Fatten Him Up

So a man tells a woman she is fat when actually she isnt and that then makes her gain weight out of pressure ? Isnt it funny how Chesbay defends women looking at hot looking men yet say it hurts when men look at hot women? I have said it here i dare ONE of you to post a thread of i am attracted to BHMs in your locker room and lets see how it goes. FAT men are also told they are sloppy by women and i doubt if they blame women for that . These excuses should stop because its not an attractive trait blaming men for weight problems.

 

I prefer someone with a phsique such as yours over one that is muscle upon muscle, if we're talking slim/fit men. But I actually prefer men a bit bigger, huggier. Just my personal preference.

 

I agree that as typically visual people, men do see the popularity of the physiques that're popular nowadays. I believe that it's the motivating factor, rightly or not, for most guys who're in the gym to develop very muscular bodies. I also believe that most of them do it because they're trying to overcompensate for deficiencies in other areas. Perhaps, I'm basing the issue of overcompensation on my own feelings as I know my "attractiveness" as a potential mate extends far beyond my physicality, within normal limits of height and weight proportions. I can't believe I'm the only guy who feels this way.

I always try to downplay my fitness, and I never wear clothes that accentuate or highlight my athletic build. IMO, a lot of women may like to look at a muscular physique, but it'll take a well rounded guy to hold their attention for long term term relationships.

Conversely, I believe that women who've nice faces and or bodies, with no other redeeming qualities, have a tough time maintaining relationships as well. They may find someone to date them, but sustainable long term relationship, most likely not.

As for the those who're truly overweight, 50 lbs or more, I think that it depends on the kind of relationship they seek. IMO, it's probably significantly more difficult for them, men or women, to find long term relationships. In the case of short term relationships or hookups, women will always find a willing sexual partner in a man. Precisely for that reason, that women have more choices, obese men will have a more difficult time finding a sexual liaison with women, though it happens.

Btw, this is my opinion as a guy who happens to be very muscular, but enjoys a wide range of activities as well, mountain biking and rock climbing, etc.

 

lol....overweight talk, always a thread winner round there

 

Who said I gained weight out of pressure??? I said him telling me I was fat messed with my psyche. Please don't put words in my mouth. And I have mentioned in several threads that I am attracted to bigger men. However, I can't find pix of what I like to post.

Why don't we just put the kibosh to all and any kind of bashing or blaming in here, huh? You think you've had enough? I've been called old, chubby, been made to feel that the only reason a man would want me is because he's desperate, and oh yeah, I'm a racist too. *smdh*

I thought this site was supposed to be about the appreciation that WW and BM have for each other??

 

LOL...Conde Naste strikes again... GQ is my fav!!!

 

You claim it is the fault of men that women have issues with their weight and that is disingenious. I have issues with things always turning to the battle of the sexes and that is what you are trying to turn it into by claiming that men are to blame for women's weight insecurities. You also said when men look at other hot women it hurts but justify your looking at hot men as nothing serious. When you do that even if you have a good point, it is overshadowed by the women vs men argument. You also said when you were younger and skinnier you were attracted to leaner fitter men and became attracted to bigger men when you gained weight to make you feel smaller and i wonder if it is a tangible reason for being attracted to a bigger man.

 

Great points but I know someone will try to twist this into" bashing"

I also want to add I detest the idea that preferring ww women means I should appreciate them all. Just because you're attracted to bm doesn't mean you worship them damn.

 

Yeah - that would not make any sens as then, you get into the shady area of just being attracted to ww (or bm) based solely on skin-color.. and we know what most of us think of that. Clearly, you cant be attracted to all ww/bm. I know I am not, just a specific type, and that type is the same as any wm etc I find attractive.

 

Who ever promoted that idea? You have said that a number of times in here. All I ask is that you appreciate the fact that women, big or small, are people with feelings. No one asks you to worship us, that I have seen. No human is worthy of worship, imo. But respect is a different matter. So you and others on here aren't attracted to bigger women. That's ok. I have no problem with that being said. But when people get ugly and throw insults or deragatory comments around, that's hurtful and disrespectful. And that ties in to what I said before as to why women are self-conscious about their bodies and being fat - even if they aren't.

 

Ok

 

The battle didn’t start with my comment.

As for my comment about men/women looking at others, I will speak for myself: When I am in a relationship, I may see an attractive man and simply acknowledge to myself that he is attractive and that’s as far as it goes. I’m not undressing him in my mind, wondering what it would be like to get with him or comparing him to my man. I say that only because I have had men tell me they do that with women, even when in a relationship. I think women are more self-conscious of their bodies when they know men look at other women.

And yes, the fact that I am a somewhat bigger woman plays into the reason I like somewhat bigger men. But even when I was slimmer, I still liked a man that was bigger than me. So the fact that I like men bigger than me hasn’t changed – just the height/weight.

I am not here to make enemies or play the blame game. I didn’t set out to be a crusader for overweight women. I have just noticed a lot of negativity towards women who aren’t young and slim, here and elsewhere. I hate to see people, women or men, picked on. Period. It’s easy to lose sight of the fact that overweight women are people with feelings. We are hurt by ugly words and derogatory comments – something I would think most people on here could identify with.

 

If you are only speaking for yourself then keep it to yourself. How do you know what other women think and feel?
Negativity towards older and fatter women? There are dudes on here like GL and Blackbull who adore you sorry its not everyone but we all have our preferences like you said.
Sounds like you made a bad choice in a man I don't think most men do that shit. At least not in your presence, thats plain rude.

 

Take your own advice, DK. I know what other women say because I am one, and I have talked to other women and I have received rep/comments from women here who support me.

 

10 Reasons Women Like Big and Tall Men

Written by a big/tall guy (I was looking for pix to post, but was not successful. However I did run across this, which I thought was amusing.)

1. You will never here us say, "You are getting big".

2. Best pillow, hands down.

3. You will never feel bad about how much you ate at dinner.

4. No gender confusion. We are clearly the man and you the woman.

5. Piggy back rides.

6. If a fight breaks out, you have someone to stand behind.

7. Big, large hands.

8. Throwing you over our shoulder is a breeze.

9. Your panties are safe. We will never be able to fit them.

10. You will always look smaller and thinner standing next to us.

 

What does that mean?
I get rep from black men on this forum about certain issues doesn't mean I'm in a position to talk for them. My point was if I can't make generalizations about what women ultimately want neither can you. you can only speak about what you want.

 

I've never been attracted to bigger men and they're not interested in me either. The only time a bigger guy really approached me, was back in the day. He drove up next my car and complimented me and told me I was beautiful. After some idle chit chat, I thanked him for the compliment and proceeded to drive off. I assumed the conversation ended after that, but no, he drove up next to me and threw a half eaten candy bar at me...lol

My other big guy encounter was with this guy who I used to call my real first love. He was tall and very thin. I was twenty at the time and he was twenty three. I ran into him years later and he gained a lot of weight. He even had moobs. I was shocked cause he wasn't the same guy I had known, physically. Some old feelings were lingering, but that was just cause I was in love with the idea of knowing him again. Because I matured, I realized that I didn't like him in that way anymore.

I have to agree with you, Saty. Some women see bigger men as non-threatening cause he's not what a lot of women are seeking when it comes to a lust-at-first-sight type of thing. I had an old friend who was heavyset and whose ex-girlfriend liked him that big and wanted him bigger. He had a very handsome face, so I know if he lost the weight, he'd have a lot of women after him.

I personally like a "protector" type of guy, but that comes to height, not weight.

 

What's the range for height? Yes I'm hitting on you and trying to get that fine jewish ass to move back to the east coast lol.

 

Fair enough. I don't like generalizations either.

 

LOL!

I'm a b-ball fan as you know, so I've always had an affinity for taller men and I have mentioned how I have dated short men as well, but right now, I'm comfortable with the range of 5'8 to 6'4...lol

Subtlenote, I think I might have something to add to the list...lol