Healing after a breakup

It's a process. Four months later I'm NOW starting to feel normal again.

 

I am not sure, whether I could make clear, what I am trying to say.. what depresses us, are our non-fulfilled expectations, that you are losing someone important and that our dreams are destroyed. So we listen to music, try to meet friends, to keep ourselves busy.

But, when you start to see the whole situation out of another perspective, it helps very much. It's just a different way to heal your heart. Someone told me once

Babe, I cannot eat in the morning, because I have to think of you
Babe, I cannot eat in the midday, because I have to think of you
Babe, I cannot eat in the evening, because I have to think of you
But the worst is Babe-
that I cannot sleep in the night, because I am damn hungry!!!

 

I hit the gym,

hit the hairdressers,

get my nails done, hands and feet,

get a facial,

go out,

surround myself with friends,

and get revenge by looking good and feeling happy about life.

 

that is very true

haha Cri, that's one of the silly things we used to write on each other's school diary when I was in middle school! Memories

fuck yeah :smt066 same thing i'm gonna do, Imma be the sexiest (plus size) police officer ever for Halloween!

 

WOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO that is what I like to hear.... Hope you post your police officer photos Arwen.... Go and make yourself look as hot as you can be, proudly display you hotness and happiness....

 

as a man I cant tell you....the way men get over it is not recommened for a woman

 

think i know what you are talking about and i agree, but i don't recommend that approach. why invole an innocent third party?

 

hehe I will start a thread!

 

My last serious relationship took me ages to really recover from.
Him randomly contacting me when I was making progress always set me back a little,and I had a hard time to say "no" and just ignore him,so ended up responding.

What in the end has helped me most was to pick up new habits,and interests.
Started getting my nails done,eating healthier,went back to having photo shoots once in a while,tried out new TV shows,and having "Me days" on that I treat myself to something in one way or another.

I am also grateful that some people always offered an ear and a shoulder when I was feeling down and love sick again. I probably got on their nerves sometimes.

 

dont think a guy would cry over his soup if you take advantage of him sexually for a nite or two



meaningless sex. sign me up

 

In with the new..

Sad to hear all your situations, I know the feeling. 5 months in and I can definitely echo the picking up new habits advice. With oodles of spare time I also picked up some old ones I had abandoned.
For career prospects I moved to a new town, new job, new housemates - feel somewhat isolated but the anonymity, freshness and sense of exploration is somewhat liberating - for now anyway.
It was also good to go through all my stuff, some of which I hadn't used or seen in ages, sort it, keep some, throw some away, pack it all and move into a fresh place. Kind of what was happening within too.

Activity and exercise works too. I run a lot more, sometimes twice a day. That's made the single most amount of difference out of anything I currently do, also picked up a martial arts class, learning a new instrument.
It's not always easy, but it doesn't have to be always sad either. Looking forward to travel, it's the one thing I love most, so I've set goals instead of constantly looking back.