Wedding Costs: Who Should Pay?

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women shit. easy ass answer. they dont pay for anything else. besides real men dont want to do that shit anyway

 

yeah, yeah, you're definitely stirring that shit, lolz

 

Careful, Whirlpool. Your bitterness is showing.

 

Personally I think weddings are overrated. I'm not religious, so marriage on a religious level means nothing to me. Just give me a small get together at a park with our closest friends and I'm happy.

 

The bride's family should either pay the whole thing (as is tradition), or contribute (if they're around). Other than that it should be an even split between bride and groom.

Any man who thinks this is "women's shit" and that "real men don't want to do that shit anyway" is far less of a man than he thinks he is.

Goodlove, don't be a troll. Geezuz.

Jaisee...I'm not religious either. In fact I'm extremely anti-religion, but I still think weddings have meaning. I don't think they're as much of a religious symbol as they use to be.

Of course, this is all coming from someone who doesn't like weddings, yet has had one and is having a second at the end of the year. Hahahahahaha!!!

 

Even if GL is just stirring... (thus ignoring part of his post, lol).

My opinion is that the couple that get married should pay for it, even split.
Personally, I would prefer to just elope and get married on a beach w a few friends and a few family members around and just have a great time. Nothing fancy. Save the big bucks for a down payment on a house. Cant for the life of me understand why people spend considerable amount of money on a wedding. I have a co-worker who took a loan for her daughters wedding (70 grand!!!) and they dont even contribute to their 401K. I call that idiocy!

 

No, I meant because I'm not religious I'm really not so high on the idea of marriage. As I see it, marriage occurs on 3 levels: Religious, legal and spiritual. Spiritual marriage is a personal thing between two people and needs no religious blessing, or excessive ceremony. Marriage for legal purposes can be summed up in two words 'civil union'.

Wedding ceremonies really are an archaic tradition.

With regard to weddings generally being more a 'woman thang', I have to side with the fellas. Weddings fit right in with that fairy tale that young girls are fed. I've met very few men who are half as into the wedding plans as their wife. Men are far more apt to say something along the lines of "I'd rather we be putting this money into the house or into the honeymoon" while planning for a wedding.

 

^^ This ^^

 

Maybe we can get married at Coachella:-D
Hippie style:-D

 

Oh, are we just talking about the planning of it? The flowers and such? If so, then you're right, I'm wrong. Although, me personally. I hate weddings. I didn't even want my own ceremony and yet I'm forced to do that shit again...only bigger. *sigh*

 

If someone like a wedding then a nice small wedding will be best
either in a church or beach or a park .. does not matter just few close friends and close relatives ..not everyone lol
save the money spend the money for better stuff..

and yes both have to pay

 

After the circus that were my two older brothers' weddings' fuck that noise. Too stressful and way too expensive. One of my brother's dropped 15k on thedam ring alone. i simply can't see myself doing that. Then again it is easier to give in because there is no bigger pitch than a woman who doesn't get what she wants on her wedding day.

 

Did you just propose to me? Cause I soooooo accept....

 

Drop the last 4 words.

 

Yay! A WWBM wedding! Are we all invited?

Btw, who's paying???

 

Hippie style wedding, we only need an officiant. I'll cover the $200.

 

Personally, my family always makes a big deal about weddings. I tried making a family tree once, which resulted in just over 70 people, from my grandparents to second cousins only. I couldn't remember some of the cousin's names With my family, if you invite some, you have to invite all. This means super big wedding. Then there's taking the deaf community into consideration, and how with this... if you invite some, you also have to invite all.
THEN, there's the complication of having hearing people that don't sign, deaf people that don't speak, and me being caught in the middle .


I've already decided that unless whoever I might eventually want marry could convince me otherwise, I'd just want to elope. Less of a headache really Then it's easier to figure out who pays as well... it'd be cheaper, so could both save and then decide where to go with the money that might be available.

 

In the US it's usually the brides family that is responsible for paying. In Kenya the grooms family foots the bill.

 

Yea! I wanna get married by elvis. And have a turquoise or tigers eye ring instead of a diamond. Diamonds are... corrupt.