What's the most stupid things you have heard

I've heard so many stupid things regarding my dating choice over the years, it's hard to remember them all.

Almost every time there are any family holiday gatherings (I rarely attend any), at some point during the visit the racial "jokes" from my brothers start, which they think is hilarious. This year (Thanksgiving) was no exception.

A few samples that come to mind:

-(directed at my son) "So how big is your dick?"

-(also directed at my son) "You know the white girls only want you for your big dick."

(directed at me)

-"Why don't you ever fuck any white guys?"

-"You got a new black guy lately?"

-"You like black guys for their big dicks don't you?"


Needless to say, we didn't stay after that shit started.



Other things I've heard from various people...

-"But he's so dark..."

-"So you're into radiator hoses, huh?"

-"Is it true what they say about black men's 'you-know-what'?"

-"Gross...doesn't the way black people smell bother you?"

-"This guy isn't so bad...he's a lot lighter than the last one you dated."

-"Doesn't the big thing hurt when you do it?"

-"He's kinda cute for a dark guy."

-(countless times) "N-lover!" (in English & in Spanish)



Not all of the stupid shit has been said by white folks though...


-"You know he only dates you because we don't want him."

-"You know he's only dating you because he wishes he was white."

-"You're only dating him because you wanna be black."

-"Black man stealing bitch!" (and a few other variants of that)

-He's only with you because he's weak, and WW let him walk all over them."


There have also been plenty of dirty looks, head-shaking, eye-rolling, sighs, etc. There was also the incident I mentioned a long time ago at the convenience store where some high school bitches were throwing insults & fried chicken at my bf & me on our way to the car.


I've also heard a lot of stupid remarks about my my son as well.

Wow. She sounds a lot like a few of my relatives. They've thrown around an occasional sambo or jigaboo over the years, but their favorite terms have always been porch monkey and the n-word. Most of them avoid me like the plague (I guess that's supposed to hurt my feelings or something)...it's like I have black cooties or something, and they're afraid it's contagious.

My granny used the n-word a lot. She said she "earned" the right to use the word because that's what her husband called her all the time (he said she had too much "Indian" in her to be called white). She also said, "I made that bastard a damn good one, too!"

I do remember a little old lady telling my son one Halloween that she liked his Little Black Sambo costume (he was dressed as a ninja with a sword & everything so I don't know where she got that shit from). He was 5 at the time, and he was pissed...even at that age he saw it for the racial remark that it was.

My dad always called my grandmother (my mother's mom) a gook because she had slanted eyes, and she had no Asian in her at all.

My idiot brother (the one who hosted Thanksgiving this year) has also programmed his Siri to call him the n-word like it's his damn name. He was entertaining himself & a few other idiots there by talking to his phone so it would call him that over & over...they were all laughing like crazy.

 

My parents have grown & learned a lot and have lost the ignorant attitudes/views they once held. They respect my choice & they love their grandson. My brothers are a bunch of assholes who think they're being funny...a couple of them do buy into the stupid stereotypes though. They don't see any harm in their "joking", and my feelings about it aren't incentive enough for them to stop. I do put in an occasional 'stop by for a minute to say hey' because it means something to my parents, but I avoid them for the most part.

As for the extended family, I don't have anything to do with most of them (of course, a lot of them don't want anything to do with me either). They seem content in their ignorance, so I leave them to it. Whether it's family or the strangers who chime in on my business, it really doesn't what any of them have to say. I don't let their bullshit phase me, and I continue doing what I want to do. Their ignorance is their problem, not mine.

 

Yeah, but I'm thankful that the ignorance isn't as blatant as it used to be, especially in the last 10 years. I still encounter idiots who have no control over their mouths from time to time, but nowadays most people either keep it to themselves or at least keep it to talking about you behind their backs. There also seem to be more open-minded folks where IR is concerned than there used to be.

 

I think with so much emphasis on being "politically correct" these days, I think some folks tend to be less likely to be as open with their rudeness & ignorance. One isn't much better than the other IMO.

What a horrible experience, Chris. It can be painful enough to hear the ugliness without someone putting their hands on you to make their point. Scary. I hope his girlfriend finally came to her senses and got away from his hateful ass.

It is a great feeling when you are able to bring folks together when they realize all of the hang-ups & prejudice they had was based on nonsense.

The majority of those Spanish speaking people have been Mexican, ST, not Spain.

As far as hating someone goes (whether it's about where they're from, who they are, for their own hate & prejudice, etc.), it's never worth the energy you waste on feeling that way. Hate only produces more hate, and it ultimately hurts you more than it does those you feel that way about.

It can be extremely disheartening and also infuriating as hell.

The ones to really feel sorry for as those who let others' hate & ugliness steal their joy and those who let it impact how they live their lives. The folks who hold up under the pressure the madness brings are people I admire for standing their ground & choosing their own happiness rather than trying to appease everyone else.

It is definitely important to choose to keep good people in your life who love & support you the way those who love you should. Of course we're stuck with our family until we're old enough to cut them loose if need be, and many times the idiots spewing the garbage they do aren't people we've chosen to allow in our lives. Even the majority of the stupid comments I listed came from strangers and people I didn't know on a personal level (classmates, coworkers, etc.). Unfortunately in this world we're surrounded by all kind of idiots.