Fatten Him Up

I don't think hollywood is the best place to get a comparison. Ultimately, Kirstie Alley had her own show based soley on the fact that she had gained so much weight. Weight gain and or loss is marketable in hollywood due to "Celebrity worship". I will agree that society itself puts more stress on overweight women than men. I am reminded of an episode of Family Guy where Peter is informed that he is overweight and he breaks down because it never occurred to him.

In regards to society vs. people (IE. Society's view on obesity and weight gain vs. the everyday person's opinion) I have found that Men and Women past certain ages care less (they still care, just nowhere near as much) about looks and more about other qualities. However, an extremely obese man or woman isn't the ideal partner for you or most people as you stated.

 

It's a reference point for an online forum that most members will be able to picture in their minds. How else would you ask I convey a visual? I could have used a couple of my friends but I doubt you know them. :smt042

 

I wasn't saying you were wrong, perse. Seeing as how the thread started with a hollywood comparison I felt the need to point that out. Didn't mean any disrespect.

 

True some women will overlook D'Angelo's flab because he is/was a popular musician and will not give the time of day to an average Joe. There are young women hanging around NFL stars who are chubby for the same reason.

 

TRUTH, and even deeper as much as women complain about body types and the influence on the media they are as much if not more of the problem. That is why see slim, sexy, women modeling Victoria secrets eve though, statically speaking there are more larger women in this country than ever before.

Even bigger women, find slim toned women attractive.

...and then the media for that attraction. Listen ladies and gentlemen, the media is going to show you and sell you what you buy.

 

Funny, when D'Angelo did that 'how does it feel' video, women was all on his nut sack. I haven't heard shit from women about him since he got a little chicken in his life.

And, I've seen plenty of men with big girls. Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't an entire stereotype started about BM going for bigger WW?

I think men and women are far more equal in terms of fitness expectations for their potential mates than you realize.

 

Amen. A lot of the women on here are lying thru their teeth and beyond hypocritical.

If you go in the Ladies Lounge, the only men they rub their pussies to are lean, cut, muscular/ripped men.

 

Not all of us. Sure, I enjoy the pix that are posted, but that's not what I'm drawn to in real life.

 

I'm not heavy, but I do need to lose some weight (though some people tell me I don't need to), but anyway, I am more attracted to guys who are on the thinner side. They don't have to necessarily be muscular (they could just be slim), but I don't find guys with guts on them sexy in any way.

I also love love love lean, muscular legs on men and you can't find that on bigger guys (usually). I've dated bigger guys in the past, though none were really THAT much bigger than they should be, but I like the look of chiseled cheekbones and lean, muscular legs and tight little tushies. :smt023

I also don't really understand the whole "teddy bear" attraction or feeling protected by bigger guys. :smt102

 

Damn I appreciate your honesty Bookie. Is that the type of guy your work crush is?

 

He's not muscular. But he is thin. He's 5'10"-5'11" and about 175 lbs. I can tell by the way his jeans lay when he walks that he has thin, well-defined thighs and I want nothing more than to rip those pants off and see them and touch them....LOL.

 

lol nice. Have you ever seen the women he normally dates?

 

I've seen a few of them. They were of average weight. As short or shorter than me.

 

Interesting. I was talking to one my clients about this very subject last week.

 

And?

Lol. You can't make such a generic yet slightly revealing statement like th:

 

Some people look better w some wight on them and some look better on the thin side.. One body type on all people just don't work. My X is 6'1" and he was 235 at his heaviest and about 200 at his thinnest. He simply didn't look good at 200, his face got weirdly gaunt at that weight so I really liked him at 230.
That may sounds like a lot on a 6'1" for some but although he was somewhat stocky, he was really wide and muscular so it wasn't like he was a big fat blob at that weight. Like I said, weight works different on different people.


The dude I dated after that had the exact same body type - muscular and very wide, but with some padding.

I do not have a specific body type I go for (a quick look at my X's say that, they have abslutely nothing in common look wise), but the thin waist all hard muscles work less for me than a big wide guy with some padding. Granted it can not be out-of shape padding, I do like muscles - just not the 3% body fat type.

 

lol sorry I wasn't trying to be passive. I don't normally reveal this on here but I started a side business over the summer where I write, create, and/or operate people's dating profiles on websites like okcupid, plentyoffish, and zoosk(mainly free dating sites) where I help people get the kind of men/women they want to date. I have a client who told me she wanted to start dating a higher caliber of men than she has normally dated in the past. She wanted more in shape successful men. For the purposes of this conversation I'll call her Linda. Linda is about 33 5'4 and roughly 200lbs yet she goes for guys usually over 6ft who look like what you described. I told her straight up that she wasn't going to find the kind of guy she was looking for if she wasn't willing to make some changes. At first she tried to argue because she felt that since she was an accomplished lawyer she should be able to find a man as successful who looks the way she wants. And the simple question I asked was look at the kind of women those kind of men date, do you resemble them? At first she tried to hide behind common excuses like "those women don't have kids so they have time to work out", "her boobs are totally fake you can tell", or my favorite "I wouldn't want a man shallow enough to require me to look like that".
I just find that a lot of my female clients are resistant to the fact that dating is a competition, not to be mistaken for love love is something you don't have to compete for, and if you want to have your pick you have to be at minimum as good as your competition or better.
I usually tell a lot of my male clients they should spend at least 3 months of working out and eating a low carb diet before putting themselves out there to date.
The only reason I bring it up is I notice a lot of women on here tend to go for men who aren't their physical equals (not a jab or an insult I promise. You're one of the few I like where as men tend to aim a little lower in terms of what they actually go for opposed to what they say they want. Like I said interesting,

 

The worst thing than being a fat man in the eyes of most women is being a fat short man, at least if you have a fit body and short you would get some play but a FAT guy wont get much play. I agree with iggy with the hypocrisy thing cus in the Men's Locker room thanks to the BlackBull, we have BBW thread can we say the same for the Ladies room? No. Another hypocritical statement by some ladies is " a big dick is nice to look at but size doesnt matter to me".

 

We have been through this before. You do have hot chicks all over the place, come on.
The big problem is that pictures of men is not easy to find.
You try... You simply cant find the same diversity of pictures of men as you can of women. As an example just as an exercise - Do a "hot women" search vs a "hot men" search and see what you get..... see what the diff in numbers are and how much of the "hot men" pics are geared towards gay men. I have done it a gazillion times. "hot women" search gets a lot of different types of women and about 100 times more pics than a "hot men" search that gives very little disparity and most of it geared towards gay men.

That is the biggest reason you dont see more pics of men on here. Take a look at the number of threads on women vs men... HUUUUGE diff. Huge. That should tell you something.

The day there is a more commercial need and access of pics of all sorts of men, that is the day we post them.

I also would like more women in this business as they are few and if they are in the business, they tend to work on women and not men. It is unfortunate.

Therefore, I say that the men on here needs to contribute to this lack of pictures on the net and give us girls pictures of men so that we can drool over.

 

I agree that its hard to find a diverse representation of men online but I will say this fat women usually don't like fat men so its difficult to think of hot women wanting fat men. And lets clarify what a fat guy is. Not these 6'5 linemen some of the women try to pass off as your average chunky guy I'm talking average height or shorter but very over weight like 50lbs + overweight. I'm not saying there aren't women who wouldn't date them after getting to know them but I have yet to witness any woman lusting for them the way I see some men lust for chunky women. Fat men aren't desired.