How Many Dates Before the First Sexual Encounter?

Not necessarily. Why does it have to tell him anything? That is a preconceived idea that you have pumpkin. It didn't tell me anything but my ex really liked me as much as I like her. That first night was awesome...and was definitely not "not much".

 

I love it when women tell guys what we think. Lol.

 

im not the norm. i like to wait as long as i can. having sexual encounters is the easy part and can be done on the first night, but why?

i prefer to have them wanting it and not doing it while keeping their tulips puffy from excitement of whats to cum.

 

Haha at this point in my life, you're damn right!! I'm not looking to jump back into marriage, but I sure as hell need some dick in my life lol. That's what FWBs are for Just sex...no pressure, no unrealistic expectations.

 

Ches, I promise you...there are men out here who treat ACTUAL sex as important as some of us women do. I can't stress this enough. The cavalier attitude is promoted because it excuses behaviors. Fucking people you barely know a few hours is NOT empowering in the least.

 

You give it too much value my friend. I get way more out of nightly conversations and dining at our favorite restaurants or play fighting in the morning when we get up. That emottionally and spiritually bonds me to her. The sexpart is fun and feels good but it pales in comparison to the rest. To be honest the kissing is far more intimate. I can only make out with someone Im into. Most men would fuck a snake if it had legs.

 

Slow down Fabio we know youre suave lol

 

Precisely. I don't consider myself a snake. So why should I give it up to someone who thinks that way?

 

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Regardless, we have to move at the woman's pace. Just letting you know, prolonging has no bearing on what a man thinks or is going to do post-sex.

 

And that's where you fail - seeing it as withholding sex.

I am of the ilk that sharing myself is something I WANT TO DO with my man. Not any man. Get it?

 

That's fine. I respect that. But the addendum you attached of "he's gonna" is just false. And I only disagreed with that part of it. If you're doing/not doing it for you, do it for you.

 

Because holding out to find men who hold sex in the same regard as most women do is unfruitful then again I speak strictly from my perspective so I only know what works for me but from what Ive observed duration of timr waited to have sex has zero barring on how successful relationships are. I think your best bet might be church or Christian singles or maybe just dont try to control everything so much. Just let nature take its course. See what happens. Love truly is random you cant control it.

 

Sweety I agreed and said you were of course entitled maybe 10 posts ago. But don't think it has any bearing on how we view you, because that's not always the case.

 

Sharing yourself is far more than sex boo. What have you to offer goes far beyond those sugar tits lol.

 

And that's another thing - anticipation. Sometimes, anticipating something makes the actual event all that much more pleasurable and special. If it all happens at once, what's to look forward to?

Being older than some here, some of my thinking may go back to my teen years when it was the unspoken rule that you could hit every base but home. Protect the virginity until marriage. While that's ancient history, I probably still (subconsciously) place greater value on intercourse than anything leading up to it. So while I may indulge in other forms of intimacy, that's the last frontier for me. Intercourse is what consumates a marriage, for instance. There's a higher value placed on that than other forms of sex.

 

not even about being suave, its about enjoying how things are when women get the django(the jango is silent). as the women have said here, they dont do it on the first date. its not because they are prudes, they know its difficult to separate feelings from sex for them. knowing how hard it is for women to not mix feelings with sex has me not wanting to just put it in her right away. for all i know i could get a boiling bunny on the stove or a novel via text messages about how horrible of a person i am.

maybe its just me, i dont get anything except a nut out of hitting it on the first night.

 

And you think these guys think much differently than yourself? Haha! Think again, my friend. I've observed that for many, they are men first, godly second. (And, tbh, there have been times when I've been a woman first and godly second, so I can gently point the finger, but i can't stab it.)

 

this!

but you have to realize most men dont want to look forward to nothing except his gratification. on top of that most men dont get it, and if they do there is a blue moon out. men that fall into the category of not able to obtain pootang pie place it on a pedestal and watch porn where they know the stars by name.

 

This.