90 day rule is bs but i hope my daughters hold strong to it. hahahah you got that too? hell f*in yeah!
LOL, I was wondering about that. Homeboy seems to think he got himself a naive white project to mold. I guess if a black person isn't acting like a minstrel show stereotype, they aren't keepin it real, they aren't representin, they aren't bout it bout it, they aren't authentically black.
MM - that really cracked me up!!!! GQ, you damn straight it was the last date. I went home right after I plied him off of me and actually never bothered to answer his phone calls after that. If he didnt respect my "NO" I sure didnt think I had to respect him by telling him why I didnt want to see him again. LOL BZ, I dont really have rules, but Im careful by nature (read distrustful) in the beginning and wont go there before I feel comfortable w it... Unless I only want ur bod and nothing else. LOL.
I wouldn't say I agree with him, but I also know he's the only black person to think this way. Again, is 'black' only a genetic trait or a culture as well. Take jews for instance. Yes judaism is a religion, but isn't it ironic that many jewish people share similar physical characteristics as if it were also a race? You might not have any church affiliation and still be considered or consider yourself jewish based on your culture (and also if you mother were jewish, technically). In the same way... what about white people that are raised primarily around black people in black neighborhoods. I won't go as far as to say "wangsta" or "wigger" (yikes) but there is definitely a WAY about them. I know that these are kind of shotty examples but hopefully you get my point.
Let this be a lesson to all of you. We shall refer to the undesirables as they who shall not be named since names really do have power lol
This has everything to do with not being being secure and confident in yourself. Men that suffer from this issue usually have very low self esteem deep inside, and no confidence. Many date white women only to to prove to outsiders they are worthy of love from what some consider as the top of Female sexual politics hierachy. Insecurity can also be the result of abandonment issues, or maybe they were cheated on in the past. Whatever the case, it's an unresolved psychological issue. If the person doesn't do some deep soul searching, and perhaps therapy,It will NEVER get better. Worst case scenario, leave the dude,and look for someone worthy of your time. Just straight talk.
Why all the hate? It's my opinion, if you don't agree, offer a credible retort,, in lieu of high school diatribe. Thanks Alexis, you'll find what I'm saying is true in many regards, despite what others want to think. Whatever the case, do what's right for you.
Whether Alexis is a troll remains to be seen, but personally, I don't get the feeling she is. What I do think is that she's not afraid to ask questions that are sensitive and perhaps what is considered to be politically incorrect. IMO, if she is sincere in wanting answers and understanding, and not just being provocative, then people who can answer her questions and bring knowledge and wisdom could be courteous and provide it. Some here have. Others just continue to want to see her as a troll and a troublemaker. I will say what I've said in the past: Too often, I (and I'm sure others) am hesitant to ask questions or present situations for clarity when it involves someone outside my race. I came here to get questions answered, but seldom ask them. I don't need the resulting insults, deragatory comments and name calling. If I have judged Alexis wrongly, it will become clear in time. If not, I applaud her for her courage.
I hate to get all off topic and I'm not about to engage in another forum argument with your lurker self but I wanted to take a moment to express what a fucking pest I think you are. Holy shit. You're an INTERNET 'MEAN girl' (or try to be) and it's really weird to me. I'm on here to talk ABOUT shit not to TALK shit. I don't think I've ever seen an interesting post from you, although I've only been here sporadically over the past several months. I know that this forum means a lot more to you then it does to me or people like the dude you just now decided to start picking on but 'Red Flag' about fucking what?! Ummm, a generalization was used! 'neener neener'! Fuck you. Also, the red flag picture thing is fucking stupid. Sorry. It is. 'Uhh... good one...'
In general I applaud your "judge slowly" approach Ches, that being said for those of us who have been here for years now, we have seen trolls use every approach imaginable, from starting off asking "innocent" questions, to subtle and subversive pushing of their "agendas", to outright racist site type garbage. The troll "radar" of the longtime members is usually spot on, I know it may seem like newcomers can face undue scrutiny if they are attempting to broach controversial subjects, but such scrutiny is well supported by a long history.
