I agree. The 'fake hair' industry is big in Kenya too. LOL When I lived over there last year nearly every woman I saw or met had a (often very fake looking) wig. BUT the ones who rocked their natural hair looked amazing. I think it's the same situation as the 'he should love me for who I am inside' thing. How dare anyone not be attracted to her for her inner-self alone, because men aren't allowed to have an opinion (or preference) on a woman's physical features. :| :smt042:smt042
My exact sentiments. It boils down to some men don't care, some do. If that is what they like, that is what they like. There is no 1 track mentality on something like this subject. Men all have different tastes, because he is the "old spice guy" I guess he can't state his tastes. Would not surprise me the least if quite a few of those women who have an issue with his sentiments don't even wear their own natural hair devoid of a weave or wig. What does that say. I just don't get that mindset.
We all have physical features that are just going to be as they are. My hair is stick straight. I couldn't get it to stay curled if I stood with my finger in a light socket. I spent years trying to coax it, but in the end, hell, I have straight hair. Who cares? I wore it long for a number of years, and I wear it short now because it's easier and I think I'd look silly as hell with waist or hip length hair now. Work with what you've got - enhance it, don't try to change its nature or cover it up.
I don't get it either. I think it's sad. I mean, yes, everyone (female AND male) gets a bit sad, jealous or annoyed when someone they're attracted to (even the out-of-reach celeb) isn't attracted to them, but so what? They have a mind of their own. LOL I say, stop whining and move on.
Absolutely concur, some folks can keep perspective and others are so star struck that they lose sight of reality. A woman has the choice to to wear a wig, weave, go bald, however she chooses to have her hair that is on her. That doesn't mean someone else won't have a preference in said woman. If she is confident and secure in herself what does what he said or any other person so noteworthy about. Is it really that important to their self esteem.
I think that is all fine and good, however I'd be remiss if I didn't acknowledge that what this particular man said plays up on historical racial inferiority complexes amongst Blacks. Whether it be ads for skin-lightening, or that doll test where young black children picked the White doll as beautiful over the identical Black doll, there is an obvious deification of Whites via ALL world media. Non-Whites are under-represented in such roles, and in the various media, simply relegated to comedic venues or supporting character roles. Even in other countries with a predominately non-White population, Whites are still elevated to the role of savior in their media portrayal. Look at Japan, when is the last time you actually saw Anime with characters that look remotely Japanese? We are constantly hit over the head with the notion that White is beautiful. Period. If you have a particular preference there is nothing wrong with that, but when you start using labels like "Good" hair is what Whites have, and of course "Bad" hair is the opposite, i.e. Black hair, you really are playing into a slave mentality, and revealing an inherent inferiority complex that has haunted Blacks for generations. I think terms like "good" and "bad" need to be left out of the equation, but of course, growing up in the Black community, I know this is simply wishful thinking. I am sure you know this, but it still needed to be said. - Daft
I agree with everything you said here.A funny thing my wife(who is Eritrean or horn of African) went to a black beauty salon the other day, while the lady was doing her, she mentioned how she admired my wife hair texture and mentioned that she has good hair, meaning her hair is not coarse. Since my wife has a understanding of American culture, She said and straight to the other women eyes "Dear there is no such thing as good hair, your hair is either Afro, straight, curly, wavy or a combination of those different hair textures, God made all hair textures, therefore all textured hair is good in God eyes. I think the girl understood what my wife meant, by that statement. However, sometimes my wife really surprise me with her witty replies at time. I really have a good woman.
I think it's a misconception that 'good' hair = white people hair. In my opinion, good hair is hair that's not killed off with chemicals, weaves and such. Natural, well taken care of, hair is 'good' hair. Even white people hair can be worse than bad. I don't know what he meant by 'good' hair and no one else does. To say that we know exactly what this guy meant by 'good' hair is just jumping to conclusions and of couse everyone always jumps to the 'it's racist' conclusion.
....noooooo in America good hair is white people hair aka hair that has your texture coarse African hair is considered bad, but that's just because white people have dominated so long with their views now people are starting to embrace traits associated with blacks, like thicker lips and more shapely bottoms
Remember the don imus nappy headed hoes incident? That's the kind of treatment we have endured for centuries, making us feel inferior in all aspects
Never heard of it. I don't understand what "nappy headed" means. Here in Australia 'nappy' is the name for a diaper.