Halle Berry's Baby Daddy Wants Her to Pay Up!

LOL, damn, I would feel like a Grade A simp ass sucker in that position.

I might just up and leave the country or something. Couldn't do it, would make my blood boil on principle alone.

 

Exactly. It says a lot about her character that she'd actually take the money.

 

Lol

 

Yup it is. Time for people to stop living with their heads in the sand andd realize are ultimately responsible for our own survival you can never count on a spouse that shit rarely lasts. Don't want to ruin happily ever fantasies but I would be damned if I ever let myself not earn and save money for myself. Feelings change like the wind as you've personally experienced.

 

I disagree. Having never been married yourself, you have no idea what it's all about. You've only witnessed it from the outside. It wasn't so much about "happily ever after" as it was the mechanics of our marriage. Following a military member around the world is not easy, especially when his career fluctuates and you move often. That kind of lifestyle doesn't lend itself to steady employment for a spouse.

I was faithful, I took care of my man, my home and my child. Fortunately, he realized that as well and offered me very good child support that not only took care of our son, but me as well. He knew he had failed as a husband and I didn't deserve to swing in the wind. As ashamed of him as I am for the kind of husband he was, I can at least say his epic fail did teach him some lessons, he did something about it and he has re-gained alot of my respect. I'm thankful he doesn't think like you or I would probably be just as cynical and bitter as you sound.

 

Not bitter just an adult my friend. I wouldn't marry someone who's job made completely dependent on them. Its not smart. My grandma always told us make sure you are able to stand on your own two feet and tie a cushion to your butt because if someone pulls the rug from underneath you you're going to need to break your fall.
Recognizing that no one outside of God can be depended on absolutely isn't bitter its called life experience.

 

That's the truest thing you've ever said on here. The rest I won't comment on.

 

She always seemed a bit off to me.

 

here is the thing alimony in some cases is no longer needed because women are educated and have jobs. the only thing is needed is child support

 

I think if he's got custody of the child he should get a fair amount consistent with caring for the child. Unless Halle forced him to travel the world and be a house-husband, he should get squat for alimony, maybe a few free appointments with a career counselor and some resume-building assistance. I am against alimony and try to be consistent across genders on this point.

 

Gawd. I'm so apprehensive to open my mouth to voice a contrary or different opinion.
Apparently some of the "adults" (and I use that word in the loosest sense of the word that I can) can't handle the fact that I'm not going to agree with everything that may come out of their mouth.

Here I go:
I understand that alimony and men are like oil and water. And that no one would want to pay it for the rest of their life. As in most cases where things can be used at a disadvantage...this is one that can become highly misused.

I don't think alimony should be chucked. Reworded a bit so it does what it's suppose to.

Spouses in some cases still sacrifice a lot to support the other to be better.


I await further negative rep for such a god awful opinion. Oh, and by the way..know that I like to be called a whore and if you really want me to stfu...perhaps you could gag me with your fist? If you're going to be a pussy in your approach...go big or go home)

<that's not aimed at you ore..you are awesome!)

 

You must spread some reputation around before you can give it to Alinoa again.

What you pointed out above is pretty consistent with what I think. That's one of the reasons why I don't think spouses should sacrifice their careers for their partner. I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this point, but other than a few months for breastfeeding and some essential nurturing functions, I don't think it's fair or right for women to stay at home with children. I believe they should be provided for while they do that, because the child needs it and the child is their joint responsibility.

I support everyone having a right to make their own choices, but in a capitalist society (I'm not a big fan of that, either), equality, like everything else, is driven by the marketplace. Remove yourself from participation for an extended period, and you're at the mercy of your spouse or someone else to assist you.

 

The conversation is about child support but I do agree there should be some temporary child support but long term permanent alimony should be completely done away with. Whether you helped me out or not doesn't entitle you to life time support. But a lot of these settlements are about fairness its about the maintenace of lifestyle which is insane to me.

 

when you say temp child support what do you mean ? how long?

 

Is there such a thing as lifetime alimony? I thought alimony was based on the time the couple was married. I was married for 12 years, and would have received only 3 years alimony had I insisted on it. That's in the state of PA.

 

In California they, the court, have the power to order lifetime spousal support. So, yes, it does

 

I didn't know that.

My cousin's wife divorced him and he was forced to pay child support and alimony even though she made more than him, drove a company car, etc. He could barely find the money to support himself. I didn't think that was fair. Not only did she leave the marriage (she just didn't feel like being married any more), but she made alot more money than he did. How was she even entitled to alimony? She should have been paying him!!! Either she had a really good (or sleazy) lawyer, or he had a terrible one.

 

reason 94869484 not to get married

 

I got married, it ended badly, but I'm not sorry I did it. And, with the right person, I will do it again.