spank your child or not to spank?

Yeah, we were some little devils. My grandma didn't spoil us(expect with awesome food), she didn't play that shit. Plus, she was a teacher, so she didn't just hand shit out.

 

And look how 'cheeky' you turned out to be :smt112

 

lol exactly :smt003

i will be honest and say that if either of my parents dared to lay a finger on my children, i would go through them. i don't spank my children and no one else are to spank my children, EVER

should say though that neither of my parents just adore my children and spoil them rotten and have never raised a hand to them

 

My grandma and granny NEVER had to punish me...only my other sisters. I was good and I absolutely adored them. Which was why I never understood why my parents spanked me so much. My sisters deserved it far more than I did. They were headstrong and willful, but I would have obeyed from simply the threat of having a book taken away. But noooo, they had to pull out the belt on my bare ass on the slightest provocation. Fuckers. :smt092

 

My (former) brother-in-law went after my nephew with a belt at my house on a weekend visit. I grabbed the belt from him and screamed "Not in my house!" Using a belt is not a spanking, imo, but a beating. The kid needed it, but that's another story. Lol!

 

that's why you got these bad, disrespectful asses running around doing anything they want

parent's dont take the belt to these kids tails anymore

nothing a little rotc or military school can't fix tho:smt045

 

Or you could just remain consistent, strong and a good example for your children and they can learn that way.

Interesting thought. If you were to take to a stranger with a belt because they did something you didn't like, you'd be arrested. How's doing that to your own child, your flesh and blood, someone you love more than life itself, justifiable or right?

Bottom line is if you cannot parent and steer your children in the right direction without abusing them physically or emotionally, seek help

 

It would piss me off in high school when I would see these muthafuckas in class disrespecting the fuck out of the teacher. I remember in my geometry class, there were some disrespectful ass muthafuckas in my class. Calling the teacher by their names without adding Mr. n' shit and never did anything about it. He was too nice. Somebody needed to get up in their asses. I'm hoping their parents were more concerned about discipline than trying to be their damn friend like a lot of parents are trying to be these days.

 

He's in the Air Force and he still needs it.

 

There is no standard rule for disciplining kids so postulating on how to discipline a child might not work in all cases. Spanking worked for some, whipping with a belt or cane worked for some smacking across the lip worked for some. I have watched in horror as 11 year olds throw tantrums and are rude to their parents and the parents pleading sheepishly to the kids to stop.

 

Every human throws tantrums, including adults. You want someone to belt you? You're bigger than them. You are not trained to know the extent of your strength upon a child. Keep your beating hands to yourself, IMO.
Children can be taught proper etiquette and behavior without beating them. You can restrain them, yell at them, remove privileges or ignore them. All beatings do is painfully force them into humiliating submission.

 

Every one of these children died at the hands of a parent or caretaker who felt the only way to discipline them or quieten them, was to put their hands on them.

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And this one, this one..right here??....
Sorry, she would learn what it's like to feel someone put their hands on them, alright!

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As i said there is no one way to discipline a child. In MY house if a child is living under MY roof i strictly abide by the rules spare the rod and spoil the child. Thankfully no one has the right to tell me how to raise my child. What other parents do to their children is none of my business. The topic is to spank or not to spank your child if you spank your child you say it and give reasons why and if you dont you say the reason why and it ends there. Pontificating and saying a parent needs help because that parent whips his child is arrogating to oneself the title of an all knowing person who is an expert in child rearing. Funnily enough i know kids who have been traumatized and psychologically fucked up by being yelled at constantly by parents. To each his/her own.

 

Oh Bliss that just upsets me beyond belief, so upsetting....

 

i give up then

maybe some people are just naturally off-kilter like that

 

People who hit their children have serious mental health problems. How can you assault someone you truly love? I wouldn't beat my girlfriend so why would I beat our baby? I want my child to grow up loved, confident and happy.... I don't get you guys and I guess I never will.

The unsettling thing is you would probably beat other adults if it weren't out of fear of retaliation or arrest.

Violence is a very primitive solution to a problem. Thankfully society is evolving and the dinosaurs are dying out Peace

 

You guys? Who is you guys??

 

I believe in spankings. Kids will try you. It ain't happening here. My kids know without a doubt I love them to death, but also my word is the law. I witnessed a child throwing a tantrum on a Walmart floor for some candy. I was SMH. My mother whooped and switched me (rarely) but I got em. And they were needed, trust me lol. I remember one in specific. I was kicking a soccer ball over the house (dumb childhood game) and I was warned not to break a window. Well guess what, ball through the kitchen window. I got the belt while rolling across the bed. We both cried lol. I was puzzled asking myself, why the hell she crying I'm the one getting my ass beat. I came to realize when I had kids it hurt her to hurt me. And to this day I'm still a mamas boy who turned out great and up standing. Some children may not need to be spanked, I did. And I think I'm due for one now! (Drink lots of water and bring your belt!) lmao.

 

I still say a spank with a hand on a fully clothed bottom is different than a beating with a belt or something that could leave a bruise. I don't have mental problems and my son is a fine young man, despite getting spanked. And I have no residual trauma from having been spanked. I do, however, have issues with my mother that stem from verbal putdowns that have been far more damaging to me than a spanking ever was.