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Or they are really picky and looking for something specific. I know I got slews of responses when I joined a site like that, and out of about 60 emails only *one* was of any interest at all. The rest of them were either Nice Guys <tm> (you know the kind I mean), boring as hell, had canned responses or clearly had not read what I had posted on my profile.

 

Yes! My ultimate pet peeve when I was on a dating site was getting asked stuff that made it clear they didn't read my profile.

And responses like "wuts up grl? ur cute".

Hell no.

 

One out of 60? That sounds incredibly improbable but fair enough. I gotta ask what exactly do you mean by picky? That's always baffled me as a concept.

Outside of physical attraction and some common interests what else plays such a large role in the decision making process

 

I saw the DPG. Her dust bunnies had me screeching in delight.

 

AGREED!!!!!

 

U don't count cuz ur not single and hot

nice try tho

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't be a dick.

 

Beauty yes hotness is pretty much universal(what you like from first sight only) don't believe me check out the HOT black men thread. Its pretty redundant b-)

 

Beauty yes hotness is pretty much universal(what you like from first sight only) don't believe me check out the HOT black men thread. Its pretty redundant ;-)

 

Or simply just not have enough time or opportunity to meet men due to workload. A lot of people are using the OL dating as a weeding out process as they have very little time to go out and meet the same number of people they can communicate OL with.

If you love attention and is on dati9ngsites for that, then your not serious w ol dating anyhow but that goes for both men and women but is clearly easy to spot. Crazies, not so muc. LOL


It has been show that internet dating is more and more used by professionals that don't have time or perhaps have very little opportunity to meet people. And it is growing.

 

Possibly. There are a ton of teachers and social workers on there. That actually seems to be the norm as far as single women with occupations go. But to me online dating is way more superficial than the traditional way of doing it. Many people treat it like shopping. It seems to be way more about finding someone who looks good on paper than actually meeting a cool person to connect with. I actually have to agree with something many of you have said in the past. You just have to go out there and meet people. In my experience OL is awesome for hook ups but I have yet to find a woman of substance on there. In fact the best relationships I had was when I met girls in undergrad and doing music.

 

How to explain this? Well, the guy who *did* interest me had clearly paid attention to my profile, not only read what I'd said, but was smart enough to read between the lines and make some on target assumptions. He responded to me as a person, not a generic "you look very nice, let's chat," or "Ur hawt lets have coffee and see where it goes."

Sometimes you think these guys send the same generic form email to any woman whose appearance doesnt scream BEAST!

 

I'm single, and some men seem to find me reasonably attractive. No, I'm not 22. But then I'm far better in bed than your average 22 year old.

 

With some men, dick is all they've got. As I've said before, length and girth are nice, but if you're missing depth, it's a waste of inches.

 

ahahahahahahaha Best quote I have heard in a while! Bravo madame! Bravo!

 

Wow it is all just a game of impresses you the most lol. I myself have done the generic message too but for one reason. We are visual creatures all of us and what I say its as important as how I look and what I do for a living(for most women)
the bottom line is is if someone is interested they don't care a lot about what you said in your first message just as long as you can maintain a decent convo.
As its ben stated before in another thread we don't respond to messages we respond to profiles.

 

Thank you, thank you

 

I tried to rep you on that one but I still need to spread it around! I find that so difficult lol

 

LOL That's ok, I owe you several, Chai!

 

Seriously,
Its not a game. I think most people that are NOT looking for a hook-up want something written to read. - the whole point is to have something to read on the profile so you can make some sort of assumption... If you have not even bothered to read my profile, I'm not going to respond. If I am dating OL, which I haven't done for quite some time. I actually bother to read the profile because for me, its a combination of picture and message on their profile. If a guy has zero written on his profile, then I will not bother either.


It has nothing to do with wanting to be impressed, it has to do with making an effort.. not the aim because dude has thirst and any woman will do.