Cheaters

I wouldn't cheat.

Why bother being in a relationship then?

If things are going badly, THEN I'd break up and explore my options, but if I'm content, no.

 

Sometimes easier said than done my friend. Like I said I honestly and whole heartedly never expected to be happy with someone. You guys have read my posts, but like I said here I am.
I don't want to cheat and don't see myself cheating but I'm sure countless others felt the same way at some point.

 

Nyx, I am the last to blame anybody..I think you are right with "situations of lifes are different" there are always two sides of the coin..

I think the people are correct, when they say that cheating isn't the solution, but I also know that sometimes you cannot solve the problem immediatly, but the pain you feel, whether it is now disappointment or the non fullfilment of wishes or lack of keeping promises..or whatever guides you sometimes to a situation, we never have thought about , before.

As a person that was always cheated on, a person who doesn't see anything else around me, I don't even blame my partners for it anymore. The reason, why I prefer open relationships. Honestly said, I don't care about it anymore, I want a soulmate, if he is faithful or not- I don't care

 

that is a fantastic post christine

 

I agree with this...
{Puts on Jerry Springer Final Thought facade}

People cheat because there is something lacking in the relationship. People cheat also because they lack respect for their partner.
If you allow it to continue, you are only hurting yourself in the long run.
Long and happy relationships take lots of work and communication. If you decide you don't want to do those things, you should just leave your partner before anyone gets hurt.

Take care of yourself and each other....
(Sonny I get the distinct impression that you might watch just a wee bit much TV.)

 

Somebody enlighten me on this fictitious scenario where you MUST cheat because you have no other choice. Are they physically holding you hostage and forcing you to stay in the relationship? Please do, break it down.

 

Nyx, I don't pretend to know the situation you are in, but with anything, there are always exceptions. But you shouldn't respect your husband if he doesn't show you respect.

That's an excuse. It's the "I'm going to set up my excuse for cheating now, so when I do it, I can "honestly" tell myself there was no other way."

There's always another way.

"Honey, my dick just went into her pussy and I didn't realize it was happening until it already happened". Nu uh. It doesn't work that way. Cheating never "just happens". It may not be premeditated (I'm going to go to a bar to look for someone to cheat on my partner with), but if you go to a bar and start flirting with someone, you actively make a decision at that point to either end it at flirting or take it further. There's ALWAYS a point of no return in situations like that.

The question remains if you're strong enough to turn away at that fork in the road. If you don't, then you don't respect the commitment you have with your partner and you don't respect your partner. **

** "You" is used as a general person, not a specific person

As with anything, there are special circumstances, but for the most part, it comes down to respecting your partner and communicating your feelings with your partner before you ever go down the wrong road.

 

I agree back with you....

 

It wasn't so much as a "must" I just happened to fall, ok.. I was walking along.. and I slipped on something - not sure how......and - funny enough - don't know how it happened but this dude was laying on the floor - right where I fell, and - wouldn't you know - weirdly enough - he had no pants on and an erection! We didn't mean to but it was all out of our hands - I promise I didn't mean to!!!!"

 

ohhhhhhh i love it when we just happen to fall on a penis

 

Its my favorite part of falling:-D

 

certainly beats falling on your arse

 

So agree with you two.

 

I'm honestly a little bit shocked at everyones responses.A lot of people seem to think that cheating implies that you are unhappy with your partner or that you have no respect for the person...

I disagree.

The incident that provoked my writing this thread is that my boyfriend (who I love AND respect) was across the country last week visiting his hometown and I went on a date with another man. Ironically... come to find out via an email from some random woman who wants his nuts... he cheated too. Had she not gone out of her way to sabotage him I would have never found out and I have still yet to come clean about the things that I have done. Maybe I'm just a terrible (honest) person but this doesn't seem to hurt my conscious at all.

My logic as that I'm a good looking 23 years old girl, I will most likely NOT end up with this guy forever, and therefore I do not want to put all of my eggs in one basket. I don't think this means that I don't love, respect, and think very highly of him. I enjoy our relationship vastly. When a person cheats I don't think that it's something that someone does TO YOU... it's something they're doing for themselves. The only thing missing in my relationship at the time was... his presence.

"Girls gotta EAT! damn!"

 

Hmmmmmm... so many ways to go with that..........................................................................................................................:smt047

 

i know

 

I kinda agree with you.

 

:smt031

 

Word? Then why not live loose. Why commit? There are a lot of people open to that idea

 

Who said I wasn't with one??

I just saying, and this is solely my opinion: alot of people say they wouldn't cheat knowing if they had the opportunity to they would. Hell, some will say they dont and make a way to cheat. Cheating is a negative characteristic and most people won't own up to having it.