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http://loop21.com/content/white-mom-talks-creating-site-help-black-daughters-hair

can you identify with them ?

what do you think of the article over all ?

 

I thought it was a great article. The author is sharing her experiences and what works/what doesn't with others who have sought her advice. I can't say I identify with her because I haven't adopted or raised a black child, but if I had (or would in the future), her advice would be invaluable.

 

Seriously?:

:smt011

Anyway, I don't have any children, but I'm sure her help could be useful if someone needs more than to just Google something or for some reason doesn't have any BW relatives or friends to ask.

 

Women like that always have me scratching my head. You have a child/children with a black man/men but are not on any friendly terms with any black people not even relatives of your child/children's father/fathers?

 

I can see what you are saying but sometimes having a person to show you face to face is better than reading about how to do something. also something may come up at that moment where you may need that immediate response .

 

well sometimes believe it or not there are people who will alientae you because you date outside your race and then a person may adopt and may not have any black friends so they may be ass out. also they may live in germany and it would be hard to connect like that. but i get your point

 

Yeah, IKR.
I could understand it for couples who adopted like the ones in the article. Just since that the OP was asking people HERE, ya know. But yeah, I'd be scratching my head if that were the case too.

 

I think you'd get a response faster if you Googled something than waiting for some other person to reply to it, but that's just me (I'm an excellent information finder) and whether you're reading it from Google or reading it from her website - you're still reading what to do from a website either way. Hell! Maybe by Googling you'd also be reading her website as a search result, heh. I agree it'd be better to have a person show you face to face, that's why I mentioned BW relatives and friends.

Anyway, I like her idea and all that, but I probably wouldn't use it is all I'm saying.

 

I know more than a few people who fit this particular situation, but even so they still know and are on friendly terms with a few black people. Something is seriously off if you are dating and having children with black men but do not know or are on friendly terms with any black people. Sorry for the little rant. Back on topic now.

 

LOL. Im a terrible research person when it comes to the net....LOL. Yeah, I agree to a point that it would be odd about not having BW friends but I wouldnt be surprised. I just dont overall see why you should depending on the situation

 

yeah I feel you. I guess they would probably have some trepidations because of the alienation from the family. you get what Im trying to say

 

But, if they are white adoptive parents (as it appears to be in this case), they truly may not have any close BW friends and, most likely, no black relatives.

 

yeah, with that in mind it maybe hard to connect with people of another color to address such issues.

 

I believe Ra understands that. We were talking about what more likely would be the situation for the people who are on this website because the OP was asking us if we (people of this website) could identify. Sorry for any confusion. Unless there are two white parents here wanting to adopt a black child. :smt102

 

yeah, I dig what you are saying. I THINK we are missing each other in that we maybe talking different scenerios.

 

Adoption issues are one thing. No problems with that from that perspective. I was just speaking more in terms of actually being involved in any interracial relationships with black men and having kids. That's why I said never mind my rant and carry on with the topic at hand.

 

This. :mrgreen:

 

So what were you trying to ask when you made this thread?

 

Sorry, Ra, if I misunderstood. Certainly, if I had children with a black man, I would seek out the expertise of friends/relatives, particularly on this subject as black hair is quite different from my hair.

 

At the end of the day it's all gonna be trial and error. Black hair comes in many different forms and so does biracial hair, and even white hair. I didn't hesitate to ask bw for advice when my oldest biracial child was little but I didn't really get any good advice. I've got the best advice online. Not really advice though I just read articles, recommendations and that sort of thing. To date my favorite hair product for my daughter is mixed chicks. My favorite for my son is Curls. I would like to try out Miss Jessies products one day but I have not yet but they have a good rep. My favorite website for hair styling ideas is this one. http://beadsbraidsbeyond.blogspot.com/