A little question for DK and those who buy his theory

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and for the record, some women actually *are* sexier after 30. It has to do with confidence and how you carry yourself. Not to mention that some of the trifling behavior of men doesn't get under your skin as much, you just keep on doing your thing. Probably a big reason why the young guys like the older women so much - they are mystified by our calm demeanor, when women their age are biting their nails and getting themselves all tied up in knots over some dude, older women are far more serene.

 

:smt036:smt036:smt036 Mostly because we just don't give a shit.

 

Pixie raised the bar.

 

You read my mind, Pixie. :smt081

 

I'm not saying that older women can't be approached by younger men and I'm not saying everyone who does is homely but I will say this and disagree if you want. Men generally go younger ESPECIALLY those who have the options to pick what they want. I know there's some type of cougar revolution but men being the visual creatures that we are generally seem to prefer younger tighter bodies and smoother less wrinkled faces. And if I'm alone on this then please explain the billions spent on anti aging products.
I'm going to say this in closing, I never said nor am I saying that women after a certain age aren't desirable nor am I saying there aren't young men who don't want them but I am saying more often than not I do see ww more bold and forward with young in shape bm opposed to their white counter parts. Interesting to me.

 

I really hope all that ass kissing works out for you fam. Real talk.

 

Keep chasin' those 23 year olds.

 

This is not a phenomenon I have seen. As I said before, race apparently doesn't come into play one way or another - I've been pursued by both black and white younger men - in fact, more often by white men. I don't think I'm some "special snowflake." I'm pretty average.

 

lmao he'd like that since he's not getting any pussy lately

 

Stand by your man.

 

Thanks love! :heart:

And this is no different for many women. Healthy, vibrant 30/40/50+ something women that are financially successful and have their heads on straight are actually quite attractive to a wide range of men. We too have options and can pick what we want in a man whether he's white, black or spotted.

I have had more young wm hit on me than bm, as if that sets any sort of scientific standard in this discussion lol. :smt042

EDIT: I actually don't know why I am getting involved in this conversation because I really don't care what anyone thinks of me or my mate choice...

 

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I think that many people have expressed sentiments that represent the feelings of most about this issue. In the end, the choice is personal and I agree with JC that it shouldn't matter to anyone other than the two people in the relationship.

Having said that, I may be wrong, but I believe that some young black men, like men of all races, wish that they could have the "ideal" woman, that young hot firm bodied hottie. They look around them and see white men who they consider "average" with those hotties they would like in their lives. So, there's a bit of jealousy and it's blamed on race. The real answer is much more simple, people are attracted, in general, to people of their own race in this country. So, this exaggerated view of their "supposed" plight is no difference than the racists exaggerate and say that black women are stealing all the white women. One of the results of these feelings is a "rejection" of ALL women who don't represent that ideal, and that includes older WW.

There're older WW who are exception and I'm sure make great partners for younger BM, just as some older BM make great partners for younger WW or any women. The dynamics are as diverse as the people involved, ego fulfillment, hopes of great sex, fetishism, or just plain attraction to someone who has the qualities he or she desires in a partner.

 

Well your girl is great at sucking dick what can I say playa

 

Wish more adults felt that way. As long as its true to you kid.

 

Thank you Swirl, for taking my question seriously and proposing some actual answers.

I have to say that generally straight men are not very good at judging male attractiveness - studies I've read say that in general women consider themselves less attractive than they are, and men consider themselves more attractive than they are. Which would explain too why some guys who haven't a snowball's chance in hell of getting with a particular women nonetheless reach way out of their league.

 

This.^

Pixie, have I told you lately that I love you?

Seriously, this is what has me laughing about men every day. Men approaching me that don't wouldn''t have a chance in hell, and then there's the flip side, knowing I'm far too hard on myself, and wouldn't approach a man that is aesthetically similar to me because he thinks he's a dime and is holding out for a super model LMAO.

 

And you're in a position to judge what's in someone's reach? Especially when women generally claim to be less about physical appearance.
And I notice how a lot of you like to operate in major extremes(not you in particular but women on the board). I'm betting there's the thought that men on here think they deserve a model when they aren't models themselves but its more like finding a woman who you are physically attracted to who is within a decent age range to you and someone who is on your level income wise/education wise.

And as far as judging male attractiveness I'll say this maybe guys can't judge what's attractive facially but I do notice stature and when you see a girl who you've seen generally date guys who are short and skinny but when she gives the black guy a chance he's a physical speciman you do have to say WTF.

 

Much like the bs you often post about the kind of men you expect and attract lol.

Again there isn't an eye roll big enough

 

I've always dated good-looking men and I'm not going to stop any time soon. One thing I've noticed as I get a little older is that black men tend to age a little better, so it's more likely that I'm going to keep meeting fit black men as I get older. It's not about age for me, it's about attractiveness. Whoever is still attractive, as I age, is who I'm going to date. I'm not sure where you get your idea that women claim to be less interested in looks.

Women like pretty things, decorating their homes, cute babies, kittens, puppies, flowers, going "awwwww" and cuddling, stroking things, all based on appearance of beauty - they spend hours trying to look beautiful, and it's not all just for you, it's for themselves and each other - they notice what's beautiful far more than you do. They KNOW what's good-looking. They WANT a good-looking man - it's just in the long run a lot of women will settle for a not-so good-looking man if it means they will be treated well, because pretty men can often be arrogant and cruel. Trust me, women LOVE a good-looking man - how do you think those pretty boys got so stuck-up in the first place?

So get it out of your head that women don't care about looks - they do. They are just willing to sacrifice looks for not being treated like shit.

I've seen some good-looking guys walking around with some pretty fugly looking fat/chunky women and was like WTF??? Same principle there - not every guy is as caught up on looks as you are.

I happen to be a woman who cannot tolerate an unattractive man - I would rather be alone than settle for Mr. Average.