"I'm not being racist, it's just how I was raised"

I have been saying that forever and bros got mad at me for it but its the truth. ww (as far as Im concern) have a lot more to lose if they get into an IR so If a bro is going to get into a committed relationship with a WW knowing her situation he better be ready for some serious shit. Its no joke for her. she is giving up alot for your sorry ass. no games from you negroes. dont lie to her. if its just a physical thang for you let her know so she can handle the activities properly.

 

Many do not want to disappoint those who raised them, especially if certain principles were embedded since youth; They don't want to create any uneasiness that can be avoided.

I was raised in very conservative household, and, out of respect, I will not get any tattoos, piercings, or the like.

 

They may eist but no whefe near what if is here. I have yet to encountwr a Canadian woman who wasnt open to black men. They are decades ahead of us in all progressive arenas.

 

Using "the way I was raised" as an excuse to avoid something is code for two things: 1) I can't think outside the box my family lives in and
2) I'm too weak to follow my dreams/be my own person

 

Saying "I was raised to not be into black dudes" is probably an excuse (that she doesn't need) for her not being attracted to black men... or she's just a fucking tool.

I was raised in a racist household via my father who is Mexican. He spend some time in prison where there are major race clashes plus I'm not sure if many people in other cultures are aware but there is a total underlying disdain for african americans in the hispanic community. While my dad never really used derogatory comments (very often) or tried to outwardly TEACH me to think the way he did there was always an unspoken understanding that dating a black guy was a no-no. Regardless of this outdated ignorant way of thinking my dad is my DAD and I love and respect him no matter his racism. He's fucking old, set in his ways, and this issue is not important enough for me to try to change his perspective.

You know WHY it isn't important? Because I do what I damn well please ANYWAY. I informed my dad I was dating a black man several months ago and although I was a little nervous anticipating his reaction.. I'm a 23 year old woman and I really don't need his approval at this point in my life. We discussed it briefly and he reiterated all of the reasons it was a bad idea but sort of landed on "I don't want to meet him but I can't stop you from doing what you want to do" note...

I said "I know".

 

Liking you a little more right now

 

Someone had one too many drinks with that typing...
Had to read this a few times to "get" it, lmao.

 

Interesting peek @ Alexis89 ^^^^^

My father was extremely cool, very respectful of any men I brought home, making them feel VERY comfortable, and depending on which part of the world they hailed fromm he'd engage them in conversation and be very interested. (My daddy was very friendly, worldly and a great conversationalist.) My mom was cool but pro-GREEK because she was very cultural orientated. She told me " I don't care who you marry, as long as he is passionate and romantic and a good provider, lol.

Ironically, I once casually dated a Black man from quite a well-to-do Texas family and he told me his father was clear he was not to bring a White woman home and was expected to marry a Black woman. I felt bad for him, because he clearly loved WW as well.

 

As you should

 

To me, the fact that she added the bit about not being racist, proves she feels there's something wrong about her excluding non-white men. I mean...if you didn't care, if it was just your preference, you'd just say looking for handsome white man. End of story. Anyone who wasn't white just wouldn't get a look in. :smt102

 

Don't worry bruh. In 15-25 years after she's had the attractive white dude's kid, is divorced and her parents are dead, she'll probably be on a forum just like this looking for an attractive brother. Of course, she'll probably be looking for a younger brother, so you'll be out of luck then too.

Never mind.

 

This was so unexpected from you F, I'm glad to see how evolved you've become with your little vacation from the boards.

Your uplifting and intelligent post has rendered me nearly speechless.

 

I would say my dad is a racist even thou he has had black and Pakistani friends as he is in his 70s and has old school views and no matter how much I try and change his views its not happening lol
I new from a very young age that his views didnt make sense and i was " brought up that way" so if i was brought up that way i should be racist?! but when i was older i saw that people viewed things my way and when I found black guys more attractive I didnt see a problem in that,
but when i told my dad he thought i was tryin to wind him up!! i know if i brought a black guy to meet the folks they would be fine but it just shows if u are "brought up that way" its a load of sh*t as i should be a racist! but i find them dam sexy!!! :smt026

 

:smt043:smt043:smt043

 

It happens in the UK aswell. Sad thing is, they usually find out when it is too late. It's all down to gossip nothing more than "What would certain families think?".
This is within their own race aswell.

Oohh well, it's not my 'race' therefore not my problem.

 

Thats quite true. I cannot see a BM being shunned from other black people for dating a WW. Some may look 'side-ways?' but thats it.

Too funny. I guess thats why some BM feel dating a WW (if they have money and or status) will feel it's more sincere, as she is making a bigger trade-off compared to non-WW.

 

Or theyre just attracted to and really like that particular woman or have always been attracted to ww in general. ;-)

 

Although this person could very well be racist I don't think what she said necessarily means she is. Sometimes white folk say "I'm not being racist" b/c often anything you say that might not exactly be positive about another race (in this case dating other races) is construed as being racist. But I certainly get the reason why it send off a bad signal.

How you are raised does have strong bearing on a person. If you are raised that you just don't do something it can cause you to have no intrest in doing that. That doesn't necessarily mean you a racist or even think their is something wrong with others that do.

I was "raised" not to date out my race. I was thrown the "it's against our relgion" BS. In school I never dated out of my race and I Had no intrest in doing so. None the less a good bit of the group of girls I was friends with did. It's funny cause although I felt this hindrance on me that kept me from dating outside my race I knew that it was wrong to put such a hindrance on a kid and always said I would encourage my kids to date people of different races. I stopped seeing a white guy after I heard him use the n word and I argued with him about how my kids WERE going to be allowed to date outside their race.
I grew into an adult and I have always been the kind of person that is full of my own opinions very different from family. (note family is mom and her side. Meet dad at 12 and then reunited at 16) I remember asking my dad once if he thought it was against his relgion. He said no. Eventually I got over alot BS I was feed. My grandmother raised me to fear black men. I spent alot time by myself growing up even at night cause my mom worked. My granny would say "aren't you scared a black man is going to break in" (note lived in 99% white neighborhood). I knew then that was wrong. I knew alot of things was wrong. But I'm one to face and concur fears. I shouldn't have been doing it but at 14 and up I was getting rides with strangers while walking down the street. Some of those rides were with black men. Was I scared. Yeah honestly I was prob. a little more scared. But I got in any how and I was fine. I eventually was able to get rid of any fears my family tried to distill on me. At 20 I dated a black man. At 23 my preference from white men dissolved and it became black men.

 

Seriously why are you on here again?

 

LOL, Freddy still being Freddy.