When people glance at you and your partner..

This. Personally I don't understand why someone who is not involved in or interested in being in a WW/BM relationship in anyway would want to join much less comment on anything on a WW/BM forum (comes off as disrespectful towards the people involved in said pairings & arrogant as hell IMO) but as long as there are no BS/trouble making agendas of some kind for joining then all well and good.

 

I wonder how welcome I'd be on a BW/WM forum. Oh wait, I have no interest in finding out.

 

im sure as hell can relate to you , because i see beautiful Ir couples(BmWw) at my job on rare occasions, because i mostly see the plain couples (WmWw or BmBw), so i cant help myself that i glace, but i know im not doing it in a bad way, and besides they cant tell any way because i wear my shades outside. i think its a beautiful thing to see because i rarely see it often on weekdays, but on weekends, i see couples like that all the time with their beautiful mix children

 

Sometimes I feel like people go looking for trouble...for example tonight I was unwinding at the bar doing me as usually and this chick takes interest in me. We get chummy after a while but noooo she fucks it all up "why black women always got to hate on me? They all staring n shit" Stop being a attention whore, nobody gives a single fuck about you or me.

 

LMAO!!!:smt043

 

now that's hilarious! muah hahahaha

blueskies: I can relate with what your saying to an extent. My only thought is that they are thinking 'Dayum, thats a sexy ass couple... I wonder what they look like having sex".

Choice theory teaches you to chose how you want to feel and think, if you think negative thoughts about something then everything around you will be negative. I choose to think positive in my every day life so it doesnt matter what people think when they look at me.

Plus, im 6'2", 256 as long as they dont touch me or who ever I am with they can say whatever they want... I know I'd beat them down if it ever got to that point. Fuck em!

 

This, talk is cheap, they can talk until the cows come home, they'll just be whistlin Dixie.

 

Man, it's just people who are flat-out unhappy and troll around the place feeling sorry for themselves. They aren't "relationship material", simple as that. They tried it in the past and failed miserably. So when they see you and your companion, they will hate to no end. They wish to be in your shoes but can't. The pain and hurt will continue to eat them all aliv. Be happy and prosperous in your love life. You are holding the checkered flag as the winner of the race.

 

I have a friend

I have a friend (I believe shes a friend...) and shes white. When we go out people get the wrong idea. I get the stink eye quite often by white men but I don't care. Though I'm so big and handsome sometimes I just look back with a former president Bush smirk like I'm saying, "What the fuck are you going to do about it?". Aside from me, my friend gets very nasty looks from black women as often as I get the stink eye. Black women are a bit more vocal about it and my friend is completely oblivious about these things in general. Its deeply funny to walk around and see these things play out knowing they don't know whats going on really and shes just a friend.

 

It really seems to be different, where I live nearly nobody cares about it.. It's very rare that somebody glances at you unkind, mostly the people aren't just interested (you just have to look decent, businesslike and successful- swiss people are very focused on money). BTW, to see a black couple is very seldom, mostly it's IR (BW/WM or BM/WW)

 

this happens in San Francisco?

I though that place was more liberal than Liberace

 

well

I've had it happen before in San Francisco itself but not very often. The East Bay area is a bit different though lol. The East Bay area is a bit backwards, they have White Supremacists and Hell's Angels galore here.

 

That is very interesting, I would have never known it was like that over there. America really needs more time to fully wake up I'm afraid :-X

 

i co-sign this.

Now that I have to agree with! The funny thing the further east you get from San Francisco the more country it is.

How many light skinned BM are on this thread?

I can recall one time when I worked in the city, I was walking to pick up a rental car when a caught glance at a group of beautiful WW. As they passed I couldn't help but smile and watch them giggle and smile back. When I got to the corner to wait for the light to change, a dark skinned BM(he was dressed like a porter) approached me and the conversation went something like this...

Me: hmm hmm hmm I love it out here in the city
Porter: Yeah that's because you have it easier
Me: what are you talking about?
Porter: you have that light skin, they are more acceptable to you than someone like me. i never get glanced at like that...

I always thought that was BS, the fact that dark BM's feel the light skinned ones have it easier out there in the world. Me personally, its your attitude and way of thinking... not the shade of your skin color!

The cold part about it, I used to live on a ranch with a full-patch member who was hella(bay area lingo, ha!) chill and have dated daughters and cousins of those thunder bolt guys.

 

I did not care what people think since they stare if I have a White female friend. As for BW being vocal I don't give much concern since I would tell them where were their comments if a sister dates a man of another race.

 

said it before...

The darker you are, the more intimidated people are

From my observation, of course

 

http://scholar.harvard.edu/jlhochschild/publications/skin-color-paradox-and-american-racial-order

This may shed some light on the matter

 

I read this a year or so ago so I agree with you.

Nevertheless, Blacks’ perceptions of discrimination, belief that their fates are linked, or attachment to their race almost never vary by skin color.

 

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Hella chill haha that whats up cuddie!

I don't consider myself really light skinned but I'm definitely not really dark, like I'm no Wesley Snipes haha. In a socio-economic way I could see how people really dark can be disenfranchised but with women it depends. I've seen quite a bit of women seek after darker skinned brothers. I know this african brother, who really isn't that bright, that picks up girls like nothing else- he just has that swag.