I love good looking black men!

wat are you whining about

you passed the 'Brown Bag' test

 

Im the same - I simply dont get it. We have racism in Australia, yes. But for me, growing up in Melbourne, my friends were all colours and all races and it has never, ever been an issue.

Today, the vast majority of my friends are in mixed-race r/ships.

Aboriginals are simply not part of main-stream society. I have never, ever had one as a friend, gone to the same school, or even been in the same shopping centre. While this may sound offensive, it is true. I suspect if you were to go to Northern Australia, you would find the scenario very different. But I think Im right in assuming most of the WW on here are from the southern states, where their experience may well have been the same as mine.

That said, I now live in London, and here as well, mixed race r/ships are very much commonplace. In fact, interestingly, I watched the Mixed Britannia doco today (which is amazing) and learnt that IR have history in Britain dating back to 1910.

Just my thoughts...

 

Hahah Petty, Im a girl see - we can whine about anything, anytime, anyplace. We are versatile

 

i do love a tan on ww

I remember when this new girl at work came back from vacation with a tan, all the brothas were mackin' her:shock: (true story)

 

After a very bad sunburn in my early 20's I gave up the tan look entirely. This way I might stay fish belly white, but I don't have to adjust my wardrobe and my makeup to meet whatever level of burnt/tanned/peeling I am!

 

It's a long one...came in to the debate late. Heh.

Oh dear. Word of advice - dont ever marry. No one likes a mama's boy. And it is not a compliment, in reference to your comment where you said you're proud of it. There is loving and respecting your Mother. And then there is being a mama's boy. The two are not the same and the latter is extremely unattractive in a man.

I would never, ever date a man who did not love his mother and respect her and look after her as much as she might need.

That said, if we were to marry and have a family and his MOTHER would still have greater say in his life, which directly effects me and my children, than I would as his life partner and mother of his kids, I would high-tail it out of there and let the boy marry his mama. Marriage should be a partnership, involving working together to create a family, which is hopefully as loving and supportive as what you had as a kid.

Im blessed to have amazing parents, who even though they split up, still loved me the best they could with what they had and worked their asses off to make a life in Australia. I had a happy childhood. And I love my parents more than anyone or anything. If ANYONE ever hurt either of them, there is NOTHING I would not do to protect or avenge them. But, my love for my parents (I do not love my Mother or Father more, I love them both equally as I think all children should) is not the same as the love for my partner. The two can co-exist very peacefully. And they should. There should not be a situation of having to choose one over the other because they should never conflict. They are different. If you have loving, supportive, understanding parents then what they want for you should never conflict with your r/ship (assuming your partner is not a nutter) and the same for your partner. They should not conflict with your family (assuming your family arent bonkers of course)....

Co sign.

Every relationship takes work. I wasnt always a perfect child and my parents had to work on me to make me a better person and educate me and raise me right. I had to work on myself to be better to my parents and to communicate with them as an adult (once I wasnt a petulant child any longer).

They come from a different generation and b/c I am 100% honest with my folks, sometimes my views or desires in life can conflict with their own views or what they want for me. It takes work on both our parts to meet in the middle and understand each other.

Love is unconditional, yes. But all relationships take work, no matter who they are with, be it friends, family, work, acquaintances etc. IMO they all take one form of working at it or another b/c all humans are different and so there always has to be mutual understanding to make things go smoothly.

Just my thoughts..

 

I know its late there so i'll let you reread the quote you commented on and then reply again since I did say the minute a woman is the mother of my children she becomes more important than my mom only second to our kids.

I disagree that all relationships are work. At this point all my relationships are as effortless as breathing for me.

 

Hahah yeh I did misread that a tiny bit - I still dont think your mother should come before your wife. Period. For the reasons I outlined. Your r/ship and your love for your mother is (and damn well should be) completely different and separate to that for your wife. The two should not ever be in conflict. If they are then either the r/ship with your mother or that with your wife is 'not quite right'....

 

I guess for me order of importance comes down to who I trust most and just because I share a bed a few memorable moments wont gain my trust. Like I said I've seen far too much to believe romantic love is dependable. Its fun and has a lot of benefits but its not something that can be counted on. I just lean towards the things and people I've always been able to trust.

 

As Swirl posted earlier, I am beginning to understand where you're coming from a bit better. However. I will say that if you continue to have the attitude towards romantic relationships that you do, it might be really difficult for you to find someone who you could trust not to walk away. Romantic love and commitment within a marriage doesn't just happen. Both are choices we make. But if you go in with the attitude that its going to fail, it likely will.

 

Well think about this my friend. I'm sure all the divorced couples of the world went into optimistic hoping for the best. Every man and woman who was ever cheated on trusted their partner completely as well. I'm not saying its impossible just not likely and right now in my mind all a woman can do for me is help me raise a couple of kids. Outside of that I have support and love in other areas.

 

Yep, I was that starry-eyed bride that thought it wouldn't happen to me. But it did and in a really messy way. (And unfortunately, he went on to destroy a second marriage and his career.) But I don't assume that all men are cheaters, and that the next guy is going to do the same thing or that because one marriage failed, the next one will too.

Having said that, if that's all you've known much of your life, I guess I can understand why you see things the way you do. I just suspect there won't be women lining up to be "number 2" or "mother of your kids."

I feel sad that you look at things the way you do, but it is what it is and nothing we say is likely to change it.

 

Looks like you are more into biracial men.
Now, I don´t see a problem with that- I, myself, think that most of the pictures you posted are of very attractive men.
I think the character Avery from Greys Anatomy is steaming!
It seems as if there have been many problems on this platform in the past about calling biracial men black men. What happens if you openly talk about biracial men? The decription "biracial" comes often with a lot of haters because it feels as if you would just talk about a mixed dog..
I believe whenever there are conversations about race, it is really easy to choose the wrong vocabular and thus create a big fight.
I don´t have any problem at all talking about the fact that I live with a BM and openly answer questions asked from people in my surroundings. Sometimes people ask if there has been a lot of racism.. I think that is just out of curiousity. I have no problem about him talking about me being white and I have no problem about talking having biracial kids someday....but that is me.

 

Ches, you need to write a book. This is a flat out great post.

 

I love good looking black men too.. it doesn't matter to me if he's mulatto, bi-racial, dark complected, light skinned, brown, etc, as long as he has a handsome face, a confident demeanor, and a sweet, funny, and romantic side

 

Hi! My name is Sonny.

 

Nice to meet you Sonny I'm Viviane but some people call me Viv for short

 

Thanks, Sonny. I appreciate the compliment.

 

Even though it had nothing to do with what we were talking about lol