A little question for DK and those who buy his theory

http://whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showpost.php?p=590578&postcount=40

Please read this particular post. Everyone has a different envision of what is and isn't attractive. Nobody has a universal appeal to themselves.

And yes, you are right, they don't have to be. But at least I made a friend and the friend is a white woman who is not overweight or in the 40-50 year old age range. That's my point. The point I'm trying to make is that if only those types of WW find BM desirable, wouldn't BM only be "friends", with those type of WW as well?

 

bolded part is completely unrelated to anything I've said & I'm well aware people have different views of attractive.

Thanks for the clarification in the second paragraph though, that actually makes sense now you've elaborated and is a good point well made

 

Thanks. The other concern that I have (and I stated this before) is that our country's society has a tendency of being materialistic and judgemental. Those outside influences put pressure on us, especially when other people perceive there's a "mismatch" between two people who like each other and are in a relationship. I read Chesbay's post (#61) and I agree/understand it, I'm just saying that some people in society use our preferences as a means to belittle and degrade us. That is the underlying concern. We don't live in a utopia anyway, so perhaps the conflict is an inherent one that won't go away.

Edit: Chesbay, you can have your preferences and I'm not criticizing you for it, but just keep in mind that American society, quite frankly, sucks. I have read stories on another site saying that a couple had to terminate their interracial relationship due to pressure from society and it wasn't only because of race, it was because of what the couple looked like. I can't remember what site I read it on but the poster was from a wealthy suburb in New Jersey. With Jersey Shore and the heavy MTV influence there, it's probably understandable why their relationship failed.

 

You mean the black man that was embarrassed about being possibly labeled a sell out, not black enough, hating his skin color, can't be seen with the white devil, etc.

He is someone who was indecisive in following his own path and needed the validations and affirmations of those around him, incapable of asserting himself in his life choices.

In life to varying degrees we acquiesce to social norms and expectations centered around certain subject matters.

I don't think anyone you date prior is necessarily moot, I think it gives an insight into your interests, desires and qualities in a partner.

You are investing time in that person to see what they are about as a potential mate in life, when it comes to relationships.

I don't think that can be just dismissed out of hand.

It often reflects what you are about in your personal life.

 

this is a serious topic...... 15 pages in 24 hours..... shit. this hit a nerve

 

LOL, personally I love me some mature white women, it all depends on how they carry themselves as a woman. If they are appealing its cool in my book.

 

Listen, Oedipus, let's get one thing straight. You keep talking like you know something, and the fact of the matter is, in 30 years you don't know shit.

You have a worse attitude than most high school boys when it comes to the things that don't matter. I think Pixie's whole purpose was to understand where your horseshit comes from.

 

in 30 more years he'll be as old as you

 

With the way you and DK spin your 'poor me' stories, I think you'd better look in the mirror.

Awww, look. The kids are playing in the sandbox together.Soooo cuuuute the way they puff their chests and stick out for each other. Ya'll gonna give each other a blowjob next?

Petty, stay out of this. This is between DK and me.

At 30 years old, he hasn't done shit, has said as much, and whines about the lack of things he's gotten done, and the lack of money, and prances around this forum making grand soliloquies on all of the things he supposedly KNOWS- without any facts or rationale to back them up. He's just spouting bitterness.

I don't think you can take the word of someone in his situation as the be all and end all of the bullshit. I never said I was either, but I'll be goddamned if he thinks he is going to set the gold standard on anything. He degrades anyone he doesn't agree with, and tries to belittle anyone who doesn't subscribe to his sexist horseshit (and the irony OF THAT is not lost on me).

If anyone in this place needs prozac, well, I'd say he needs to look in the fucking mirror.

 

Now here is a serious ass topic to be discussed




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Im mean ass in every sense of the word

 

too young

got anything older

:smt101

 

I think people are threatened (and I use that term loosely) by things that are different than what we perceive to be "normal." We feel uncomfortable. A young person can't conceive that people twice their age (old enough to be their parents) can be sexy or alluring, particularly to someone their age. I'm sure my son would have an issue with that. He would also consider it really weird if I were attracted to a man his age.

The same feeling of discomfort lies at the root of racial discrimination. We have a notion of what is "normal." If you've been raised to believe that your race is superior and another inferior, or that races are not to mix, you will be uncomfortable when faced with anything that flies in the face of that notion of normal. And we tend to lash out at things that make us uncomfortable.

The question I have is why does it make you uncomfortable? For the younger BM who are uncomfortable with the idea of one of your peers dating an older WW? For thosewho are uncomfortable thinking of an attractive BM dating a thick woman? Why is this such an issue? What would you say to someone who is uncomfortable with your choice to date a WW?
As one gets older, looks, weight, color become less important. Younger people wont understand that until you are older.

 

hell fucking with that will take years off my life. that mofo will send me back to infancy

 

Oh, goody, you make me laugh. Thanks for the comic relief.

 

hell knock the dust off a woman twice my age when I was in college. shiiiit that puddy was a motherfucker

 

LOL. gotta do it

 

dont know if that's a good thing.....

you couldnt get girls in college that were your own age or what?