Just an observation

It appears that the hardest part of dating a bm for me was simply dating again.

However, when talking to this guy, who was mostly nice, I am not a "normal" white girl. I think the thing that got him was that I don't eat pork and I think it is rude to write in red ink..just things that came up during conversation, but those are things I learned from my mother. I think my heritage and norms may be difficult for some men to understand and accept. I never really thought about my ethnicity and how it affects my outlook and behavior.

 

We ARE a product of our upbringing, and it's hard to throw those things out, even when, as an adult, you make a lot of changes. Even though I stopped being a Catholic a LONG time ago (I consider myself an agnostic), there are times when I behave in a very Catholic manner.

 

Yes,I have learned to think for myself but some habits are still ingrained. I guess, What I am trying to say is that it is more than just black or white, there are tons of differences based on your heritage. Thanks for understanding.

 

This is common and I was raised the same way. I don't think it is "too weird" for anyone.

 

THanks , I never felt odd about either of these things..I am so glad you have had a similar experience. Maybe he is the one that is odd.

 

If he is giving you shit just because of those things, he if definitely odd!

 

What is your heritage? (considering you don't eat pork)

 

My mother was a Hungarian Jew so her being the first generation to America I think this is some of the reason we did not eat pork.

 

So...are you an observant jew or...??

What is so hard for the men to understand?

 

Im a messianic jew, have you ever been around pigs they are kinda messy..I just never grew up eating pork..Apparently this guy loves pork..I just hated the "not the typical white girl" comment..ouch, Im trying to get comfortable in my skin. My guess after thinking about it, he just wasn't that smart, lol