What we have here is a failure to communicate

I'm babysitting a friend's son, I have had a hella crush on him forever. He says he isnt attracted to ww. He calls to talk to his son and then asks can his son stay here until the am. No big deal, If Ty falls asleep I usually insist on keeping him, why wake him up to get dragged out in the cold? I told him Ty was welcome to stay but I would be dropping him off early on my way out of town.

He proceeds to ask me a million questions about what I am doing, and asking me stupid questions like how will he know if I made it okay, then suggest that we take Ty to the aquarium. I explained once again that I have every intention of going out and staying in Chattanooga for the weekend and he says, "I can't take Ty to a bar." I told him that was true, he couldn't and he hangs up on me.

What the crap? I am hoping the service dropped on his cell phone but who does that? I truly don't understand men.

 

he sounds like a huge lowlife ahole thats using you

 

I agree.

He knows you like him and would do anything for his son. Probably for him too, if he asked you.

Don't mean for you to take that personally... you are a genuinely nice person who doesn't mind doing nice things for others. He sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Because he knows you like him.

I think he secretly likes you too...but like you said, he won't get serious with you because of how he feels about ww.

 

Thanks guys, that is how I feel too a little taken advantage of, I sent him a text and insisted that he pick his son up at eleven when he gets off. I hate to put little man out like that because his dad is being prickish but I also cannot continue to be a doormat just because of a crush.

Let's hope I attract higher quality guys than this.

 

Oh god, that made me laugh. Thanks..

 

It isn't personal, but thanks for being sensitive to my feelings, If he was interested he has had plenty of time to let me know. thanks for the feedback so that I didn't feel like a bitch for asking him to come get his son tonight.

 

Straightforward, thanks friend, I need more honest people in my life.

 

good for you! unfortunately sometimes you have to be a bitch. Otherwise, people will walk all over you. Someone WILL appreciate your kind heart one day. Difference will be in how they reciprocate the support.

 

I will have fun this weekend if it kills me. Now how exactly do I turn caring off? Wanting to get to know people is not always so much fun. I just keep telling myself that it is important to not just stay at home because it is easier.

 

You are in no way being a bitch. You are being strong & sending a powerful message. I say good for you.

 

I was completed thrown over the nick justmel and you being a gal.

 

GOOD FOR YOU>>>BE STRONG

 

Oh I meant, I am just Mel- a nickname for my name not just a male..haha..

 

SA, even you can't make me feel bad right now. But thanks for being my hater, all great people have them.

 

I know - it made me laugh too.... The idea that a cold-hearted parent would use a WW/BW that he is supposedly (not attracted to) to take care of his son - so lame. I would have seen through it in a minute. I expect everyone to treat me horribly - but only certain men really do it well, - treat their kids like shit AND the woman like shit. Can't do it any more. They do not know who they are dealing with. If I become mentally ill as a result of this, granted I will give you your tips, so just listen to my story - I will give you the name, and you can pass it on. I have never dealt with this before in my life but it almost destroyed me.

 

ok sweetheart - just keep telling yourself that. You're just like me. YOu have a LOT to learn.

 

Reported. Very unacceptable. Act your age your 38 not 14

 

TDK, Gay as a cutdown? I don't even consider than an insult, Don't feel like you have to take up for me, I am gonna be fine.

 

My sister is gay - 30 years old. Try again. I know what she is dealing with.