Disappointments, success, learning

How was your 2012?
Did the year treat you well?
What have you learned this past year, any life lesson?
Things you wish you would’ve done better? things you wish you did avoid?

Setbacks? Success?
Let’s learn from each other.

Happy new year everyone!

 

Good idea for a thread.

This year has been a bit of a disappointment for me. The visa not coming through yet, getting mucked around with jobs and getting kicked out of the place I've been living for the last 4yrs (or there abouts...I've been OS for a chunk of that). One good thing that's happened is I found a place with the disability arts group that I now work & volunteer for. I'm so happy to be a part of it.

What have I learned? To ignore what others want and seek out what I want instead. I'm the only one living my life, after all. I've also learned that I make my own luck and have decided that a big part of my problem is that I was too negative. So I have made the decision to see the positive, no matter the circumstance, and to believe in my own luck. Because I am, in actual fact, a very lucky person. I have more than a lot of people have and am loved deeply by family and my husband.

Now, if only I could win the lotto...I'd be set! Hahahaha!:smt042

 

I rang in 2012, holding fireworks in one hand (unlit.. ), yelling at my dad or my uncle to tell them which ones needed to be laid flat on the ground, and which needed to be half buried.

This year has brought me a completely different circle of friends that works "better" for me than the previous circle did. My current circle of friends aren't students at the university, they've already graduated which means they're more busy than the friends I HAD, but their schedule is also more predictable. This gives me the social circle I like, but with the "me" time that I value very much as well.

Because of these friends, I've also gotten new opportunities to test out skills, and learn new things (such as helping Prinz-D, the first deaf rapper with his publicity/ marketing). Through helping him, and being around other people involved with music, it's made me realize how fascinating I find everything. It's something I'd seriously like to consider turning into a career after I graduate and I feel the first few steps have already been taken.

I've learned that happiness is truly in your own hands. That you shouldn't let anyone hold you back and if someone tells you that you cannot do something it's fun to prove them wrong. That taking risks (as long as they're not life-endangering, lol) is fun and leads to many different adventures. That plans can be overrated and do not always work out, but the unexpected is half the fun.
I've learned that heartbreak sucks, that unhealthy relationships aren't worth staying in and that love comes in many different shapes and sizes. That no matter how I've been hurt, I'm truly in love with life and with love itself.

 

To be honest--I haven't learned anything new..just that you cannot trust people,something I've learned already several years ago ..and that it is repeating again and again-

I know that if I wanna change something, I have to do it, personally

 

If this thread was about blk men dating fat white women or about taking away Americans’ guns, or about some hollyweird ho standing next to BM and simply taking a picture this thread would’ve been page 106 by now, with all your insults and bickering, lol. But a simple positive thread about reflection that could’ve been used as educational does only get a few responses as expected. You negative loving peeps, y’al love drama, lol

 

Lol. Looks like u r the one liking drama after posting that, not even giving 24h go during Xmas and new year.

2011 was rough and I was hoping 2012 would be easier,,, but it was not, its been a very rough year. Things will need to change soon. Its a situational issue of which I can't change out of' or fix. I can only pray it will be resolved soon so I can make some much needed changes.

 

2012 was whatever. Nothing great. Honestly waiting for 2013 to fly by and most of 2014 to fly by so I can go back to being a civilian. I am over this other stuff. Just glad I got a fucking job at the moment. Trying to make this a good year, but it's kinda hard for me to be happy right now. Meh, other people got it worse though.

 

One thing about myself that I learned this year is I'm probably a little too concerned with what others think. I hope with that knowledge I can exercise just doing me in 2013 and letting the chips fall where they may.
One of the many blessings this year was meeting my girlfriend, she is the absolute most amazing person I have ever met. Whether we last or not I'm just happy to have shared this experience with her.
She has totally mellowed me out and makes me believe love can be and is very real if you're open to it and check your ego at the door.
I only have two major hopes for this year, I hope I finish a book I've been writing on and off for four years and that I get my masters by the end of the year. I would really like to earn grown up money again lol

 

2012 was the same as 2011, stressful on my health both physically and mentally and stressful financially. My fault as I didn't change the way I handle confrontation, abuse, standing up for myself and for taking on waaaay too much emotionally and work wise.

I've set in motion ways to combat the emotional abuse and will be working on not being a push over and keeping the peace to make others happy.

As for financial, well there's only so much work and study I can take on, which of course then plays havoc on my health as I run myself into the ground. Would love to shake this chest infection at some point and plan on making 2013 a year that I listen to my body and rest when I need to.

 

Well said brotha

...what people may think of me??? I stopped giving three fucks when i was 17. I purchased a T-Shirt that had "I dont give a fuck" encrypted in the back/front. It worked well in numbing my fuck giving abilities -not to mention cool chicks wanted to fuck me, and everybody wanted to fuck with me.

As for this year ...i will give it an A for "aight". I generated a decent living and handled much productions in many facets of life. I was also able to convert a fairly huge amount of hard core racist white women into black c*ck loving wh*res (of course i dont mean to brag). Ive mastered all building codes (and numerous other codes) within Canada and international as well, which basically bulked up my engineering portfolio.. To follow a life long passion of mine, I forced myself to take up on a psychology degree (still a few years to go) simply to understand and specify the curse that begotten me regarding my thinking patterns, which seems particularly uniform with other patterns in my life as well. I want to identify whether this curse is in fact inferred (and thus over-write-able), and if these types of variables are good attributes in the long run of life

The only thing i truly regret this year, is i didnt truly "live my life" in the "best"(most joyful) manners imaginable and seldom chose paths and options of patterns that created the most flamboyant memories. I was too focused on making money and being financially productive, that i forgot to truly enjoy life.

Next year i should take a long vacation and simply study my psychology and travel a little bit. Enough of the maths for just a little while

 

Great thread!
My 2012...
my 2012 was very good under a spiritual point of view. I met some amazing people and strenghtened my relationship with my sisters dancers and I recently started studying ancient Inka wisdom and shamanic journeys.
I'm still not feeling my job anymore and I've been desperately trying to figure out what I need to do in life with no success... I'm always looking for a sign and I hope 2013 will bring me luck.

I have some beautiful students and this year started with 2 groups of beautiful, skilled and spiritual dancers who are with me on a journey not only about dance technique but also about the deeper spiritual aim of it so it's being just awesome. The more I go on, the more I understand how important it is for women of every age and kind to be close and do things together and support each other. I also learned a lot about pregnancy because many of my dance friends got pregnant/had a baby and it's just amazing to see what a woman can do... give life and all that.

On the love life side, my 2012 started with a broke up... then we went back together... then we broke up again. It was an amazing love story and I felt a deep connection that I never had with anybody besides, maybe, my mother.
It ended but what I learned is that now I know what I want even more, and every relationship I have gets me closer to what I'm really looking for. I wish 2013 finally gave me the love I'm looking for, and especially I now know I need a man that makes me laugh more than anything.

I also strenghtened my relationship with my dad and brother; even if it's still hard it's still something.

That is it, I think....

I wish you all an amazing new year and I hope all your dreams come true

I'm sorry Chri... you're just awesome.

Thank God! Happy you made that choice.

Oh shit. Sauron is back.

 

2012 has been a decent year so far.
I've continued to do well at school,and have started amateur/hobby modelling again.
Was very happy that I was able to finally figure out my health issues and working on them now.
On the down side...the one coworker who seems to have an issue with me is still mean ,but since I get along just fine with the other 4 ,it's bearable
I've learned that despite fear it is better to address things as soon as possible.
The earlier you figure them out,the better and sooner you can fix them.

 

I'm gonna wait till almost midnight tonight to tell whether 2012 cus no matter how good it's been for me one tragic event today can fuck it up.

 

My 2012 sucked for the most part. There were some bright spots, like starting grad school finally, and taking a mini-vacation. But mostly it was a pretty horrible year from start to finish.

2012 was going to be the Year of Bookie. It was going to be my year finally. Instead it started off badly, and got worse from there (aside from the schooling).

Setbacks:
I spent the majority of this year in some depression or another.

I came to the realization that apparently I'm good enough to fuck, but not date, so I cut myself off from men. The one guy I did date was an insecure, passive-aggressive, controlling guy, so I quickly dropped him. I can't seem to meet anyone who ISN'T passive-aggressive controlling.

A few people I trusted let me down in a big way one night. I can't trust anyone but myself.

Successes:
Doing well in grad school and enjoying it.

Taking the little one on a vacation for the first time - even if it was just a mini-trip.

Making some realizations about myself that needed to be realized.

Needless to say, I'm happy to be seeing 2012 in my rearview mirror.

 

Beautiful avi- Arwen:smt023

 

Well, I haven't been around here much, but here goes:

2011 ended with making major changes on all fronts. I decided to embrace the fact that I own absolute responsibility in how i respond; that that's the only factor in my control. To that end, i evaluated my habits and relationships and dropped a bunch of friendships that meant nothing and added nothing, moved on from things i was clinging to. Instead, i dedicated that time to friends and family who truly matter; it's made a world of difference

In the process i found the love of my life- my soulmate; a concept i had given up on long ago. She made me trust her absolutely; where my head and heart were and are in sync. I tell her and share with her everything- no secrets, no white lies- it's just not needed. I admire her intellect, beauty, and heart and will always cherish it.

So 2013 is starting with me shopping for a ring...

 

Same bought my friend. Good luck

 

Thanks DK! I am glad you have what you deserve!

Making the changes has also been a tremendous boost to my career as well.

 

What field are you in?

 

Well, i was in Forensic and Litigation Consulting, but due to my other expertise (Insurance Industry, Managing large projects), my firm tasked me with managing one of our largest projects/clients to date, which lead to my role transitioning to pretty much running the largest projects we have, which lead to a lot of high profile kudos, which lead to substantial rewards...:smt023