Cheaters

I have been cheated on in past relationships...like most.

As a kid, my teenage love that I was totally smitten with decided to cheat on me when I went away to bootcamp. I came home, spent time with him, left to go to school and then next time I came home, his friend ratted him out. Took me to her house to bust him. He answered the door in his drawz. I was devastated...since I "loved" him so much. But at that age, a year and a half is a long time...

My last relationship I went to use his ipad to try to get info for my uhaul pick up that day (I was moving into my first place after a long marriage) and I found a bunch of emails between him & some chick. She, begging him for a booty call. He, indicating that's all it could be. Since he was in a relationship and all...when I found out I was upset, but not entirely surprised since I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop he was so good to me...I told him I found the emails, he was at work, then after several unanswered phone calls he came racing over to explain.

I never understood why, if people can't be faithful, why the hell are you pretending to be monogomous and in a relationship. Just call it what it is (or what you want) from the beginning. Let that other person make that decision, of whether or not they want to deal with that.

 

I doubt most plan to cheat. Its totally selfish but not surprising. I myself am completely happy and content but I cant be sure I always will be. I truly hope if the time comes and I crave variety her and I can talk about it and vice versa.
Too many people do it for us to keep ignoring it as a simple moral failing

 

I'm sure, most have their best intentions when deciding to enter a relationship. They do not purposely intend on cheating. Relationships are hard enough without the drama cheating brings with it. I guess it's just a moral obligation, that you have to abide by...if you are in a meaningful relationship with another person, you resist that temptation. I know it's very hard sometimes, but I wish people would remember the consequences and think about them before acting on a selfish desire.

As for you, I truly hope everything works out for you. I see you have mentioned how happy you and your honey are.

Communication is definitely key.

 

Thank you for the well wishes I appreciate it.
On the matter of cheating though I don't think its simple as morality. People who shop lift with no reason other than to get some shit they want make a smaller population than those who constantly cheat. I don't know what the answer is but it goes far beyond scolding people not to cheat because it hasn't really changed anything. Either we get real about the problem or just sit around waiting for the other shoe to drop

 

Been there too and it had a similar effect. You are not going to be thanked for coming with that sort of news, on the contrary - will only bite you in the butt. I have since decided to not bring such news but stay entirely away.

 

I have been cheated on (While being overseas in a sandbox). Never caught someone in the physical act of cheating though. I have found that many (Many, not all or most) women are prone to "Emotional Cheating". As far as emotional cheating goes, I have been cheated on three times and physically cheated on once. It never feels good. It freaking aches in your insides, literally. I also noticed (from my limited experience) that emotional cheating can be just as bad if not worse depending on the situation. And quite frankly, you develop this idea, "since it wasn't physical, we can still work this out". But, you really can't work it out. Trust is gone in both situations and assuming that you aren't married and don't have children together (High Investment in the Relationship), you just want to move on and find a better person to be with. I am sorry that your ex cheated on you. I know it's never easy.

 

alot of guys cant man-up from jump to say im not looking for a relationship. also some guys are dirty macks

 

:freehug:Wonderful post

 

thanks

 

dont cry when he cheats on you.

hell it is in a woman's nature to date a cheater to square him up ?

Jesse James Reportedly Engaged to Paul Mitchell Heiress: Who Is She?



http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/relation...aged-paul-mitchell-heiress-she-194223596.html

 

I'm surprised he gets any at all...he is butt ugly

 

money, fame and a mouthpiece.

 

Isn't it what's on the inside that's counts?

 

haha

get her

:smt033

 

To be fair the woman in the photo is quite the wildebeest herself.

 

He's despicible on the inside too

Play nice petty, I have not had time for caffiane today

Agreed LOL and that is a perfect descriptor.

 

His inside is rotten. Dumb ass women who go w him, they will be cheated on.
Yes, I do believe people can change but his cheating is on a whole other level. I doubt he is done.

 

no more avatar buns

damn

 

Dey had to sit down, dey taaard

 

you can take the geek out of houston but you cant take houston out the geek..