Dumb things I have seen on dating website

OH thats right! I forgot about that one. HA! fun times....

 

Seriously. The women on there have illusions of grandeur on there. 5s-6s think they are 10/10s. It's like they shop for the perfect guy. Overweight women DEMANDING an in shape man, etc, make this much, look like this. GTFO.

 

Welcome to online dating my friend and if you're talking IR online dating drop those numbers to 3s and 4s sir lol.
They do treat it like shopping which is why I definitely see it more like a place to hook up more than actually meeting someone to be with. The only difference is you have a better chance of ending up with a good girl if it turns out to be more than a hook up. Just don't go in expecting much.

 

Not even worth it.

 

Wouldn't say that. I met my girlfriend through it and I'm really happy. but I won't be one of those people who act like the shit was easy. I literally went through dozens of duds before I found someone great, but I have to admit thus far its been worth it.
My best advice is lower your expectations, not your standards. Remember people are human and by default mostly disappointing. But without expectations you can't be disappointed so you get to see people through a more realistic lens. Treat it as a solitary experience and not a long awaited beginning of a journey. That way you can laugh about it more than you cry about. Just my bs 2 cents.

 

Very sound advice. I love dating websites as a great tool to study people. Last week I read this women's profile that had a laundry list of people who should not inbox her. I hit her up and say you might as well buy a few cats, deactivate your account, and hang it up... She hits me back DO NOT INBOX ME AGAIN!!!


I don't really have any beef's with online dating... I agree that women who crop out men in photo's are tacky... People who annoy me are the socially challenged.

Her: Hey wasup

Me: (Gives a detailed response) Wasup with you?

Her: nm

I pretty much lose all interest instantly because usually these conversations go no where. I have absolutely no desire to drive a conversation 100% by myself anymore.

 

Youre becoming more mature my friend. Carrying the whole convo is what you do when youre all about the pussy and nothing else lol

 

That's good advice, I'm going to try that out

 

Just don't message/reply to them. Men outnumber women on dating websites anyway.

 

i cant agree with this... the minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for. this is the reason i stopped the whole online dating thing and went back to what we did before we had dating websites and carried pagers... meet people in person out in public.

i felt i was being lazy doing the whole online dating thing. if anything i have no expectations and just roll with the flow these days. maybe it helps that ford models is in my building along with boa steakhouse and the soho house.

let em ask you a question then, shouldn't i expect a woman who wears christian louboutin shoes to be able to walk in them without looking like her ankles are about to break? not saying i only date women who only wear red bottoms but im not going to lower my expectation that women who wear heels whether they are bcbg, carlos santana or payless shoes should be able to walk in them without looking like they are about to fall over on me.

 

That is the worst analogy I have ever heard in my life. May God have mercy on your soul.
My point was date who you find attractive just dont go in expecting them to be something youve dreamwd up. Let them show you who they are and you do the same and maybe youll click. Dude is talking about heels and designer bags. This guy. Smdh

 

did you even read what i wrote? i wasnt even talking about designer bags....

 

I think Dwebpro is trying to say that sometimes one's expectations match one's standards. So to tell them to lower their expectations would ultimately means to lower their standards.

 

thank you! :smt023 i see someone reads posts around here.

 

Expectations in terms of actions. Standards in terms of personality attraction and life gosls. Maybe I should have been more clear my bad

 

define actions, you lost me there.

 

Things they do. For example I personally use to get upset when I would me a woman who wasnt perky or talkative. Always felt like had to all the heavy lofting entertainment wise.

 

And I saw TDK as saying don't lower your standards, but don't expect your standards to be met often. He wasn't saying accept it, just expect it.

Therefore your expectation won't cloud your wishful perception of the new person and you can more easily decide to either keep on stepping..orrr...perhaps willingly decide, despite them not meeting your standards...realize you actually like this person regardless.

Besides, just as one self-evaluates expectations, nothing wrong with self-eveluating your standards also, from time to time. They aren't set in stone.

 

He specifically states the following:
My best advice is lower your expectations, not your standards.

You have freedom to interpret what you want but that is what Dwebpro was pointing to.

That is that part.

About standards.
I think you should step if the person does not meet your standards. It is not fair for anyone to have to deal with shit that they themselves don't bring to the table. This is only if your standards are grounded. If you sitting there saying I want a person to be such and such height you had better be such and such as well.