Divorce and Custody...

According to the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS), nearly 75 percent of all child custody awards are made to the mother. Only about 10 percent of child custody awards are made to fathers. The rest of the child custody awards involve some sort of joint custody arrangement.

Opinions?

 

Two choices.

1. A woman darn near has to kill her child for custody to be awarded to the father.

2. Men aren't shit.

Take your pick.

 

I'm sure a lot of the fathers got fucked on those rulings too. Asfar as how large of the group that got fucked, I don't know, but the courts be fucked up sometimes.

 

When a woman tells me she doesn't has custody of her child, I automatically assume that she is a life time fuck up.

 

#3. Some men don't want the responsibility fulltime. They would rather just have a few weekends a month. I have friends like that.

 

It wasn't all to long ago that fathers had all rights to children and were only awarded to the mother if he permitted.

I think it tough choice for anyone. Sometimes with mother is not the best place for child and she should not be awarded that right when it isn't. However when both mother and fathers home is both best for child really how are they to make that determination? IDK I kinda feel like moms does tend to be even better when their both good. Men and Women are different on many levels and I although I think the father is very important to the child I think the mothers role can even be even more of importance when it comes to in home. Most fathers are better at providing financially than providing emotional needs and in home needs. That's just my opinion. With that said my oldest son is being raised by his father being his primary care giver where our daughter is being raised by me as the primary care giver. A court did not award this it was agreed upon by us.

 

I don't have primary custody of my son. I DO have custody of my other 5 children. Me and my x husband had 2 children together. I raised both for the first 7 years in which he was 3 when our on/off relationship ended. His father has raised him from 7 to his current age of 13. We have shared custody of both our children but he is primary for son and I'm primary for daughter.

 

Cue goodlove in 3...2...1...

 

You know it.

 

Ideally, I think custody should be joint if both parents want it, and they live in close proximity to each other. In any case, when total custody is given to one parent, the custodial parent should make it as easy as possible for the non-custodial parent to have access to the children. Parents shouldn't have to go to court to have access to their children unless they are a threat (deemed so by professionals, not a bitter spouse) to their welfare. I don't even understand how a parent can refuse access and get away with it.

As to whether the custodial parent should be the mother or the father, I think it depends on who can best provide for the child in all areas: emotionally, financially, spiritually, etc, and also, who wants to parent more? Maybe mom's career keeps her away from the family but dad's schedule is more conducive to family life. Or dad, much as he loves his kids, wouldn't feel comfortable in the single parent role. I think women, in general, are more nurturing, and more likely to be the suitable custodial parent, but that shouldn't be the assumption in every situation.

 

Hope that's not meant in a mean way...

 

sure...the other thing people would hate to talk about the obstinate mother and the court system that really dont execute the laws like they are suppose to and lastly, like another person stated ....the mother would have to be a damn murderer with a crack addiction before they consider the father.

we all say fathers are important but tell that to the courts and the mother...oh wait child support

 

of course. I brought this issue up before and they think that its all good in the hood when it comes to divorce.

these fools watch oprah too much

 

Very sensitive issue for me of late, my best friend just moved out and is divorcing his wife (I introduced them 18 years ago). When it comes to marriage I counsel all of my friends to truly choose wisely, there are always exceptions, but as a lawyer I can say without a doubt that the odds are stacked against fathers in divorce court.

I always mention the scene below (only partially tongue in cheek) as to what will happen to men in particular (or anyone with substantial assets) in divorce court if poor choices in a mate are made.


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thank you. they act as tho we are screaming about UFO's here. we arent saying women shouldnt have rights but dont dismiss men . also exercise the law and a lot of shit that happens will not happen.

 

This reminds me of a documentary I saw.

 

really. what happen in it or at least tell us what you gathered from it.

what do you think would happen if the justice system actually exercised contempt of court for not allowing people to see their kids or any other actions that goes against the divorce decree?

 

I think it was done by Janks Morton (the Documentary). To be honest I don't know. I believe the courts favor the parents coming to an agreement on their own. Unfortunately, it is very easy for some to lie and attain full custody. What I do know is that many an economist has said that divorce positively affects the economy. So, I can only assume that nothing will change. I am actually more interested in the feminist opinion on this subject, since by definition feminism is gender-equality.

 

LOL. the feminist....oh boy

as far as the economy....I dont know about that. I can see why they would say it because the courts and atty would benefit.

the problem would be the regular people. they would not have the money to push the economy and get out of debt to spend more money. I can see their point tho.


its also been said if you have a good marriage that it is good for the economy also

 

It can go either way. Ultimately, society is still backwards and as far as gender-equality goes, this is one of many places where men are oppressed.