Not sure how people might view the opinion here, but its worth reading anyway... Why women have sex Do you want to know why women have sex with men with tiny little feet? I am stroking a book called Why Women Have Sex. It is by Cindy Meston, a clinical psychologist, and David Buss, an evolutionary psychologist. It is a very thick, bulging book. I've never really wondered Why Women Have Sex. But after years of not asking the question, the answer is splayed before me. Meston and Buss have interviewed 1,006 women from all over the world about their sexual motivation, and in doing so they have identified 237 different reasons why women have sex. Not 235. Not 236. But 237. And what are they? From the reams of confessions, it emerges that women have sex for physical, emotional and material reasons; to boost their self-esteem, to keep their lovers, or because they are raped or coerced. Love? That's just a song. We are among the bad apes now. Why, I ask Meston, have people never really talked about this? Alfred Kinsey, the "father" of sexology, asked 7,985 people about their sexual histories in the 1940s and 50s; Masters and Johnson observed people having orgasms for most of the 60s. But they never asked why. Why? "People just assumed the answer was obvious," Meston says. "To feel good. Nobody has really talked about how women can use sex for all sorts of resources." She rattles off a list and as she says it, I realise I knew it all along: "promotion, money, drugs, bartering, for revenge, to get back at a partner who has cheated on them. To make themselves feel good. To make their partners feel bad." Women, she says, "can use sex at every stage of the relationship, from luring a man into the relationship, to try and keep a man so he is fulfilled and doesn't stray. Duty. Using sex to get rid of him or to make him jealous." continue here ..http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/28/sex-women-relationships-tanya-gold/print
For me it's because it feels good. Because I want to. On the occasions my man wants to and I don't, I mostly do it to please him, which makes me feel better after anyway. Never been motivated to do it for any of the other reasons they listed.
Co-sign. I dont get the using-sex-as-a-weapon shit. Hell I could not withhold sex, Im too horny lol. Besides, I can have sex w a partner even if I am mad at him - I am capable of separating the reason I am mad from the rest. And using sex as a trade for something, wdf... could not do it, has never occurred to me to do.
I have... :::deviant laugh::: When I play Monopoly with a woman, if she runs out of money, properties, or needs cash I hit her with a sexual offer if she wants to stay in the game. Fun times.
Good one! Guilty. Mine is with sports bets. Some of the most outrageous sex acts are bartered when it comes to whos team wins or loses. :smt025
I have sex because I enjoy it...it feels good & I like connecting with my man physically, intimately, mentally, etc. I also enjoy giving my man pleasure. Using sex as bartering, controlling, punishment tools/games (mental & emotional...I'm not talking about the fun kind, lol) are things I have no interest in.
this, sooooo this. the connection you feel to the person you are with during sex is why i do it. you cannot beat the feeling of intimacy with someone you love and becoming one with them i have withheld sex in my marriage, it was at the end and i was no longer attracted to him mentally and physically and could fake it with him any longer, so i went to bed after him so i wouldn't have to sleep with him.
There is definitely nothing like that kind of connection...becoming one with the person you love is the perfect description. I can understand approaching sex with your husband as you did. The end of a marriage is a sad thing, but it's even sadder to stay & go through the motions when it's not there anymore & it's best to end it. I'm glad you aren't in that situation anymore & can do what is best for you & your happiness.
thanks lovely. it was a hard slog there at the end, and i did think about justy staying for the kids, but i couldn't imagine living the way i was any longer. we're all so much happier now that we're apart
You're welcome. Sometimes it's what needs to be done to make the happiness happen. You made the best decision for you & your kids...I wish my mother would've had the courage to do the same.
I've only ever done it because I wanted to... or the guy wanted to. Once or twice I might have been like, "Okay, you want to fuck but you're not even gonna kiss me?" and rolled over to go to sleep.... but kissing is part of the fun! Never used sex as the other listed reasons.
Most women here stated they like sex because it feels good and I do love making a woman feel goodINDEED:smt045
Shit! because it makes me feel good Indeed that must be a true answer beacuse 98% of the women i asked the same question this was the answer
Heeey, what are you doing with a pic of Stizzy's tongue?? J/K! Iinside joke with the ladies...:lol: well not "inside" literally, its just we've all seen-...ok nevermind, stopping right here, carry on...
