WW/BM Personals

Then stop dating online lol. I've yet to hear a genuine success story.

 

I know 3 couples who met on eHarmony and my former brother-in-law met his current wife online. Everybody is doing well and some have been married for more than 10 years.

Come to my town and find the guys I want to meet. I dare you. You will have a hard time too.

 

So wait. Do you agree with me or disagree lol.

 

Both. There are some real wackadoos online - and I met a bunch of them. But there are some good people online too. I'm one of them. :smt061 And I think there are more good people than it seems. If I could meet guys in my daily life, I wouldn't need to be online. And with only 16% of my city's population being black...well, you do the math.

 

I tried eharmony a few years ago and didn't care for it. I may not have gave it enough time because, right after I canceled more matches started to show up.

I've thought about trying Match.com. I've browsed on there in the past and it seemed pretty decent but, I never have joined.

 

I agree that a lot of people who have profiles online are crazy - definitely not all. I'd tried it before and will never do it again. It's like swimming through an Olympic size pool of poop to get to the one gem on the other side.

Of course there are some genuinely wonderful people on there and some great matches made. My cousin met a man online, they are now married with a beautiful baby and both very happy.

 

I suppose but for some reason I think you could say that about irl dating a well. I guess it slims it down because you sort of know the person for a while.

Although I don't know how you can feel good when you r partner says it wasn't instant love. Like drew carey wearing you down lol.

 

Ive done the match.com thing for almost two years with a few decent results. The things ive found is that most of the white women on that site do not want to meet anyone 'black' but they will meet 'other' and 'native american'.

Interesting enough, I met someone from the site who works at eHarmony and I've learned a lot from her about how the majority of white women online are too afraid to put that they are interested in a black man. It got to a point where after multiple memberships and even the guaranteed membership nada.

 

Afraid in what respect? That they would be open to dating but don't want it on their profile?? Curious what that's about.

BTW...welcome to the board.

 

That's what I'm still trying to figure out... The interesting part is, online its more difficult to spark something than offline in person.

Thank you for the welcome.

 

They may be afraid to put it in their profile for fear of getting backlash from WM. Snarky stuff or outright hostility.

On the other hand, I had a brief interaction the other day with a guy who, after an initial text introduction, says "So I guess you have a freaky side?" I said "Um, why would you ask that??" (I have nothing whatsoever on my profile that would make him ask that). He continued "Do you? Coz I want to know how freaky you are." Told him to lose my digits. I was completely baffled until it dawned on me that the only thing that may have made him say that is because I'm white and he's black. Maybe to him, my interest in BM is freaky.

 

The backlash I believe is the culprit. When my brother came back for the holidays from college we were having a talk with some of his friends about WW in other states other than California. There were more than one occasion where they went out and met some WW and had a great night partying, at the end of the night they told my brother and his friends if they see them in public they cant speak to them for fear of backlash.

I am really glad to hear you told him to loose your digits! Guys like that have no game and remind me of a few threads ive read on this forum where a guy cant get with a WW.

 

Might have to amend this. Been dating a decent girl I met online.

 

Many are real and even post here on the boards.

 

Online dating is not very realistic at all.

There is a study that was done recently that shows online dating is very superficial and not grounded in reality at all. People are overly picky when dating over the internet. I did go on a few dates, I cannot lie, but it was very slim pickings. I've had far better experiences just asking people out in person.

 

Many, not all, what does that mean...some are fake? :smt089

 

Some may be fake since the images are sometimes too good to be true.

 

Exactly.

 

Reading all of the posts here on this subject, I would tend to agree (to an extent) that there are certain issues associated with online dating. However, the same can be said for many of the traditional ways of meeting people. Online dating is, I would imagine, more difficult for some than others because of the built-in impersonal, at least initially, nature of it. What I mean by this is that you're trying to "connect" with someone who you can't touch/feel or get any true physical sense of. And as others have stated, you can't be certain that people are being forthright about themselves in their ads. Before I met my wife (incidentally, online), I met quite a few women who looked very little like their self-descriptions. Some even posted "earlier" photos of themselves (you know, the ones before the 90 lb. weight gain or hairstyle/facial remake, not necessarily in a good way), thus playing the old "bait-and-switch" game, so to speak. The Dark Knight's comment ("People who date online are usually crazy") is not only an incorrect generalization; it's also a mischaracterization of the masses of online daters. Sure, there are likely plenty of nutjobs lurking on many online dating sites; however, can't the same be said for bars/nightclubs/parties, etc? Just because someone is looking for something (whether that something be true love, sex, a pen pal) online, it certainly does not, by default, make them crazy or desperate. And to address the comments about white females who had no problem partying with black guys but would not acknowledge them in public, that's nothing new. Whites have been jumping into bed with blacks forever but that would be the extent of it, no being seen together otherwise. However, that too is a generalization as there are plenty of "public", if you will, interracial relationships. IRs are, indeed, a somewhat complex subject but nevertheless a fascinating one.

 

I put my face on a site and I don't care what people think. Besides,faking would be a coward's way of tricking someone.