Mental Attraction

It's hard to describe. Let's just say, I couldn't have someone set me up with a guy. It's just one of those, "You know it when you see it" kind of things...lol

 

Yeah, like your Betty Boop Avatar..

 

LOL....

I have to rep for the pale chicks with dark hair....

 

:smt112 :smt112 :smt079

 

Oh, you have NO idea...

 

oh, but Sir, i think i may know exactly...:mrgreen:

 

Indeed, it's interesting how one word can convey so much meaning.

 

yes Sir, it is interesting...very interesting :smt054

 

I agree. A vacuous hot woman is still... vacuous. And it's tough to have great sex with a person who you can't connect with. It's like being with a blow-up doll. Not that I know anything about that, mind you... lol

But there's something about me that has changed as well that has made the mental attraction more and more important over time.

Well said. I think most people can recall someone they were crazy about who wasn't necessarily the hottest person in the world but who just floated your boat, with great conversation, humor, intelligence, whatever.

 

That's not what I heard...!

I agree with you, Orejon. I don't think I was real superficial when I was younger, but looks were more important to me then. Now, they are definitely up there, but I also realize that a person can be sexier to me the more I connect with him.

 

physical atraction it is importan a lot to all ..when you see someone something on how that person look you do have to like to put your eyes on that person ..

 

Well, there was that one with the red lips making the 'O' shape, that one time on South Beach...lol

But I think you're right. You still have to have a basic sexual attraction to your partner, but the nitpicking you do as a young person expecting perfection (or as close as you can get to it) tends to modulate over time, into something a lot more realistic.

 

Eek! She looks a li'l rough! You can do better than that! LOL!

 

Wrong. I have never said that the men I dated were or could be models. I know who I've talked to and whom I've dated and none of them were the model type, nor would I wish them to be. I did say they were all good-looking, tall, and well-built - there's a difference.

Next you'll be telling me you know me better than I know myself.

 

Why is it so hard to believe that a 26-year-old, attractive and intelligent woman would leave a 26-year-old good-looking (much less intelligent) man?

I'm glad that I did it to this day - if I had stayed married to him I would be miserable. Good looks don't buy you happiness. He begged me to come back several times over a course of months, and even years later wanted to come see me, after he broke up with his second wife, but I refused.

Freedom, happiness, intellectual growth.... I could find those easier on my own. Don't call me a liar when you have no idea what I have been through.

 

Oh, you haven't had that privilege yet? Heck, I got that treatment when I was a newbie.

 

you better hope that gz or whatever he goes by these days, doesn't get wind that you're posting pics of his partner up everywhere

 

Physical appearance is a crucial factor when meeting someone you might want to date or pursue something, but looks can fade over time. Having said that, mental attraction more so than what people want to believe becomes utmost importance. Again, looks can fade, but mental attraction can grow as long as the person can keep the mind fresh and full.

 

He gets so jealous when others go after his "women".

 

lol...tell me about it. that man would put down his sprite and chicken to battle it out over one of them