Does this white chick like a brotha?

Hey guys, wanted some feedback from the males and females. This about me, a 28 year old black male, and a 25 year old white female we’ll call Lynn. Lynn’s mom works in a different dept. for the organization who owns the gym I work at part time. So lynn gets to workout at the gym I work at partime for free due to her mom. She’s very attractive and focused on her workout. Guys try to talk to her all the time. She could get any guy she wanted really. Anyway, the first encounter with lynn was a year ago when I went to workout and she just started talking to me at random by saying “not working tonight.” Was kinda surprised because she didn’t talk to anybody. We talked and then my coworker on the floor cocked blocked me and interrupted our conversation. I know what he was doing, and was playing it cool.


Fast forward Lynn fell off and I did not see her for like 6 months. Then she came back… She was distant, so I just left her alone. My coworker in the gym said hello and she turned her head and just walked on by. I thought she was really stuck up. I left her alone completely at that point. My friend just said hello, he had no interest in her. At this point no guy or coworker, who drooled over Lynn talked to her.

In late 2011, I joined a new gym to workout at. Not at the one I work at. People know me and ask me questions when I’m off duty and working out. So when I went into the new gym to the free weight area, their was Lynn on an ab machine. We were both surprised to see each other. She game me this dark look with her eyes with a slight smile. I smiled and waved and continued on to the free weight area. I found out she gotta job at the gym I work out at as a sales rep. So she has her own office. Lynn works as a sale rep at the big gym I workout at, but she worksout at the gym I work at part time It’s the same for me. Anyway, saw her at the gym I work at two weeks ago. I was talking with a member and she walked by and very quickly said “hey”. This was in a very low tone.

Last week, I went to the gym I workout at, and she works as a sales rep. I was walking out and saw her with a client she just signed up, and she smiled at me and said hey. I smiled and did the same. Is this a sign? LOL… Anyway, I’ve been sick and haven’t seen her. When she worksouts I don’t bother her. Either or I’m just going to talk to her when I get a chance. I’m a laid back, and funny guy. I try to talk to as many women as I can. I’ve learned not to put all my eggs in one basket. What do you think?:| Thanks for any replies.

 

To sum up this post for everyone, this guys is love struck over a female saying "hey" to him a couple times. If you really want to know where you stand just man up and start a casual conversation with her. Stop over complicating simple affairs... personally I don't think she is feeling you. Alot guys confuse politeness with interest.

 

You could always ask her to go get something to drink after the workout. Then you will know.

Why do you need a guarantee she wants to date, marry and have 10 babies with you before you approach her??

Take a chance.

 

Love struck? Right... I guess she's not feeling me from her staring at me in her meeting while I was working out. At least I can talk to her in person, and not have to fufill a fantasy through blackplanet.com. Either or I'm just going to talk to her in period. Was just looking for an opinion.

 

I don't know that I would take it as that she is interested in you romantically, but she is being friendly in a way that she doesn't seem to be with others. Take that as an invitation to strike up a casual conversation and see where it goes from there.

 

You're going to need a DNA sample in order to truly know if she dates black men.

 

You got your opinion you spineless wimp. :::rolls eyes and snaps fingers out of this thread:::

 

You already seem certain she likes you. Just talk to her. Women aren't unicorns, go and ask her out. Only two things can happen...1: She says yes OR 2: She says no, and if she says no, who cares? Your life won't end.

 

blood, spit, urine, stool, spit or hair?

 

All of the above. Good luck to the one who has to obtain all that. Ack!! :smt083

 

lol...sounds like a perfect first date to me

 

Haha! What a visual!! :smt003

 

3. she files a lawsuit

 

Here is what you need to do.

The next time you see her, just say,"how ya been?"....let her answer. If she looks acts like she doesn't want to talk to you, and its not work related, she ain't feeling you....move on.

If she you do engage in a little small talk. You stop the conversation and make up an excuse to leave but tell her you would like to continue the conversation over drinks or coffee. Here is where you will find out where you stand with her.

Dont just leave it at, lets get a drink some time. Be confident and get the number. And after you get the number, don't blow up her phone the same night. Wait a few days and call to set up the date, no long conversations....save it for the date. Now run along grasshopper and get that girl!

 

Everything. What if gym girl finds OP "creepy"? Can't assume that if she is not interested that a simple "no" will be sufficient for her.

 

He hasn't done anything creepy. Saying hi and eye contact are not creepy. It's a sign of friendliness. :smt101

If he stalks her after she says no then that's creepy but he hasn't even asked her out yet to get a yes or no so not to worry. Yet.

 

Silly, I understand your trying not to come off as thirsty and have a conversation for a date but their isn't no golden rule to dating. If she's feeling you it doesn't matter how soon you call and if you are really vibing you'll always have something to speak about no matter how much you speak on the phone.

 

Silly?...no. It's about not doing what all the other simps out there do who get her number...call her the same night he gets the number or spilling his beans in a 3 hour conversation, leaving nothing for her to discover. If she is feeling him do you honestly think that if he waited a few days to call her she would suddenly not be interested?...hell nah. She's going to be wondering why HE is the only one not calling while the simps are filling up her message box. Let me ask you this, what if he really was busy? What if his job took him out of town for a few days...then what?..he's out?...absolutely not, unless she wasn't feeling him to begin with.

The problem that most guys like this guy has is that his nose is already to far open. He needs to remain subjective because it's not about how HE feels, it's about how SHE feels. He has to carefully gauge that or he'll wind up projecting his feelings on to her and back on this board asking why she ain't returning his phone calls or acting distant.