What did you learn about life post-25 y/o?

I'll be 25 years old soon and I'm just looking for some words of wisdom from the older wwbm members. :::sigh::: It was all good a minute ago riding high off of life than it came crashing down so now I'm borderline depressed doing a reassessment on my life.

I'd really appreciate any general advice from you guys.

Man how time flies...

 

Finish your education and stack the hell out of your chips. Most of the great moments in your life don't require a lot of money.

Above all don't let those chicks be a distraction. Be friend them but don't let them become the center of your world. There's plenty of time for that later.

 

For Real. Seems like yesterday I was at high school graduation. Can't believe I've been out for 5 years.

That's the plan dude.

 

fuck..I thought you were older...

damn i feel old...

basically

definitely don't 'fall in love' until you have your own life set, because that shit can fade real quick and leave you ass'd out in the cold with a GED. I don't see myself settling down until I'm like 40 something, and even then it will be normal to marry a woman that's 30-35 years old (especially if you're 40 with a decent job, car and stacks in the bank), so it's win-win. That's what I'm going through right now, just focusing on work and school until i'm done with graduate studies.

Do it while you're young. Maybe not that same exact road, but get your life in order and put the boots to the ground until you build all that you can.

 

My advice is to go for your dreams, because you don't have forever and if you put them off for too long eventually you'll never be able to fulfill them. And ignore what other people say about what those dreams are, you need to be happy in your life, so do what makes you happy.

I loved turning 25, but HATED turning 30. I honestly nearly had a breakdown, which seems stupid to me now. LOL

You just need to keep thinking "I could get hit by a bus tomorrow, so I need to do what I want to do TODAY".

 

universal and fair response...definitely cosign

just get out there and try it, whatever it may be

singing, dancing, acting, modeling, karate, kickboxing, school, new job...whatever it is, just do it. If it doesn't work out fine, but you won't have that lingering doubt and guilt about wasting your talent.

 

I so hear you on this one but have come to terms with it. Actually coming to terms with it made me break up with my girl last weekend. I need to get what I need before I can even be close to being something that someone one else needs.

 

Amen brother. I found I got into the CUNY Phd program for Economics and Applied Math. Don't know if I'll go there but getting into at least one program is step one. I need that Dr. in front of my name I don't need a girlfriend right now. Hopefully I'll always be somewhere there's impressionable interns lol

 

you mean like this 'Dr'

 

I learned that piece of mind is the one thing you can't put a price-tag on.

 

Damn then tell that to my mind because all it focuses on is I need stacks on stacks on stacks to feel at peace.

 

The needs of people are different..a life plan is a good idea, but don't expect that all will be as you imagined,

but basically I think the following is important:
-You have to find out, what makes you happy and then go this way consequently
-to fall isn't a shame, but not rising again - is
-accept, what you cannot change

 

Time does fly so don't waste it on people who don't matter. Be respectful to people but also be realistic in your dealings with them. Some people are not worth your time. Develop a solid mind by learning more about yourself such as your subconscious "likes" and "dislikes" that you have conviently tucked away over the years because they may not have been acceptable by cultural norms. They are going to come in handy while developing your growing personality as you get older. Live life to the fullest but don't be excessive. You may not live to see tomorrow but there is a good chance that you will live longer than you expect so don't mess up your tomorrow by being reckless today. You can't just go around "fucking" people anymore because you will constantly have to face the fact that you could end up having a baby with a person you never intended to live your life with. If you want your master's degree, by all means, accomplish that as soon as possible. Travel, mingle, develop good social relationships with people who have a little business about themselves. They don't have to be rich but they can't be heading backwards or traveling down a dangerous road. Most importantly, have fun!

 

great post..very very nice to see you posting !:smt038

 

That means a lot coming from you. Thanks.

 

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”
? Dr. Seuss

^ Can't say much for post 25 :lol: But I live by this.

 

Best advice ever

 

Thanks for all the input, none of it will be taken lightly. PROPS!

 

Hey 4North,
If I had to live over again at 25:
- I would never have gotten married/engaged/serious relationship
- I would have gone to school sooner rather than later
- Travel travel travel as much as possible
- Follow your passion e.g. kick boxing, painting, whatever - dedicate time to it, let it flourish
- Have fun If you crave the bar scene, do it now not when you are 35 or 40+, then it's just lame to get drunk every weekend lol
- And know that life doesn't end at 30, 40 etc.

Life really does get better as you become more stable financially, more educated, more wise. You really get to know yourself better as you age (which has made me a happier person).

 

Whatever you do, keep educating yourself. No matter the subject or career area, ongoing education is the best gift you can give yourself. As for other life lessons, focus on being the best you that you can be. Life, love, success and all the rest tend to fall into place without you having to go searching for them. Party in moderation, get plenty of exercise and rest and eat and drink well. These are simple pleasures that anyone can achieve and I was surprised at just how fulfilling they can actually be.