Is there anything off limits in your relationship?

Mail, e-mail, Facebook, phone, diary, room, car etc? My apologies if this is a repost.

1. Dont touch my phone unless you want your feelings crushed. No really i hold my phone very dear to me, i know you feel that its your god given right to go thru my phone but NO. I still like some forms of privacy in a relationship.:

2. Stay off my XBOX Live profile and go fuck up your own game. One of the worst feelings when you invest 300 plus hours in game just to come home to see that it was erased "mistakenly".

 

My phone, my email, my folder on the computer, my sims games. That's pretty much it. I don't mind my man looking at my phone if he asks, my email (as well as his) is private, but I have nothing to hide (and neither does he), so we often ask each other to check our email accounts for important emails if we can't do it ourselves. My folder on my computer doesn't hide any secrets, but it's my stuff...full of photos of my fav celebs, a little bit of porn, my fiction writing and my art & photography etc. I'd just prefer if no one went through that without asking permission first.

But my Sims games are majorly off limits. I don't let ANYONE play my games. They can start their own and mess that up, but don't touch MY families. :smt011

And I have no desire to look at his emails, phone etc. I think that's an invasion of privacy and would never do it unless he asked me to.

 

My bank account, everything else is fair game.

 

I have to cosign this.

Unless we are married or engaged and it is a joint account, my money is my money and your is yours.

I am an open book for anything else. If my partner needed to go through my phone, emails or computer and files it wouldn't bother me. I give full trust in a partner until it is broken.

 

Hmmm

I would definitely say my phone and Facebook. If we are together, I am always faithful but I cannot control what other men might say on my Facebook or a random text. Men who are jealous is not sexy...i have male friends. Most women do. I am not responsible for your feelings getting hurt.

 

All my shit is off limits, tbh.

Maybe it's the only child in me.

 

Everything???

 

Quite a few of my married friends have joint facebook pages with their partners, I like that idea, besides I don't use mine so much sometimes, even take the page down, so it would be totally ok with me to share a profile with him.

 

Facebook, Email, match.com account, phone, etc.,. sure. At the point where we start trolling through each others personal accounts, it's a good sign that we already have trust issues.

 

:smt081:smt081:smt081OH is that what you meant, sorry my mind was more in the gutter...... So um ok then....

 

Cute pix Curly <3

 

Oh thanks Cherok....

 

Based on my last relationship. I agree

 

Lmao that no one caught Jaisee's match.com reference

Personally she can look at anything she wants aside from savings abd money market accounts. Aside from financials everything else is minor. She can look at my phone abd fb at the risk of her own emotional well beibg if she wants

 

I'm actually the other way around on that. Look at my bank account all you want... run a credit report, whatever.

 

Hmm...

I've shared a bank account before, for documentation reasons when we were thinking of him moving to Canada with me after I graduated. Even though we "shared" the account, he didn't really have access to anything, didn't know the PIN number, didn't have the bank card, etc. My money was still mine, his was still his.

I'm pretty open with other things, even with friends. Like, my phone.. if I was driving and had a passenger, I'd ask them to tell me what the person said, and to type a reply for me. If more than one person, my I'd pass my partner the phone first. There isn't anything on there that he could possibly find that could've been "bad" anyways. If I have a lock on my phone, I have something to hide.

Like Sin, when I couldn't sign into something myself but it needed to be done... I've shared my password (for my school account and for email) so that a partner could do it for me.

It all depends on how much I trust you and if I think you'd actually go snooping around or not. I think that even the most loyal person could look like a cheater if their partner was going to really dig around and TRY to find something.


The only thing I wouldn't want someone going through, is my kindle/ online books... losing my pages, not cool!
There's probably some other stuff but unless actually asked to do so, I wouldn't think of it/them.

 

Well actually I did see it, I am sure the others did too... The funniest part of it is that it could be true..... :smt043:smt043

 

My mother went through a bunch of pics I accidentally downloaded off of my camera - all 600 of them - just LOOKING for "something". She found it. I didn't even know there was anything on there to worry about - forgot I had taken pics of some erotic/expressive artwork I had done (about 4 or 5 in total). She went apeshit - I was deeply angered and offended because I was in my 30s, an art student, and have strong opinions regarding the sanctity of artistic expression. I looked at her in utter disdain and disgust - for her simpleton-like approach to life, her provincial shockability, and the fact that she was trying to SHAME ME in an area of my life where I AM THE EXPERT and she is the fool (art). Sorry - it really made me angry and still does to this day.

I felt as though she had walked in on me naked in the shower and was standing there critiquing my body - it was obscene. If a man did that to me I'm not sure how I would handle it - but any man who criticized my artistic expression or tried to make me feel like a morally inferior person would NEVER be in my life. I've had enough of that bullshit from my own parents to last me a LIFETIME.

 

:smt045 Agreed on the bolded part!

 

Really? I hate those people. I feel like they are Siamese twins. Then when they make a comment or post they have to start out and say this is John......or this is Mary. Get you owwwwwn FB and give your SO access. Have an identity.

I think I agree with this. I only want access to what they are comfortable with sharing. I don't want to be trolling around on them looking for stuff.