Very stressful week, probably life changing too. Someone close to me had a breakdown after a family issue and falling out and wanted to put an end to their life,,,,,,,,, I can not tell you how sad and concerned I am, I have never seen someone melt down like that, cry until they cant breathe and collapse from lack of energy at the end of it. I did not and have not left their side, to the point of sleeping in the same room as this person to make sure they were safe for the past two nights. I have rung in sick at work for the past two days and took this person to the doctors...... Not sure what to do after that, I am in a new job and can only call in 'sick' so many times....... I will continue to remind this person that they are loved, blessed in so many ways and that this will pass with time...... I am not qualified for this, and have made many calls whilst they are asleep to know what to say........ If it happens again in my presence I will call an ambulance however,,,,, but one thing is for sure,,,, I will not stop trying to help..... If anyone here has seen or dealt with this please let me know what measures you took to help that person...
i hope this helps. i have delt with my share of situations similar, the thing i always tell people is things always get worst before they get better and in life no matter what we can always play the hand of cards we are dealt.
If the person is suicidal, they should be under watch by professionals. Did the medical professionals not help you/your friend in that way? CB, you're in my prayers. I pray for strength and the continued ability to be there for your friend, and I pray for answers and wisdom. You're doing the right thing. And one day, your friend will hopefully be deeply grateful.
Their dopamine is out of whack. Agree with Ches, they need medical/mental intervention or at least have them speak to suicide hotline professionals. Goodl luck CB. Prayers for you and your loved one.
The doctor provided a referral to the hospital for my friend... But that was it. I couldn't make them go, but decided to just be there instead. Thank you for your prayers, they are much appreciated....
Thanks Bliss and DeNiro, I am exhausted but until I drop I won't be giving up trying to help. I know how blessed we all are in life compared to what else goes on around the world, I hope that I can just pass this idea on... And yes Bliss, I agree with the whole medical/mental intervention. The doctor spent over an hour with my friend but could not convince the person to go to hospital.... I will however take the choice away from them next time if I notice a downwards spirral like that again....
If they mention it again, or you believe he/she is very serious and has the means to end their life, TAKE him/her to the hospital. Don't ask them if they want to go. This subject is a very sensitive one for me. You're doing the right thing by staying with them. Sometimes, just being confronted by a professional is enough to make them understand that suicide is not truly the route they want to go. If you need help, I would suggest that you call a suicide hotline to get advice on how to help your friend. And, if you can, ask others to help you so you don't burn out. Hugs to you, CB.
CB, I agree with all that's been stated previously. You are not qualified medically to deal with all of the underlying issues this friend has, by no means can probably understand everything, but the tremendous amount of empathy, love, support, and friendship you have for this person speaks volumes through your actions. It is best to let the professionals help your friend. I, along with everyone else, will pray for your continued strength, wisdom, and faith.
The first thing you need to know is that while your concern and friendship is very valuable to this person, so don't stop that part, you are not trained to help them with what they need and will wear yourself out first before you can effectively help them. If they are a danger to themselves, even if it's in the middle of an emotional moment and would pass or not be present if they we not so stressed out, they need to be assessed. And possibly hospitalized. A suicide threat is just as serious as threatening to kill someone else. They will act first and then ask questions later. Call 911 or whatever your equivalent is. Tell the dispatch that you have someone who is NOT coherent and is threatening to commit suicide. They will come get them and take them to the hospital and the hospital will do a BHR. Then you can rest and know that they are safe and you don't carry all that weight that will cause you to break down.
