Have you ever wanted to ask a ? But shy or afraid

Have you ever wanted to ask a question or just say hello and feel kinda shy, or afraid of being shot down,how can one deal with this or overcome this type of phobia?what's some opinions here( I can just hear some of the bro's here saying grow some balls..lol)...Want some real opinions

 

honestly no i haven't.

i'm a firm believer that you can say, tell or ask a woman anything if worded the right way, the majority of the time you get what you want.

the only advice i can give is the story of a guy i heard about. this particular individual would frequent bars and walk up to women and say "Hey lets go f**k". By the end of the night he had been slapped and had drinks poured on him countless times however he would always get that one lady would would take him up on his offer.
the moral if the story is, a closed mouth doesn't get fed and the fact that there are plenty of fish in the sea, who cares if you get shot down more than once... persistence and confidence will get you what your seeking.

in my head there is never ever nothing to be shy or afraid of. why?

 

Obtain a job where you are forced to interact with the public, in particular a hotel job is ideal where you have to keep the guests happy and keep a neighborly personality at all times at the front desk. It has helped me tremendously when it came to socialising.

An even simplier way is to start exchanging pleasantries with EVERYONE right now. Whoever gives you eye contact train yourself to instantly say hi, hey, hello, wasup, head nod etc... If they don't seem to be in a hurry, add a how are you which branches off more conversation.

It took me years to feel comfortable to do this with many trials and errors... People are always surprised to hear that I'm actually antisocial because I come off as a person who acts like they known you for years right away.

Also start building your self confidence, start working out, do hobbies your passionate about, take your appeareance seriously by grooming yourself and wearing form flattering clothing.

 

I feel the same way. I hate the you'll know bull shit like it is some kind of force r feeling:smt093.


It really depends. I always see it as you got nothing to lose because you didn't have it before.

However in reality it is a different story.

 

Yeah all the time.

 

i work with the public i am a physican's Assistant in Doc's office however if i see a sexy ass woman i tend to nut up tongue get heavy,and i get a lil scared to say something so i interact with people very well however it's the female i wanna holla at when i start to trippin.i narrowed it down to fear of rejection..idk?:smt102

 

Yeah that's the attitude that's been working lately nothing to lose.if you never had it ya won't miss it.

 

Practice practice. Rejection is part of it. A few weeks ago I cold approached a woman at a store. It three her off and she wasn't into me but whatever I tried.

You are only rewarded in life if you take risks in certain aspects. Took me years to learn.

 

I play the "What if" game enough on a daily basis, an unanswered question will just add to that.
Granted, I might need liquid courage at times, but I WILL say what I want to say and to me that's better than wondering how the person would react or what their answer would be.

I dislike when someone's talking to me and were like, "Um, I have this question for you but I'm not sure how to say it...". By then I'm obviously listening to you, and wondering what the question is, so it's better to just come out and say it.

 

bingo! Yep...

 

I have to admit, there is a HUGE difference between WM and BM out in a bar, or pub. Most, if not all BM that will make eye contact with you, have no problem speaking to you, even if they aren't interested. WM will not make eye contact if they don't want you talking to them. I have no filter on my mouth, and will walk up to anyone. You already have a "No" if you do nothing and let them walk away, so go for it!

 

:smt023

 

:smt045Good ass advice..That is a motto of mine WTF..Go for it...Thanks

 

:smt109 I can work with that...Thanks

 

exactly. dude everyone gets shot down. the only ones that dont are the ones that jack off to a porn movie or getting a hooker.

just say things with confidence and find something that will break the ice. sometimes just saying "hello i saw you and i wanted to meet you" is good enuff believe or not. i have done it and it works...sometimes. it shows you have big balls. just do 4 things:

1) be urbane and dont be showing your teeth

2) confident

3) be brief and get the number

4) always look in her eyes.....if you look anywhere else you are fucking up

 

My new years resolution is to stop being a pussy and put myself out there more.

 

Those two things work magic!

 

Yeah because working in a drs office is the same as a hotel. :-|


If your just looking for cosigners instead of advice say so instead of disguising it as genuine advice wanted. Putting pussy on a pedestal has gotten you very far.

 

I have to be pushed into asking questions.