoppah

 

thank you master.

master.....did you become blind because you didnt pay the light bill

 

blind I become...light reflecting off bald head

 

copy cat you are china man

 

you having a vietnam flashback or wat, pops

 

For starters, I did a lot of thinking about my role in these relationships and did a ton of research into why I chose the men I did, and I'm working on fixing myself.

I'm also a lot more discerning about what men I let into my life because I don't want to fall back into the same patterns.

When I'm getting to know a new guy, I'm on heightened alert for anything he says or the way he acts that can be considered a warning signal or red flag. I'm getting better at picking out the qualities that aren't good and I'm getting better at not settling for those qualities.

 

all you gotta do is let em know ur willing to put out on the first date

guarantee problem solved




for one party anyway

rayer:

but u know..on the real..maybe ur standards are too high

are you looking for a long-term companion?

nobody's perfect...and when it comes to growing old alone or with someone, you know maybe you just gotta compromise with the imperfections a bit

 

LOL. Uh huh.

And there are two guys who want to just have sex with me, and not date me. I won't do that.

I'm not looking for perfection. I just want a man who isn't controlling and domineering and one who respects me and treats my daughter well.

That's really not asking much.

Unfortunately, all I seem to meet are passive-aggressive guys (who are controlling in a different way) or outright controlling guys. :x