Tiger Woods’ ex-wife bulldozes $12 million home

That's fair and logical. Then one has to ask why even get married what are the benefits outside of legally binding someone to you which doesn't really seem to represent any kind of love to me. All other relationships allow you to come and go as you please but marriage seems to need an outside entity to keep you there. Makes one think.

 

mutual decision.

as for the rest, i'm happy that your parents were able to work things so they could be there for you, but i don't think you're getting what i said.

i stayed home with my children before they went to school, my ex and i both decided that a) it was ridiculous to pay for someone to look after our kids when i could do it & b) the cost of child care would equal what i would earn if i got myself a 9-5 job. i still wouldn't get back into the field i was in before children because the hours are long, my ex's work had him working hours that were not the norm and the children would spend most of their days in child care.

my ex and i also broke up when my daughter was 2 1/2 years old and my son was about to turn 4. they could not look after themselves and i certainly was not in the position as your parents where one could be there at one time and the other parent could at the other...it was me 24 hours a day. i would take them to cleaning jobs with me or get my dad over when i could for a couple of hours, so i could go and waitress etc

as soon as they were both at school is when i got the job that i'm in now. i work within the school hours so i can drop them off and pick them up and be there for them. again, i don't have an arrangement like your parents had as there is only 1 of me. my kids are still too young to walk themselves home from school and spend hours alone in the house before i get home. i don't know if you're around a lot of 7 & 8 year olds, but to expect them to fend for themselves is a bit rich.

 

Wow that's crazy. I don't get how your ex wouldn't want to help out. Weak ass dude no offense. At eight I did stay home alot but I don't think I was an official latch key kid until I was 10 so I see your dilema.

 

latch key kids, unite

:-o

i do credit that with me staying out of trouble and developing on my inner self tho, instead of worrying about a social group i belonged to.

 

I think this is what alot of couples decide to do, and, in my case, even though I have suffered financially, I wouldn't change it if I could go back and do it over.

 

Ditto. And I NEVER, EVER missed a single episode of Voltron!

 

honestly

i was never the one to hang out on the block or porch everyday, all day growing up

i generally stayed inside and played my games or did school work

the only time i was generally allowed to stay out late or go anywhere, was when I had football practice or something to do with ROTC

extra curricular stuff like that is probably better than hanging out around the hood, doing god knows what (besides you can list that stuff when you apply for colleges). that's why I continue to support after school programs and activities, even tho some people want cutbacks. More and more kids are just going to be getting into trouble, when you take away things that lets them relieve stress and energy.

 

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to pettyofficerj again.

 

Word. As KRS-ONE says "My mother wasn't into b-boying at the home." I'm with you. I was doing homework, reading books or comics, watching cartoons, cross-country practice, tennis or skateboarding. None of that unsupervised "chilling" allowed. My son is the same way. He has tennis 3 days a week after 2 hours of study hall at the Y.

 

that's how you have to do it with them if you want them to get ahead

 

No doubt. Unless you want them to end up like this:

 

My son had to stay home by himself for a few hours each day too. I couldn't afford before AND after school day care. Summers were the worst. I bought him a pool membership and he rode his bike there every day. Because I had moved away when I got married, when I moved back, no one knew who he was or that he was my son. So I worried that if he got hurt, no one would know he was my son or how to get a hold of me if he couldn't tell them. God looked after him. Thankfully, that scenario never presented itself.

He could so easily have gone off the path but he didn't. One of the reasons, I think, was because my door was always open to his friends. I lived in a small apartment and it was always is disarray because of the kids being there, but I can only remember one time that I didn't have any idea where he was (that's because he got mad at me and "ran away." Lol!). Almost every weekend, his friends slept over, sometimes as many as 5 at a time! I felt like a prisoner in my bedroom but I wouldn't have had it any other way. I knew where my son was, who he was with and I had a bunch of adopted "sons." We had good times. Happy memories.

 

I was a latch key kid from the age of 6.
We lived in the center of Stockholm and I walked home w my friend or alone everyday and went home and spent 2-3 h alone.
My mother was single and went to Jazzdance 2ce per week and those times I stayed home alone also. It never bothered me and I never got into trouble.

But this is what people did back then. It wasn't unusual and no one lifted an eyebrow... but we were hanging upside down 6 feet in the air on monkey bars on concrete also LOL

 

You sure ya'll are black? lol
I did the same shit except the tennis and skateboard that was usually replaced with basketball(the only thing keeping my blackcard since I chased after white girls and ran cross country lol)

 

tennis is pretty fun, when you take it for what it is....a sport

besides, all the players on the team were white girls with the exception of a chinese guy

i remember how my tennis coach was saying how it was less demanding than football, allowing kids to focus on more than just the sport. There's a reason why tennis players are thought of as better students than guys on the football team. It's not because football players are stupid..if anything they're very intelligent, considering everything you do begins with a scripted play that you have to memorize and know. You have to know the difference between the gaps, the WR letters (X,Y,Z for example), and so forth. Tennis allows you to have fun playing a sport and being a part of a team, without getting blasted at practice every day, having to worry about adding on muscle, weight room/track performance, etc. I'd recommend that to anyone.

 

none taken

i too was a "latchkey kid" (had to google it), and was responsible for looking after myself and by 2 youngers brothers at a very early age. kids don't seem to be as savvy these days as we were growing up and i'm trying to give them more freedom and responsibility...it's a 2 step forward, 1 step back process.

 

Seriously what kid didn't do that? Sad thing is every thing is rubber padded now. When did we become such pussies. Smh

 

I don't doubt it was fun but being a black kid in the 90s during the height of the hip hop era.... you better throw that pig skin or have a wicked jump shot period.
I caught hell for running cross country my boys were fricking merciless lol. But if you want to talk about girls track was THE place to meet chicks in hs especially at them Penn Relays. Best times of hs for me.

 

the wrestlers back in HS used to call me gay for playing tennis

like..seriously...dude you have sex with other men in one-piece bathing suits..stop playin

i respect track guys as well.... in football, you spend time outside on the track doing sprints, shuttle runs, and all sorts of stuff..then you'd come in and do laps inside the school, running up the steps from the 1st floor to the 3rd, all the way around the school, down the steps to the 1st, back around to the original stairwell and do it again... track and ball goes hand in hand

 

Yeah and we never had to take hits. I always loved how football dudes would call us soft and I would think have you lames couldn't take a punch if it came down to it and one of my boys who was on the team and a second degree black belt at my Oyama school beat the piss out of this senior from the football team when I was a freshman. All he did was throw his bookbag up in the air and while dude was looking up two quick roundhouse punches and dude was on the floor crying over a busted lip and a bloody nose. Made me see the difference between real tough guys early on. And the karate kid was only 5'6 maybe 140 and the kid playing football was a solid 5'10 and 185 always bragging he could bench 235(sounded like a lot to us dudes on track lol)