Men checking women out or looking at women in public

My problem is why chicks always got to fix they clothes if I so much look their direction? Shit is becoming kinda irritating now because I feel she is giving off a vibe that she finds me as an predator.

 

Depends on how they do it. Leering and drooling is gross. A quick check with a smile is great. This week three cute bm each with a huge drum (I mean that literally), stopped and stared at me and one said "holy shit" (I think he liked my boots & short skirt). That was ok, well because, they were hot.

 

Yep. That's exactly it. You nailed it.

 

Not unless HE turns me off anyway, for some reason.

 

I mean, are we sposed to do it in secret? The way I see it women do themselves up nice for a reason, I'd be rude to just ignore it. Like when mom used to cook, you had to tell her how good it was, show her that you appreciate it. Let us consider the opposite, you get all dolled up, knowing youre looking stunning, and I just walk by like you dont exist... doesnt sound so good.

Well, ladies, if I look what I'm really doing is showing my appreciation, letting you know that I acknowledge what you do

 

and well, so are you :smt050

 

:heart:

 

And that's the difference between creepy and flattering lol

 

Yep!

 

I notice a lot of women like it and some don't seem to. I guess it just depends if they think your hot ,like Brittany said or; it just doesn't bother some of them.

 

Or it's just a question of mood..when I am stressed, in hurry or simply angry (because of someone else or a situation shortly before)-it's just not my thing..I remember lately, a guy was standing next to me at a supermarket, I could feel, how he always turned round and was searching for a possibility to talk to me..I was just looking straight, thinking.."don't do it, just don't do it, I'm going to send you to hell" :axe:.. and tried to get out of this situation, but I have seen him again and again..Hey, that 5 mins have been to me like 5 hrs.

Later, at home, I was thinking, "why???", he was a nice looking man, I was totally unfair

 

LOL! Yeah, I can usually tell when someone doesn't want to be bothered. My friend is really smooth, he can aways say something to make them laugh or put people in a better mood.

 

Like others have said, if the guy is anything from 'ok looking' to 'damn hot' (in my opinion) I don't have a problem with it. If the guy is (what I consider) ugly or gross, then it's just creepy. LOL It all comes down to being superficial at first glance, really.

 

In general, a quick check with a smile I find flattering.

I usually give them a thankyou smile back no matter how good looking they are or are not.

 

I have no problem in doing this. NONE. Take its as a compliment ladies. It's like I'm some creep.

 

Haha! I do this all the time. At the gym I'll keep earphones on my ears with no music playing sometimes pretending I don't hear people trying to talk to me. Most of the time when I'm in a non-talkative mood it's only because I'm in a rush or really focused on meeting a certain goal at the time.

 

Sunglasses are a leerer's best friend

But seriously,
Men are visual creatures, and this society we live in, is saturated with sexual imagery. The average man sees a hundred different women a day and he doesn't stare at most of them. So if you see a man staring at you, it means you stand out of the crowd and are someone to be distracted by.

So, unless the man staring at you is abusive or is staring threw your bedroom window, you should take it as a complement.

 

You KNOW!

ALL girls like to feel pretty and admired... and sexy. Some women are not used to looking at themselves in this way or receiving this sort of attention so they don't know what to do with it when it is given to them. I for one LOVE COMPLIMENTS and want to embrace any positivity exerted in my direction.

Last week, for instance, I was in line at the mini mart standing next to a old smelly toofless homeless man returning cans. When he looked up at me from what he was doing he appeared STUNNED and enamored and after introducing ourselves told me that my smile was like sunshine! I said "thanks! thats really kind of you!". I admit that this made me feel good and I don't care WHO you are or what you look like... I can't find any rhyme or reason to be offended that someone thinks you're beautiful.

Please note that there are CERTAIN ways to 'check someone out' that can be more objectifying and stupid seeming then others. If you're outstandingly handsome you might get away with a lot more then your fellow man, but don't oggle at me like you've already seen me naked or I'll make sure that you never do.