Your parents were happy of your black/white dating ?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by ladyfrancy2001, Oct 7, 2012.

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  1. Iggy

    Iggy Banned

    My parents dont give a shit.
     
    Iggy, Oct 12, 2012
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  2. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    My parents hated it in the beginning. I was never allowed to date black guys when I was living at home, but when I left home to go to school I went out with who I wanted to. When they found out I was dating black men, they had a fit and demanded I stop. I basically told them to mind their own business and continued doing what I wanted to do.

    Of course they had no intention to shut up about it, so the demands & lectures continued (not that it did them any good). Then the shit really hit the fan when I got pregnant. Dealing with my parents through the whole experience was a nightmare. They were freaking out, especially my mother. They worried about what the baby would look like and about what everyone would think. They said & did everything they could to make me feel like shit about it. I remember the first time I felt the baby kick...it should've been an awesome moment, but the look my mother gave me when I got excited about it killed all the joy I felt in that moment. Just remembering that moment still stings a little bit.

    After my son was born (their first grandchild), they fell in love with him. It took them years to accept my choice to date black men, but the day my son was born was when they started down that road. They have grown & learned a lot, and now they have no issue with it at all.
     
    Tamstrong, Oct 12, 2012
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  3. Beasty

    Beasty Well-Known Member

    Damn
     
    Beasty, Oct 12, 2012
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  4. Cherok33

    Cherok33 Well-Known Member

    Tam, this is such a sad story. I'm glad your parents finally came around for you, but all of the emotional damage they did prior to your child being born is such an unfortunate thing to live with...
     
    Cherok33, Oct 12, 2012
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  5. justmel

    justmel New Member

    Tam, I am so sorry you went through your pregnancy with so little support, the great thing is that they love your son and have grown but I hate that they were not there for you. Hugs.
     
    justmel, Oct 12, 2012
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  6. SexyBaltimorean

    SexyBaltimorean New Member

    Yeah, the outskirts. Why you ask? LOL
     
    SexyBaltimorean, Oct 12, 2012
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  7. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Because that shit ain't no where near the same here. I guess because there's a number of hispanics up here who can "pass" so they get a pass
     
    The Dark King, Oct 12, 2012
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  8. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Nope, they are not happy with my choice..we have spoken or seen each other about twice in the past 6 years due to my preference. Oh well, my kids and my brother accept my choice, as do my friends. I have a aero tolerance policy when it comes to racism. No matter who the perpertrator is.
     
    stiletoes, Oct 13, 2012
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  9. saintaugusta

    saintaugusta New Member

    I told my mother the other night to stop trying to hook me up with white men because I don't like them anymore - I think black men are better. I told her I want to have a mixed race child if I ever do have a child and she had better be happy with it.

    She told me black men are not known to have "Good Christian Values" and I told her not to talk to me like that because it is crap, basically, and I don't like it.
     
    saintaugusta, Oct 13, 2012
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  10. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    My parents really don't care who I date as long as I'm happy...with the conventional exceptions of course.
     
    Morning Star, Oct 13, 2012
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  11. Nikkers

    Nikkers Well-Known Member

    Quote from my mom back in 2008... "I don't care if he's purple, if he looks after my daughter, he's a keeper". That was after my aunt asked my mom about my new bf and if he was white or not.
     
    Nikkers, Oct 13, 2012
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  12. Tony Soprano

    Tony Soprano Moderator

    Same here. My moms would either ask me if it was April Fool's Day or she'd be looking for Ashton Kutcher with his camera crew from Punk'd. lmao
     
    Tony Soprano, Oct 13, 2012
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  13. justmel

    justmel New Member

    Made me laugh! So funny!
     
    justmel, Oct 13, 2012
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  14. Be-you-tiful86

    Be-you-tiful86 Well-Known Member

    My mom is only unhappy if I choose a guy who does not treat me good and/or is disrespectful to our family,regardless of what his color is.
    My dad just wants me to stay away from guys in the US military,as they don't exactly have the best reputation when it comes to dating overseas.
     
    Be-you-tiful86, Oct 14, 2012
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  15. saintaugusta

    saintaugusta New Member

    I've always been suspicious of military men too.
     
    saintaugusta, Oct 14, 2012
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  16. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Thanks, y'all. It was a hellish experience, but getting through it all made me stronger.
     
    Last edited: Oct 15, 2012
    Tamstrong, Oct 15, 2012
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  17. justmel

    justmel New Member

    You are an amazing person!
     
    justmel, Oct 15, 2012
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  18. Arwen

    Arwen New Member

    Damn, yes. Too much drama. Never again.
     
    Arwen, Oct 15, 2012
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  19. Soulthinker

    Soulthinker Well-Known Member

    Yes,the brothers in my country has a rep that lasted for more than 60 years when it comes to the military. However,they are the only ones other than tourists date girls from Germany. I see the lists on Black Planet of German women which is large like the ones in Canada,and the UK. What I like to know if if the US brothers in the service are not good and the African men are not good because they want visa to live in either Italy or Germany then, what do they want?
     
    Soulthinker, Oct 15, 2012
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  20. Glassesgirl2

    Glassesgirl2 New Member

    My mom actually met him and didn't know we already knew each other. She said, "honey, you should date him. He's nice, you guys have a lot in common and he's really cute" I think shes shocked now, but I don't think it has anything to do with him being black. She's just a mom and worries!
     
    Glassesgirl2, Oct 19, 2012
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