Your parents were happy of your black/white dating ?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by ladyfrancy2001, Oct 7, 2012.

  1. Caerdydd

    Caerdydd Active Member

    My mother was asked a few years back at work how would she feel if her sons brought white girls home, her response; "It doesn't matter at all what colour the girls are but I'm expecting them to bring white girls home seeing as they spend so much time with them" :smt045
     
  2. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member


    That's so sweet of you to say...thank you, Mel! :smt058
     
  3. Addolorata

    Addolorata Active Member

    Well I've never dated anyone, but from what my parents and grandparents say, they want their grandchildren to actually "resemble" them in some way or form.
     
  4. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    They do know that even if you married a white guy they could end up not looking anything like them right?
    I never understood that.
     
  5. justmel

    justmel New Member

    That bother me too, every kids gets one half their dna from each parent, they will look something like you in some small way.
     
  6. Addolorata

    Addolorata Active Member

    You're right though, it's just the fact they would like their grand kids with european features :???:
     
  7. weird

    weird Member

    lol......your mother is a very stupid person....
     
  8. APPIAH

    APPIAH Well-Known Member

    Meaning the kid dare not have a flat nose or thick lips or mongoloid eyes. Very open- minded of them
     
  9. APPIAH

    APPIAH Well-Known Member

    Meaning the kid dare not have a flat nose or thick lips or mongoloid eyes. How very open- minded of them
     
  10. Addolorata

    Addolorata Active Member

    They should just say it straight out instead of sugar coating it. It's like they think im stupid -_-
     
  11. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    my mother was explicitly against me connecting with WW, period

    i endured daily racism when I was in k-8 school, so it was not without warrant

    but alas she's passed on, so i'd like to think that in her new-found state of consciousness that she'd be more accepting, as long as they had a good heart.
     
  12. Blacktiger2005

    Blacktiger2005 Well-Known Member

    My family was against my dating my current wife. Prior to us getting married we dated for three years. My wife's family was also against her dating me. At one point in our relationship when we were dating I told my lady that it may have been better that she did not involved herself with me and that maybe she should move on and find someone else, because all of the grief we both were receiving from our families. At one precious moment she said to me that "It's my decision, let me make the call on this, I love you and nothing will ever change that". It was her committment to me and not her family or mine that sealed the deal for me. She had more courage and fortitude than me. I love this woman and I will die for her.
     
  13. Arwen

    Arwen New Member

    What her mum said isn't nice, but telling to somebody that their mother is stupid isn't nice either....

    Yes... that was a nice post, smile boy:)

    Tiger, that is beautiful <3 so glad to hear things like that happen. What are the relationships with the 2 families now, if I can ask? They still don't approve?
     
  14. Blacktiger2005

    Blacktiger2005 Well-Known Member

    There are cracks in the armor on both sides. Much of that is due to the grandson. My father and her father do not speak to each other. It has now been almost four years since we have been married. My mother and her mother do have conversations with each other. In fact, her mother want to have the grandson for the holiday season coming up. I'm a little reluctant to do that. I guess women are more forgiving than men. I can understand my father's reluctance to my marriage. He is now 81 and came up through more difficult times. Her father does not accept what he calls "race mixing". I think the grandson will be the "agent of change" if I can use that expression to make a softer impact on both sides. My son has his mothers eyes and is sharp as a whip. He has a way of getting to your heart. He loves his Nanas (grandmothers). In fact, when he last talked to my wife's mother he told her he loved her and want to see her more. My mother has also become attached to him. Where all this will lead to I do not know.
     
  15. MilkandCoffee

    MilkandCoffee Well-Known Member

    My Mom doesn't care who I date.

    My Father would be a hypocrite since he's white and my half brothers are white
     
  16. Megan312

    Megan312 New Member

    My parents are from the south, and they didn't let me date anyone cos they are conservative, Catholic and all that jazz. So, needless to say when my dad found out about me hooking up with black men he flipper. He became this completely different person, grew distant and needless to say my life hasn't been the same ever since. He didn't tell my mom till I moved out. She doesn't approve, but atleast talks to me once in a while
     
  17. mama

    mama Well-Known Member

    This right here. My family would be shocked if i dated a white guy, i never have. They don't care.
     
    Last edited: Nov 12, 2012
  18. Since1980

    Since1980 Well-Known Member

    I love many, many things about the South but that kind of mentality is not one of them. It's not as bad in the bigger cities but in smaller towns and rural areas? It really does make me a bit sad.

    I've dated women of all races over the years but my attraction to White women has been getting much stronger over the years. My parents would not be surprised at all if I ended up marrying a White woman. They would probably care just a little bit though lol.
     
  19. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    i would believe that you are right. i would like to believe that all knowledge is revealed
     
  20. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    that's what i'm assuming you know...

    on some real metaphysical shit:smt033

    i'd believe that heaven was full of everyone from all walks of life, all corners of the earth, all time periods

    she'd come to realize that it was best for me to 'just be happy' than to discriminate

    with that said, i have found happiness in the past and present with ww, bw, asian women, latinas....etc :D

    she'd be doing this:partyman:
     

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