This. This, too. You're getting all bent for no reason. It's obvious they struck a nerve or you wouldn't be so defensive. They aren't attacking you; they're giving you solid, constructive advice. It's silly to get all pissed off just because folks aren't telling you what you want to hear. If you're looking for folks to coddle you by blowing smoke up your ass, it's not going to happen. If you don't want feedback about your shit, don't put it out there. They are 100% correct. Whether it wasn't your intention or you're just in denial is immaterial, because you do come across as whining and feeling sorry for yourself. You're also making a lot of excuses. There's always room for improvement regardless of who you are, but if you're unwilling to improve & grow, then no positive changes will come. If you put nothing into it, that's exactly what you'll get in return. Of course, consciously or unconsciously, maybe your refusal to do anything to improve yourself may be just so you can continue to hide behind your excuses. Some counseling or life-coaching could definitely be beneficial to you. But, if you're unwilling to listen to solid advice from good people, then maybe this will help...
Exactly. I thought your reply was thoughtful and good suggestion. I think animal wants everyone else to change. He doesn't want to meet anyone half way. That is what a relationship is. So he better like being on his own because no one wants to be with someone who wants everyone else to do all the heavy lifting to make the relationship work.
His reply was dumb and so was yours. No one cares what you think because you're wrong. I don't want or care for anyone else to change. And for the record I was meeting you all half way and even admitting some other people were right if you go back and read the first two pages. You don't know anything about me, so don't judge me. Go f@ck yourself, because you're the only one who wants to. Thanks for your bs reply. You can go back to bed now.
So I'll say this again for those of you who can't read and have no comprehension skills whatsoever. I'm not the one who's getting bent out of shape or making a big deal. I didn't ask for your advice or nitpicking about me personally. What I asked about is other countries if you read my OP. But I guess you all like to misintrepret things just to cause drama and troll. And they were being rude and discourteous to me and so are you. No one asked for their supposed "advice". I don't need or want any. Especially from people like you and them. You all are ignorant. And I made it perfectly clear that it's not me who's the problem. It's not that I need to change or improve. I just disagree with how the dating game works. And theres's nothing wrong with that. I can have an opinion, even if it's outspoken. I don't have to just go with the flow of things, just because it's the norm. If I disagree with something, I have every right not to go along with it. And for the record it was jordanz that asked me about my "$hit". If you babies and whiners wanna get all defensive about my response, don't say $hit then. If you can say what you want to me, then I reserve the right to respond how I see fit. It's not my fault you have 0 integrity, ethics, or people skills. Once again, if you think I come across that way, your wrong and you're just taking me the wrong way. Not my fault that your perception is flawed. They and you are 100% wrong. Its clearly you all who need the therapy, life coaching, and to grow. Because I have integrity, ethics, manners, decency, intelligence, and people skills. And that's something you clearly lack. Thanks for the display of ignorance. It's not an endearing quality, but nonetheless it's entertaining.
Gotta love the people who come to this site and inform multiple people how ignorant and incorrect they are when they are all seeing the same type of attitude and behavior coming from them. BIG difference between self assured confidence and defensive arrogance. And why do the arrogant one's always try to make it seem as if they have "people skills" in real life but it NEVER comes across online? If you have genuine "people skills" that comes across whether you're online or off. Period.
In my case I'am not good on women myself however,I would love to learn and use those ideas to date WW. You are fortunate to go to places where there are WW galore and if I was living in Canada or Europe I would experiment and put those ideas into good use. I just saw "Marley" today and they said he was a very shy man but,what was not mentioned was he was a good musician who can carry a note with some charisma. For a brother who is shy and don't have that charsima that's another thing.
I didn't read the last few responses since I last posted because some of you don't listen, just like to argue like children, and are repeating yourselves. Like I said I'm great, I'm not the one who needs to change or "improve" or whatever. It's some of you that need the attitude adjustment. I hope you don't act like that in real life. But maybe it's not your fault, your parents didn't know how to teach you any better. Some people have integrity, class, and common sense, but those who have argued with me clearly don't. Don't get mad at me because I'm not a conformist and I have the balls to admit that the status quo of dating today is flawed. Anyway I'm have better things to do than to explain logic and common sense to idiots who sit in front of their computers all day because they have nothing else to do. Based on some of your posts, you don't seem very educated. You're probably unemployed and living with your folks too. And I think some of you just pretend you have good dating lives online just to feed your ego and impress others that don't really know you. I'm not going to argue with imcompetent losers. Good luck getting your heads out of your asses. If you can't do that, you can always go kill yourselves.
Is it just me or does anyone else notice this Animal person sounds a lot like Alexis "the Firestarter" 89 with this bullshit defensive attitude?
Well if they aren't the same person we could introduce them. And if they are the same....... :smt108 I thought that alexsis sounded like saint a.........ahhh er...tdk sez I ain't allowed to say her name no more cause then she comes. :smt089
Similar defensiveness, however the places Animal mentioned were a cpl remote places that unless you lived or actually visited, you wouldn't know them. They aren't very touristy locations.
