No one's talking about Steubenville?

Are you really that disconnected?? Honestly? Penn state, steubenville etc, even rapes outside these types of settings are often ignored and minimalized. That is a well known and documented fact my friend.

 

First off Im a black man who dated white women I dont take that shit for grantite. There have been plenty of women who were in thos for just the black experience and while consentual I dont know what kind of buyers remorse someone might have so I exercise responsibility for my well being. Also consider I am much younger than you and women with in my sphere of dating usually like bad boys up until very recently since a lot of them want to be married and mothers amd know bad boys wont commit. Take a gamder at the nice guy thread to see if many other men dont to see the same thing its not unique toy perspective.
And on earth do you know thr cry wolf cases are sma? Did you do a study? Also consider all the people who have been rleased because of newly found dna evidence. Women are not the sole victims of injustice.

 

Are YOU that disconnected. Thats sports culture not America. Everyday men are not accused of raped and people look the other way. Sexual predators are treated like garbage by society at large. When people are aware of your crime people are disgusted by you regardless of explainations. Theres more understanding and willingness to here a murderer's side of a story. Like I said before if your wealthy and/or rich the rules dont apply but for the 99% rest of us people dont look the other way.

 

I know, because the FBI has studied it. False allegations of rape are at the same level as other crimes, between two and eight percent.as I said a long time ago, if you'd stop dating women who are barely out of their teens, you would see that bad boys have zero purpose in a grown woman's life, unless she is using him to get laid. And please, go read the Rape Culture 101 piece. I think you will find it eye opening, and will understand what I've been getting at.

 

:smt012

 

So it's pretty well accepted by everyone that many rapes, probably the majority, are never reported. If we are all so supporting of rape victims, why do you think that is?

 

Because a lot of women dont want to be viewed as broken

 

Why on earth are you refusing to believe something that is well known and documented is beyond me. Go do some searches on the subject and you see you are wrong. Many, if not most are actually done BY men.
And for the record, women are also a part of the problem, and I don't mean the victims, I mean by the ones that blame the victim.

 

No, I don't think it's about being viewed as "broken".

It's because most happen in situations like mine. Very hard to prove.

And because a woman's life is put through the wringer in rape cases and, I imagine, if you don't have physical proof from the get-go, it doesn't see trial.

 

Am I suppose to date women in their 40s and 50s. Im in my early 30s and women in their 20s which is my dating pool are turned on by bad boys. It is what it is.
Also everything in your rape culture 101 article is another example of the white privilege some of you forget about somtimes. Im a black male in the United States of America. NO ONE looks the other way if I do anything to make anyone feel the slightest bit threatened. An accusation is enough for them to get me off the streets in the in the interest of safety.
I guess its a testament to your blindness but in my position especially as someone who exclusively dates ww if someone accuses me of anything without proof of my absolute innocence my black ass is going to jail no question.

 

Ok this I can agree with but I have known men who dont want to have sex with their women after finding out theyve been raped. I guess thats where I get the broken thing from.

 

Gotcha.

I was going to say more, but there's no point. LOL.

 

You see what u did there right? You are now writing what you have been arguing against. That there is a culture where the rape victim is viewed in such a way. That is apart of the problem, just as rapevictims female friends who start to loom at her as trash or have counts in how she got raped. What you wrote right here is a huge part of the problem. So why have you argued all along then? Lol

 

You misunderstand the women find themselves that way and a lot of men dont know to help someone heal under those circumstances not to mention the ptsd factor of it. I dated a girl like that in hs who would freak the fuck out if she were caught off guard when you touched here. Most of us dont have a background in counseling and dont have the tools to help someone through that kind of thing.

 

he contradicts himself all the time.

 

My god fanny, you've never been raped, you've never been sexually assaulted, never been sexually anything. Hiw can you tell a group of women anything about the subject? It's like us trying to tell you what it's like to be black.

Unless you've experienced firsthand being forced into a sexual act against your will, you'll never really understand the despair, self hatred, fear, questioning of yourself, self blame and everything else that goes with it. Look at Joanie, she's looking at what she could have done to prevent what someone did to her without consent. He was wrong, but I'm sure hes not sitting there with the same thoughts.

 

Wow, you think a woman who has been the victim of a crime is broken?? Speaking from personal experience, being raped didnt break me, and I never saw myself that way. Jeebus, sometimes you come across as a babe in the woods.

 

No, dear. Women over 22. I think you missed the whole point of the rape 101 piece. I realize you are black and the justice system is stacked against you that way, but it doesn't stop some black men from being the ones who participate in the activities outlined in the article. I'm not talking about rape - I'm talking about the behaviors which create the rape culture. I've been cat-called, told to smile, etc, etc, by men both black and white since I was 13. Imagine how scary that is to a 13 year old, especially when she knows if she is raped, it will all be about her.

 

Oh shit, you ladies are dealing with a person who has the sensitivity of sandpaper and the depth perception of Mr. Magoo...yall are in trouble

 

And that, dear sir, is a result of rape culture. Otherwise we would see sexualities violence the same way we see other violence. I doubt the men would react that way if she was mugged instead. The MEN you are talking about view her as broken. Women know, as in that other piece I posted on the other thread, that it can happen to any of us, at any time, with any man, even ones we love. Not every man is a rapist, but from where we sit any man could be, since almost three quarters of rapes are by men known to us.