Would you date someone who has never dated interracially? I personally like someone who's experienced in interracial dating in some form or another. Sometimes people do lack the opportunity to date out, but I prefer they had done so in the past or do so currently. What about you?
I prefer they have, but I will if they haven't. For the reason everyone has to have a first. If they have experienced it they know what to expect (the looks, whispering, criticism, ect). That should be a + bc everyone cant handle the extra unwanted attention. IMO
Wouldn't bother me at all. If I found myself attracted to them and the timing was right I would just go for it. I take each person as an individual. I mean why do you have to have done something before to be more pious?? I think I can say this since I am longtime IR dating. :smt069 What if they never ate steak before or never tried brussel sprouts or never had their dick sucked??!! Do I have to eliminate them. I just can't see the importance of this "trait". And it seem more important to the men here than the women.
Sure. Someone who has dated interracially, has experience with it (like what Stizzy mentioned). They tend to have a better grasp at understanding the dynamics in an IR relationship. They're less apt to judge in absolutes. This is not to say all are like that, cause that's not the case, but they just have a better understanding of what comes with the territory. They can relate better. Sometimes, you don't have to explain things to them.
This is just my personal experience and why I asked, but I've had better interactions with guys who have done so prior. It has made things easier.
In the past, being someones token (I'm speaking from a negative standpoint here, not the positive side if someone was just new to it and no ill-intentions), wasn't a good feeling...lol Nice way to put it...lol Nothing like a man who dates IR....;-)
So you are saying a guy who never dated a girl who grew up in Ny and now lives in LA that he couldn't relate to you at all ? So you shouldn't date him unless he has dated another girl grew up NY/lives in LA? Or learn if he loves you enough? I would do many things for the right person.
LOL! Locale has nothing to do with this, but I see where you're going with this. I too would do something for the right person, but in my experience again, IT'S MY EXPERIENCE that I've felt more comfortable with someone who has done so in the past. It's not to say I couldn't randomly meet someone who was charming and handsome and hasn't done so, but I'm talking in totality and again, from my experience and interactions.
Thanks IB. I've never asked any of my bm dates, whether they dated IR before, and never I was asked. So, I cannot say. At the end I assume all comes down to the fact, whether someone is strong enough to believe in that what he/she wants and desires. I cannot stand people that want something/somebody, but feel afraid of what friends/family/relatives might think. I was always with wm till 8 yrs ago, I was never thinking of bm, especially.Then I've met one guy and his charm was/is so amazing that I couldn't help myself anymore. But I never took care , whether he is now black or white. He was my lovy, that's all that counted. I know that I was sometimes irritated about people, when I had to see that they didn't expect an African man next to me, but that was very rare and that were strangers. Most people I am with invited me only to get to know him especially, and HE was the star of the evening and holiday plans in Africa were made sooner than I could say anything against it.
sure and i have, my bf now, he has allways liked ww though, hes still quite young so im his first ww lool, hes fooled around with white girls but that when he was much younger, hes allways faniced me for years he said lol
Good to hear others opinions and thoughts. Good thread. For me I am still going to date with an open mind.......
You're welcome. I think that's flipside of the coin to this. Some people are afraid of what others might think or say, so they shy away from IR dating. I'm glad you met an amazing man....
IB, what it is! long time no post, Happy Hanukkah! Lol, this thread is gonna open up a giant can of worm........... Anyhoo, to answer your question-I guess it might make “interaction” easier if that individual has been in IR b4??? personally it never bothered me at all, in fact, it worked out well for me when the other individual never been in IR, I don’t know why….maybe the variety of interest, exposure to different cultural background, places that I lived/visited, etc… makes it less difficult, I dunno……..
Hey GZ! Thank you! :smt058 I'm not trying to start no shit, just wanted honest opinions. Thank you for sharing yours. I'm glad your experience has been positive.
I assume that's a good point, if you don't care about IR- then you don't see any special IR problems. All problems you have are problems between two people, not more not less. And if someone wants to critisze your partner or your choice of your partner, he/she or they will always find a reason.
