Is being possessive in a black mans 'nature'?

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Alexis89

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I've been seeing my guy for about 6 months and things are pretty serious for having been together for such a short time. Things have been magical for the most part, but several months in I started to see a really possessive side to him.

I expressed to him that if he was jealous of everything that it showed that he doesnt believe in me and his response was that its 'just in a black mans nature to want ownership of his woman'. In some ways I really like his dominance because i feel protected and femme and I gotta admit that its kinda hot how he refers to my tits/pussy/ass as 'his'... as long as he doesn't actually believe that.

Of course this is not true for everyone, but is this true for you?
 
A person's race has nothing to do with having a possessive/jealous nature. I've seen it in men (& women) of every race. Although I never put up with it for long, I have dealt with a few possessive/jealous black men before, but thankfully not all men treat women like they're property.
 
Alexis89 said:
I've been seeing my guy for about 6 months and things are pretty serious for having been together for such a short time. Things have been magical for the most part, but several months in I started to see a really possessive side to him.

I expressed to him that if he was jealous of everything that it showed that he doesnt believe in me and his response was that its 'just in a black mans nature to want ownership of his woman'. In some ways I really like his dominance because i feel protected and femme and I gotta admit that its kinda hot how he refers to my tits/pussy/ass as 'his'... as long as he doesn't actually believe that.

Of course this is not true for everyone, but is this true for you?
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I'm not sure because I can't speak for all BM.

However, I don't have a possessive personality. My personality is to be more individual.
 
Tamstrong said:
A person's race has nothing to do with having a possessive/jealous nature. I've seen it in men (& women) of every race. Although I never put up with it for long, I have dealt with a few possessive/jealous black men before, but thankfully not all men treat women like they're property.
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If there is a similarity than I would assume it's a question of mentality, not race
 
It's part of an insecure person's nature to be (overly) possessive. Race and/or gender have little to do with it.
 
"in a black man's nature" insinuates that its something genetically hereditary which a lot of folks dont take kindly to.

Now if youre speaking culturally, thats a different argument. One that you would need to elaborate on a lot more. Where did he grow up? where is his family from? how was he raised? etc... These are things a woman should know about her man anyway.
 
It has nothing to do with a person's physiological make-up. Rather, it's the upbringing and attitude that matters more about a person's attitude towards women. Commonly, in a patriarchal society, men like to reinforce a gauntlet of rule...mainly of the "Le Dick" persuasion.
 
Black man's nature? No. Though men in general are culturally conditioned to think they need to OWN things. Countries, land, homes, cars, and, yes, women.

I don't think its a bad thing for a man to claim his woman though. (note claim, not possess). As long as it isn't overboard and stiffing, he is letting his woman know his eyes and heart are his and he expects the same in return.
 
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chesbaygrl7 said:
It's part of an insecure person's nature to be (overly) possessive. Race and/or gender have little to do with it.
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Max Mosley said:
"in a black man's nature" insinuates that its something genetically hereditary which a lot of folks dont take kindly to.

Now if youre speaking culturally, thats a different argument. One that you would need to elaborate on a lot more. Where did he grow up? where is his family from? how was he raised? etc... These are things a woman should know about her man anyway.
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BigBrotherWise said:
It has nothing to do with a person's physiological make-up. Rather, it's the upbringing and attitude that matters more about a person's attitude towards women. Commonly, in a patriarchal society, men like to reinforce a gauntlet of rule...mainly of the "Le Dick" persuasion.
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Great points, y'all.

A lot of things factor in when it comes to a possessive and/or jealous (aka fucked up) mentality. Some are insecure, some are just assholes, & most of it is learned behavior. I know my brothers follow my dad's shitty example when it comes to how they treat women. People raised around that shit tend to think of it as normal because it's all they know.


christine dubois said:
where did you find this adorable sig pic?:D
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I found it looking at funny cat pictures. ;)
 
Alexis89 said:
I've been seeing my guy for about 6 months and things are pretty serious for having been together for such a short time. Things have been magical for the most part, but several months in I started to see a really possessive side to him.

I expressed to him that if he was jealous of everything that it showed that he doesnt believe in me and his response was that its 'just in a black mans nature to want ownership of his woman'. In some ways I really like his dominance because i feel protected and femme and I gotta admit that its kinda hot how he refers to my tits/pussy/ass as 'his'... as long as he doesn't actually believe that.

Of course this is not true for everyone, but is this true for you?
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if he is jealous, hes cheating. my motto. there is no room for that in a relationship however... if a woman is in a monogamous relationship with me then yes, that ass is mine. hahahaha
just like when i tell her i love the way she puts her mouth on my manhood and how its all hers, she can do whatever she wants to it. grab it hard like its yours!
 
dWebPro said:
if he is jealous, hes cheating. my motto. there is no room for that in a relationship however... if a woman is in a monogamous relationship with me then yes, that ass is mine. hahahaha
just like when i tell her i love the way she puts her mouth on my manhood and how its all hers, she can do whatever she wants to it. grab it hard like its yours!
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I wrote to my ex bf not too long ago - I wanted to know how "my" umm, "manhood" was doing...
 
To answer the OP...hell no.

However, I would get out of that relationship ASAP before you end up like Nichole Brown
 
Stereotyping? Ugh

People are people. Smh. I feel like a broken record.

I'm sure they are plenty of possessive men in every race and also several secure, non-possessive men in these groups as well.

Freakin hate stereotypes
 
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