Personal opinion!: I think this rings true (at least for me it does). I was born in the Chi and spent several years there until my family "moved on up." I spent some of my most formidable years in one of the most diverse neighborhoods in the states (statistically, for interracial dating and LGBT community). My parents never told whom I should date growing up. They never scolded me for bringing home different races of girls. They always expressed to me that they just wanted to see me happy. Out of all the races that I have dated, and I dated a lot of them, attractive BW where very entitled. They almost put themselves in a range of 'untouchable'. My last serious relationship with a black female was not a bad one generally, but what drove us apart, was this attitude she had. She not only thought, but verbalized how she was a black queen, and should be treated as such. Obviously I saw this as a problem. I didn't have a problem, and don't have problems with any race identifying with their culture and being extremely proud of it. What I do have problem with, is the fact that she touted this attitude as more of a 'weapon' against me. When we didn't see eye-to-eye, it became "you shouldn't or wouldn't do this to a black queen." It was laughable and ultimately turned me off. I have had that similar experience, not as drastic with other attractive bw. That particular girl --I use girl purposely, was extremely attractive. I find that lesser attractive bw are more humble, big surprise there right. And the kicker. I date outside my race to experience as much as I can, I love WOMEN, and I love them in all packages. Where some people find problems in all stereotypes, i have found some of the most adorable attributes from an opposite race/ethnicity. The list is very long of race and ethnicities I have dated: Americanized Asians, Indians, Black, White. European White, foreign Hispanic/Latin, African, Polynesian, etc, etc, etc. Again, I don't detail my experience to be able to claim fact or fiction, nor to validate my point as some type of authority per se, this is just MY EXPERIENCE. In no particular order, I prefer Euro white, Brazilian/Argentinean, Australian, and American White. I will admit, the attitude of SOME bw, was a part, not big, nor small, just part, of why I prefer what I prefer. I have found that Brazilian, euro white, Aussie White, and American white have some of the best attitudes about themselves, dating/relationship dynamics, and interracial dating (I know that statement is loaded). Sometimes it's the lack of opinion what is best also, sometimes I just want to be a person, with boundaries and limitations, and those races I mentioned above, have allowed me to just be sometimes, ironically, not thinking of race altogether. Weight, weight is worked out much easier. People like what they like. Outside of this forum, I don’t really hear people chastised about not dating a smaller/bigger person. I hear the ole black guys only date ‘ugly’, ‘fat’ white chicks, but we will never know until you can poll all relationships between the two instantaneously. Maybe it’s true, maybe not, but I don’t have to computer or video recorder that can see all and give a definitive answer. Quite frankly, the only people that should take offense, are the supposed ‘ugly’, ‘fat’ white chicks and their black counter parts. But it seems like white males are the only ones that bring this up lol. Rant over. I didn’t mean to write so much, but it poured out of me.Sorry if my ideas were not clear and I ramble, it sounds better in my head sometimes lol
I have to disagree I've heard that all across the board. I've heard it from hispanic men and women, asian men, black men and women, and white men and women. Honestly though, I think the only reason why a lot of other minority groups point out BM with below average WW is because they're jealous that we're pulling WW at all. I'm not trying to bring up race tiers or anything but I find it ironic how a lot of us have so much pride in our ethnicity, culture, and background yet are so fast to trade it all away for a white partner. I'm NOT trying to say IR relationships are full of sell outs, I'd be a hypocrite to say that, obviously. What I'm trying to say is there are a lot of men and women of all ethnic backgrounds who see white as superior in the back of their minds and that's why some BM do date below average WW. But, guess what? A lot of those same BM are seen as below average by their female counterparts too. So why trip?
Of course there is an exception, I'm sure other races bring it up across the board, but predominately, I believe white males bash black male because of their fears and insecurities--which are bread from their upbringing and or environment. I don't think is just bm and below average ww, i think bm and ww in general, draw critiscim from white males alike--for the same peurpose I mentioned above, fear and insecurities.
.... Never understood that one. 50% of Black women are overweight so 1 out of 2 Black men who date Black women exclusively are dating a "fat" girl. Why pick on the white women?:smt102
this is the truth! lots of bm are with heavy bw and no one gives a FUCK soon as a bm is caught boo'd up with a heavy ww, they become the subject of ridicule
See it from their POV, when they see a BM with a heavyset WW they think he considers any WW (whether they are unattractive or not) to be superior to any BW. Sometimes it's like that though not always but there are examples.
Actually the numbers are worse than 50%, according to government stats, every 4/5 Black women are overweight or obese, that's 80%. Of course those stats are based on using the BMI which certainly has it's flaws as a diagnostic tool. http://www.womenshealth.gov/minority-health/african-americans/obesity.cfm
Haha, wow good one! How did this one slip by us ladies! I like you today*! I mean, far be it for overweight White women to dare insist their man be slim. Isn't that his mantra? *due to expire at midnight
