Keep her barefoot and pregnant. lol Oh yeah, I'm with you on that one. I pushed my wife to work and let her keep all her money and used my salary for the family's needs and bills and then when she decided she wanted out, she had savings, 401(k) and everything all set. Then I found myself in the position of trying to keep my business afloat and going to school all on my own, when I was thinking that she was going to cover the family for a year while I did year one of law school, as her way of throwing me a bone for carrying her all along. Psyche!
lol...have you ever worked in a child related industry? through my "money earning jobs" whilst staying home with my kids, i have been a kinder assistant. do you know how exhausting 25 4 year old can be? i'm talking about just talking and doing craft. no shit, don't under estimate the amount of work just "talking" with children is. my daily routine is talking, breaking up arguments, cooking, cleaning, entertaining, nursing, running, wrestling and the rest. let me assure you, IT IS HARD WORK. i work in an office as well, and that is a piece of piss compared to having to deal with children 24 hours a day.
good in theory, but if it has been decided that the mother will stay home to look after the children and will lessen her career so she can concentrate on the children, there will never be a fair outcome. i don't know if you or any of the men commenting on this have ever made a sacrifice like a woman does. i was top in my field up until i fell pregnant and then it was decided that i would stay at home to look after the kids. after my marriage broke down i couldn't get back into the field that i worked as it requires hours, lots and lots of hours a day, which means that my children wouldn't see me, so i cleaned houses, waitressed, assisted in kinders.... i'm still not in my desired field of employment because it would mean that i would have to sacrifice my childrens needs, so i work a job that is never going to get me any where so i can be there for my kids. my ex said to me the other day that i should do more with the kids during the school holidays and i had to remind him that whilst he has the luxury of being able to work without guilt, i somehow have to juggle work and kids during the summer break. to get in my 8-10 hours a day, i'm starting work at 6am and not getting to bed until 2am. i would like to see some of the men on here talking about wanting their wives to stay home with their kids, but not giving up their careers to try and see what it's like to still be relevent in the workforce after 8+ years. if you think getting a job out there is tough now, when you are working, try to imagine what it's like when you haven't been working and trying to get a job outside the home.
You are absolutely correct Ma'am! When I volunteer at my Son's school I tell his teacher all the time I don't know how you do this day in and out. I would lose my damn mind. My apologies once again for that tasteless comment towards you in the beginning. Words cannot describle how truly great of a mother you are. Dang I can feel the powerful emotion in this post. :smt038:smt038:smt038:smt038:smt038:smt038:smt038:smt038 There you go shoving that humble pie down my throat again. lol
You're right that it's very difficult to get plugged back into the work world after a long absence. I don't agree that it should automatically be the woman who stays at home with the child. That decision should be taken based on who is the biggest breadwinner. I spent many a day at home with my son even though I earned more than my ex. I don't want my comments to be misconstrued in any way as supporting the subjugation of women or excusing some guys lack of involvement in the home.
No, it wasn't, for that. You know in divorce, you have to settle at some point. That's what I tried to explain earlier. I know you scoffed, but the law is the law and its equitable distribution in Florida, so either they all agreed on it together, or the judge determined the settlement. Keep in mind, if the judge made the decision, equitable distribution is initially meted out as 50/50 unless there's extreme circumstance. Not sure if that applied here, but the bottom line based on his net worth, they agreed on or she was awarded only 1/6th of their assets value (if we go by the rumored $ettlement). To illustrate there was no gag, Tiger responded with a statement on her heartfelt interview... "This is a very painful, personal and private time for our family. Throughout this entire time, Elin has shown unwavering concern and support for our children. She is a wonderful mother. I know that the two of us will do everything we can to help our children adjust to this new family situation". Also, in the decree, Elin has custodial rights to take the children to Sweden if she sees fit. It gave her wide latitude that included her being able to move there. Responding to that, Tiger's (half)brother lamented... "It cost him a family. He'll never have the same relationship with his kids. There's always a possibility that Elin will go back to Sweden. That distance with the kids will tear him up." Clearly though, with this new mansion she is building, she has chosen to remain...for now.
According to this report, about a year and half ago, she can't take the kids out of America. The man was 100% wrong in his actions but no father in his right mind would let his kids be taken away to another country. Most state laws look to keep divorced parents as close as possible for the sake of the kids. April 19, 2010 CHEATING Tiger Woods won’t let wife Elin Nordegren take the couple’s two children out of America. Sources say despite Elin recently purchasing a $2 million house in her native home of Sweden, the former model won’t be moving back home. “No way would Tiger let Elin leave the USA with his children,” a source told PopEater. “You can say whatever you want about Tiger as a husband, but he has always been a great father. “He knows his marriage is over, but he will never give up on those kids. They mean the world to him.” Recent reports claimed Tiger and Elin are at odds over how to raise their son and daughter. “There’s conflict between Tiger and Elin,” a source said last week. “Whatever anyone thinks of Tiger, he loves his children. You can’t criticize him as a parent at all. “Things have changed between Tiger and Elin. She has shown a lot of independence. She has gotten a lot tougher. But they both love their children.”
What was the bad choice? The only bad choice was my ex's decision to cheat and eventually leave the marriage.
Disagree with this. Part of being a good parent is to love and respect the other parent. Cheating on that parent is not loving or respectful. JMO.
...wack. The skeleton of the home could have been segmented and sold off, with all the 'pre-fab' and recycling business going on nowadays.. but I guess life's good when you've got the money to blow like that..
To give up being able to provide for yourself. Shit happens in life and even if didn't leave he could have fell ill or even died then what? Issurance pay outs aren't normally that big anymore and take awhile to get, my family found that out after my grandmother died. I constantly tell the girls in my family its never ok to rely on a man or spouse for shit. People can change their minds at any time and then what are you left with? You can blmae hime all you want but the end result is you're left fucked up by no real fault of your own. That's why I'm the biggest believer of side hustles and plan a b c d e f g... you get the idea but I guess as a guy and being raised the way I was I would never dream of it.
Did anyone make you or did you choose that? My parents split the time taking care of us. My was a nurse and worked till midnight and would be up early to get us ready for school and my dad would be home by six to give us dinner and get us to bed. Granted there were 3 hours where we kept to ourselves after school but that was hw time and time on the phone with friends. Everyone of us is college educated and turned out ok. Did you really HAVE to stay home or did you really want to.
i find it interesting that the argument is so feverish about a woman taking care of herself when we have grown men/women that are educated that still live at home with their parents...why is it okay for a grown adult to live off of parents but it isn't okay for the mother of young children to receive a settlement that allows the children from the marrage to live in a comparable lifestyle as the one they were born into...
Because most parents don't mind most ex husbands do. And usually most people who live at home especially now actually contribute to the household. Its one thing to pay high child support which I'm always in favor of. I would rather give my kids 60% then my ex wife half especially if she never contributed to the wealth since its all going to them once I die anyway.
Stop associating the act of sex with the emotion of love. That's where so many people mess up at. Co-sign. I would just thinking about this the other day, soon enough children will be sueing their parents for kicking them out after 18 arguing that they've become accostumed to being sheltered for 18 years of their lives.