Ever feel guilty about dating a white woman??

I'm gonna say this shit one more time..NOT GUILTY

WHY BE GUILTY OF A THING OF BEAUTY INTERRACIAL BLACK/WHITE LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL....AGAINNOT GUILTY!!

 

You can't discredit his posts so swiftly.

If we, as a society carried ourselves better with these types of relationships, it wouldn't be as big of a problem in the eyes of some people as it is now. There are things that society obviously could have done and avoided to improve the prosperity of all interracial relationships.

You have to realize that part of the reason that blacks are in the position that they're in today is because they naturally don't really have a full solidarity or connection within the men and women of their own race. The media realizes that there are different classes of black men and black women, so they decide to make it "natural" for black men and women to date out. So it is not necessarily about genuinely liking white women/women of other races, society partially imposes it on us to like them. We don't arbitrarily say first, "I like white women/all other women." Society and the media tells us what we should like and that's why we like it. That is why critics argue that people in interracial relationships like the race of the person and not the person for who he or she is.

My family and myself (being blacks from a foreign country) don't even feel a connection, socially and politically with some of the American blacks here. So we end up moving to people who we could relate to from other ethnic groups. I don't even have a lot of friends who are black men or black women. Most of my friendships are composed of white people and people of other races. Sometimes, I wonder and ask myself why? That's at least one reason why I ended up here.

SirNice, don't worry about these people. Stay here, I understand your POV.

 

:smt043why you fuckin with him dawg!!Lmao:smt043:smt043:smt043

 

just because everyone is not in agreement or feel differently brush that shit off and keep going everyone here on the forum is not going to be in agreement or feel the same way or even see his/her point i been here since 2007 and i have said some real stupid shit and i guarantee you i will say something else stupid and when i do/ did i got my ass burnt i'm still soaking ass for saying something stupid... it was not in accordance with some others think and i got heated he shouldn't be pissed off cause everybody is not feeling what he feel.Brush that shit off keep this shit moving fuck what the next mofo think..I'm going back to white women feet and posting pretty toes.much more fun

 

I said some stuff that was over the line too. Got soaked on here also. I'm not knocking on the people here on this site. The post I made before reflects our reality, which we have partially created for ourselves, whether it was intentional or unintentional.

 

Honestly people come here to provide opinions, learn,and share experiences; but it is almost impossible here. My opinion thus far is that any opinion that does not flow with the norm here, not cliche, or not politically correct it is not heard. Maybe my words are harsh, I am not a writer or journalist. But I am a black man, one would think white women here would very interested in knowing genuine feelings from an open and thinking black man. But I guess that is not true.

Well, I value the wise opinion above from my foreign born brother. But the feeling I have is not so much from society, unless my immediate family is considered society which it can be. First of my grandfather lived in a time of injustice , he was lied to cheated false imprisoned by white people...he was not what I would call a racist but he was very not very trusting of them...he'll I was even chased by three truck loads of rednecks for no unstandable reason when I was younger...who knows what would have happened if I didn't evade them.....and to think I am not grown enough, close minded, not understanding ,etc because I have a split second of reflection is crazy...I am no one track minded simple baffoon....I think I am profound, try to stay cognizant of everyone's viewpoint, open, willing to learn and grow....


Maybe when I post the date only white women bc they are better than black woman by far thread I will get applauded then

 

I'm not stopping you from posting your opinions or sharing your experiences. Stop crying about it and feeling sorry for yourself.

Not by me. Very childish btw.

 

I am a proud black man and I only feel sorry for all of the complete devoid of realiy in here...such a great opportunity to share and learn corrupted by glib statements and sugarcoating

 

Ok, share how it's ok for someone's skin, eye, and hair color make you feel negative and like you're betraying elderly black people because of how they were treated and thought negatively of because of their skin, eye, and hair color.

 

It's very unfortunate that your dad (your family and yourself) had to endure those harsh realities. But bear in mind, so did my parents, and parents of everyone here who underwent racism beyond reproach. You're never alone in all this. This is why people like your dad, just by being alive and overcoming those adversities paved the way for a more progressive future.

But those times have waned and despite ignorant individuals still exercising a faux reality of supremacy, our mothers and fathers and people before them would encourage you to keep on fighting through education, kindness, and self-empowerment of believing oneself. In the end, your mind shouldn't hold the negative thoughts perceived by others. Rather, you should relish and embrace your own means of happiness and if it means loving someone who doesn't share the same phenotype, then so be it.

Live with love and prosperity.

 

To be fair to the OP I can see where hes coming from. Like GQ and BBW said you like what you like and there should be no guilt involved but like the OP said bm deal with large amount of mind fuckery for our preference when it comes to dating ww from the black community. I cant tell you the amount of times people tried to spin it like I was ashamed of being dark skinned or that I didnt have a good relationship with my mother. Like its been said by other members like Tam and XO this IR shit is not for the feint of heart. Youre going to deal with shit people who date monoracially or who date wm never have to deal with.
Then theres other side of the family perspective where you have younger girls in your life who dont feel beautiful because not only do they not get the attention white and hispanic girls get fro. the media but men of their own race ignore them in favor of ww and hw. Not to mention the sting of seeing the men in their family do it too. If youre an empathetic person you can almost feel their isolation. I know speaking of bw on this forum can make you persona non grada but I get where the OP is coming from. But it is what it is we like what we like and should never have to apologize for it.

 

Because its not all about porn and sports. Why do you people who dont like the thread conti ue to post in threads you dont like. Occupy another thread its as simple as a click of the mouse damn

 

HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLL no. Not once. Ever.

 

Good points. I tried to rep you, but I have to spread it around.

I would say the BM who has never contemplated his feelings about WW is either patently dishonest or woefully ignorant about the world around him.

 

SirNice, as a white woman, I DO want to hear the honest feelings and reflections of a black man (respectfully so). I have had many thoughts/questions that I haven't voiced here due to the negative reactions they might get. Nothing I would ask or say would be meant to be disrespectul. Ever. But my ignorance of things might be seen as such.

As for your post, I can sympathize. I can't say I completely understand, of course. But it sounds as though you feel you might be letting down your family for not following what was expected of you. I deal with that with my parents. They had certain expectations of me and my choices and I'm not falling in line with those expectations. I'm following my heart and what I want and like. It's hard sometimes, feeling as though I'm letting them down. But I'm doing nothing wrong. I'm simply not fulfulling their expectations.

 

Precisely! thanks, Ches... After reviewing some of SirNice's responses to the attacks, I'd say he is the one who is truly analyzing his emotions. As opposed to some of the PC robots in this joint. He's in the middle, difficult part - it's only he who can decide if he will come out the other side. This is speaking from an American context, although I know other cultures have their own ethnocentric expectations as well. To me, they can go by way of the dinosaur for all I care. I still stand by my original comment, about feeling no guilt for dating black men (ok, almost no guilt - in public I laugh at it, but I am a little leery of subjecting any man that I like to my father's baleful glare)...

Not only am I not fulfilling his expectations... I am (to him) flaunting my sexuality in his face. Anything as simple as wearing a bathing suit at 12 years old would have been seen as such in my family. So I gravitate toward big, tall, strong, fierce men who will protect me from my father's rage - the rage that kept me in fear for so long as a child. In their shadow, he has to back down and let me be myself. It's not a single person, it's just an "idea", although it started with one black guy. He realized he had lost his "little girl" and there was fuck all he could do about it. That's just fine, because he has my mother. My mother has made it fairly clear as we were growing up that she loved my father more than she loved us.

We never had anyone to defend us or love us especially (my 2 sisters and me)...it's no wonder that we looked for the "opposite"... Someone who didn't remind us of our father, or at least someone who would love us especially above all others. We never had that security as children.

 

No but I see where you are coming from.

 

No but??? And who are you talking to. I'm assuming the OP.

 

I don't date women