I love good looking black men!

yep...he refrained from having a tantrum and eluded to the fact that he is getting laid...it's probably not true...he didn't stop in random conversation and make a statement about it earlier so it didn't happen...isn't that what he told the huntress when she said she was seeing someone...lmfao

nice try though...in case you all haven't noticed...flaming is now restricted...birds of a feather flock together...

 

you also were splitting hairs about these men being light skinned...mulatto...bi-racial...just own it DK...

sounds like you are the one that is bitter kid:mrgreen:

 

That's your belief and your choice, I simply disagree. I never intend to marry again so it's completely moot to me, but if marriage did interest me, I wouldn't marry a man who thought as you do. I truly believe that if the person you want to marry will always be second to your mother, then that's not the person for you, as I think the right person would change your perspective on that, as they should. I've witnessed entirely too many marriages that failed because of familial interference, and frankly a marriage is no one's business but the two people in it. I was raised to hold family as the most important people in my life, but the person you choose to marry becomes your family, and they take precedence over your parents, siblings, and so on.

But I suspect there are a fair number of people, men and women, who think as you do, I'm just not one of them. So we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one.

 

Oh no, flamer in lock down, again?? so who would be hurling out insults & policing folks then, lol. This place won't be the same with out that Houstoner, lol

 

So no BM bought that song?

 

I love my mother to death, but my wife will be unequivocally number 1, especially a good wife that gets your back that is nutin but Numero uno in my book.

 

We sent it back to the record company, ain't trying to hear that white bullshit.

 

I'm still obsessing over your balls.

 

I never said it doesn't happen just less likely. A man or woman will cut ties from a spouse far quicker than they would a child. And if you left out the number of single mothers who were never married to the father I think the rate of men who leave would much much less.

 

Freddy would be honored to step up to the plate and walk around the block a few times in brother FH's shoes. I see that he got ganged up on like they tried to do Freddy a couple days ago over some silly gif, but Freddy don't play that shit. I'm ready to go down swingin' on these fools.

 

Why are you here? *sigh*

 

This must be a fallout from the personal attacks thread. I read Flaming's most recent replies and he said nothing of the sort that would have gotten him restricted in the past.

This thread is a mess, btw.

 

That was the point I guess lol. Its been said before and i'll say it again. Nothing like bw and weight to get this place in an uproar lol.

 

nothing wrong to love and care about your mother a lot andhave her
as number 1
as long a man can make both women ...mother and wife... feel both are number 1

 

I'm not someone who believes that way. My spouse will ALWAYS be the number one person in my life, I chose her to be a part of my life so I can't see it any other way. My spouse becomes my family, and my loyalty and commitment is to my spouse, period.

As far as children, children are a product of my marriage with my spouse. I owe my children an obligation to provide for them, love them, protect them and be there for them. But, I wouldn't put my children ahead of my spouse though, ever. In the end, children leave at some point and will have their own families as their priority. However, my spouse is there by my side for life, ideally.

 

oh snaps

dont do it, son

 

and yet the same people dont say shit about that

 

id rep you again but im all out

 

Exactly and I see the contrary on a regular basis. Familial love never seems to fade but that romantic love takes "work"(at least that's what I hear). Interesting how one comes effortlessly and naturally while the other requires conscious effort. I'm not saying it isn't worth pursuing or that I wouldn't be open to it myself but I recognize what it is for most people. You can be the most loving and honest person with your spouse but it doesn't mean you'll stay together forever where as family works totally different. I can not talk to my brothers or my sister for months and when we talk its like no time has passed at all. The other night I skyped with my nephew and it was a pure joy just to hear about his life and what he wanted out of the future. Maybe I've never been in love but I don't get the same fulfillment from significant others. I enjoy being with them but the relationships seem so fragile, it takes so little for people to just up and leave not to mention the violence people exact on those they supposedly love is astounding. The fact that the first suspect in a murder is always the spouse says a lot to me. Not saying people never kill family members because I know some simpleton will twist my words into that but it doesn't happen nearly as frequently.

 

Fair enough Esp but I'd be more than happy to change your mind :smt058